How to deal with smart mother-in-law easily

It is best to have a certain distance between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. This distance is not psychological, but geographical. Living separate

How to deal with smart mother-in-law easily

It is best to have a certain distance between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. This distance is not psychological, but geographical. Living separately can avoid many contradictions and problems in details. But the daughter-in-law must respect her mother-in-law, treat her with courtesy, always greet and care, and do her duty.

It is said that it is difficult for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, especially the daughter-in-law in the southern city meets the shrewd mother-in-law in the north. Mo Yan, a girl from Hangzhou, met such a mother-in-law. But after several moves by her, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law got along well. Mo Yan said that it was the shrewd mother-in-law who exercised her emotional intelligence.

After 80s, Mo Yan graduated from University for several years, but he was nervous. He has been spoiled since childhood and can't wash clothes. I usually sleep until noon 1 1 on weekends or holidays, and continue to sleep after lunch.

Husband is her colleague, two years older than her, from the north, older, but smart. The biggest feature is filial piety (fear of his mother).

Besides, Mo Yan's mother-in-law is also quite smart. Legend has it that there is a capitalist's little daughter, who is in her fifties and still looks like a woman of thirty (it is said that this kind of mother-in-law is usually very powerful). Besides, my job is accounting, and I have been doing this all my life.

From the first sight of her mother-in-law, Mo Yan decided to exercise and develop her mother-in-law's emotional intelligence.

The first trick: take the initiative to let my mother-in-law realize my existence.

It's not that my husband is so afraid of her mother. We have been in love for half a year and dare not tell her. There is no way to go on like this. Ugly daughter-in-law always meets in-laws.

Finally, one day, the prospective mother-in-law called, and it happened that her husband's (then boyfriend's) mobile phone was dead. I handed my husband my mobile phone and asked him to call back quickly. At that moment, my husband was probably in a hurry to call back and didn't think much. He picked up my mobile phone and answered it (note that we are lovers, and the number is only one digit away).

When I came home from work, I sat on the bus, dialed my mother-in-law's phone, and then held the phone in my hand without saying a word until the other party hung up. After a while, my mother-in-law called back. Then, I answered the phone in a special voice, and an aunt kept apologizing, saying that the phone keyboard lock had been forgotten, and it might have been crowded by the bus and dialed out automatically.

Of course, people are not stupid. My son used a girl's mobile phone to call himself, and the number was so close that he naturally asked: You and? It's a colleague. What do you do? Where are you from? I will continue to answer in a sweet voice and hang up.

Not surprisingly, my husband also received a phone call that day, answered a series of questions and basically passed the first level.

The second trick: write letters, send flowers and surprise your mother-in-law with cakes.

My husband is a typical northern man and has no interest in life. His mother, too, never takes the initiative to call home, let alone bring gifts home on holidays. But I think such a smart mother-in-law must want a little romance in her life.

A few days after that phone call, it was my mother-in-law's birthday. I ordered a big bunch of flowers and a cake through the Internet, and then wrote a touching letter (written by me and copied by my husband himself), faxed it to the flower shop and sent it to my mother-in-law's house together with the flowers and cake.

I asked the florist to call me at the door of my mother-in-law's community, and then asked her husband to call her mother-in-law and say some irrelevant gossip. Mother-in-law's phone rang and someone knocked at the door. When I received the flowers, my mother-in-law was stunned for a long time.

On that phone call, my mother-in-law stressed: thank Mo Yan for me. ?

Sending flowers has played a historic role. My husband used to take out thousands of dollars from his salary and remit them to his mother-in-law for safekeeping. Later, her mother-in-law said that she had a girlfriend, so she didn't have to keep the money, so let her keep it.

From then on, I will romanticize my mother-in-law every holiday and force my husband to call home every week.

The third measure: chat and massage, reflecting the intimacy of a daughter.

Actually, I am a very shy person. Under normal circumstances, I seldom talk and do disgusting things, but I am desperate for this mother-in-law.

Chat with your mother-in-law on QQ or phone when appropriate, and tell her that her son loves her very much and misses them very much. Sometimes I feel that I am not filial enough. He came to Hangzhou alone and left his parents there, so old. Old people love to hear this.

I also told my mother-in-law that we would go back to accompany them when we had enough fun outside. But at the same time, it also inadvertently reveals the nostalgia for Hangzhou. In the end, my parents-in-law decided to buy a house in Hangzhou and settle down in Hangzhou after retirement.

I think it is necessary to show my mother-in-law some physical performance. Because there is only one child in a family now, proper body language can make the mother-in-law feel as intimate as her daughter. For example, holding hands when walking and shouldering when taking pictures. If the mother-in-law is obviously tired when she comes home, she should take the initiative to help her massage.

The fourth measure: woo the mother-in-law's friends and win praise from the side.

It seems that many women like to compare their husbands when they are young, their children when they are middle-aged, and their daughters-in-law when they are older. Therefore, you must give your mother-in-law face outside.

During the Spring Festival, my husband and I visited a friend of my mother-in-law. My aunt's son and my husband are classmates, but their jobs are high and low, so it is still very unreasonable to talk about a girlfriend. When we went, we brought some specialties from Hangzhou. Going to other people's homes, my husband chatted with my classmates, and I accompanied my aunt to soak lotus root starch.

I'll help clean up the kitchen first, and then I'll show you how to make lotus root starch. Aunt is complaining that her son is not as good as my husband, and his girlfriend is not sensible. I told her that the boy matured late and comforted her. It is estimated that few of the aunt's children chat with her. She talked a lot that day and was in a good mood. Later, she chatted with my mother-in-law on the phone and praised me, which made her happier.

You need to talk about art when you get along with your mother-in-law.

After listening to Mo Yan's narrative, some people may say that she is too good at pretending and pretending to be too tired.

I think getting along with my mother-in-law really needs snacks and talks. Simply put, my daughter-in-law needs to treat her mother-in-law as her own mother, not her biological parents.

Treating her mother-in-law as a biological mother is actually thinking from another angle. Why can you be so kind to your parents and so critical of your mother-in-law? Taking mother-in-law as her own mother will make many things easier.

Then why can't you treat your mother-in-law as your biological parents? Give a simple example, such as taking mom to buy clothes. Mom has read a lot, but she is still not satisfied. Can you complain? I won't buy it from you in the future? But if you are a mother-in-law, you can't say that.

Therefore, I quite agree with Mo Yan's mother-in-law's way of getting along, which can make her mother-in-law happy, and that is the skill of being a daughter-in-law.

People's hearts are all meat. You are good to your mother-in-law, but you are afraid that her mother-in-law will be bad to you?

Besides, many daughters-in-law will be mother-in-law in the future. At that time, didn't you want a daughter-in-law who could make you happy?