The trouble between men and women - the dumpling complex

Dumplings are not as delicious as dumplings, and they are not as fun as sister-in-law.

Cao Zhi's "Ode to the Goddess of the Luo" is astonishing and brilliant, and has been passed down through the ages. But it turned out to be a love letter written to my sister-in-law Zhen Ji.

Li Shimin, a Khan for generations and an example for emperors for all generations, could not help but kill his brother and his wife.

Dorgon, commanding the Eight Banners, took control of the Central Plains and laid the foundation for eternity. It can be said that he is extremely powerful, but he falls under the skirt of his sister-in-law Xiaozhuang.

Literary works are even more enthusiastic about such "uncle and sister-in-law" plots. Take the Four Great Classics as an example.

Needless to say, the Romance of the Three Kingdoms, Cao Zhi has been mentioned before.

Water Margin is a drama where Pan Jinlian flirts with Wu Erlang.

In Dream of Red Mansions, Jiao Da got drunk and cursed in front of everyone: Those who crawl on ashes crawl on ashes, and those who raise brother-in-law raise brother-in-law. As for who is being scolded, I won’t go into detail here.

Even the monkey in Journey to the West teased his sister-in-law, Princess Iron Fan. One moment, he is playing tricks in his belly, and the next moment, he becomes the Bull Demon King and makes love with her.

Why do men have a soft spot for their sisters-in-law? Why are uncles and sisters-in-law prone to misfires?

Looking back at the same equal relationship, the uncle and the younger siblings are much calmer. There is even a saying: I would rather sit on the lap of the uncle than sit in front of the brother-in-law.

This shows the special nature of the relationship between uncle and sister-in-law.

First, "No secrets can be told"

The taboo of incest stimulates the most primitive desires of human beings and has a devil-like attraction.

According to psychological research, relatives who are related by blood and live together for a long time will have physical and psychological "sexual aversion" to each other. Therefore, it is impossible for incest to occur between relatives in a normal family. This is also the result of natural selection.

"Blood relationship" and "long-term living together" are often indispensable.

Obviously, neither condition of the relationship between uncle and sister-in-law is met.

Natural bears the brunt and is pushed to the forefront.

Second, "Pain and happiness"

Confucianism emphasizes the defense between men and women, especially forbidden love, which is regarded as a scourge.

Once you cross the threshold, you would often "parade" or "immerse yourself in a pig cage" in ancient times. Even in modern society, you will still be drowned in saliva.

However, the more suppressed it is, the crazier it will explode.

On one side is burning desire, on the other side is cold fear. However, fear and danger do not weaken the desire, but increase its mystery and attraction. So I would rather break into pieces than cross the minefield.

Third, "Every younger brother loves to steal his elder brother's toys"

The difference between brother-in-law and uncle.

The elder brother often likes to imitate the role of his father in the family, and is often humble and caring towards his younger brother. Naturally, it's inappropriate to act like an elder to your younger siblings, with a playful smile, not to mention other things?

In addition, due to age issues, the eldest brother-in-law is often already married or already has understanding and experience in sex, and is less curious.

The younger brother is just the opposite. When I was young, I was ignorant about women and sex. And the strong hormones pushed him to experience and try.

There is such a theory. Before the younger brother reaches adulthood or for a longer period of time, each older brother is the younger brother's "imaginary enemy".

It’s not difficult to understand. In the same life experience from childhood to adulthood, the younger brother was at a disadvantage in terms of strength and experience due to his age. So whether it is to compete for favor in front of the elders or to show oneself, the elder brother is the mountain that one must overcome.

As the saying goes, "The boss is stupid, the second is treacherous." It is precisely because the second child must rely on more scheming when he does not have an advantage in other aspects.

The younger brother unconsciously targets his older brother. Use all your strength to chase and cross. I will try my best to get what you have, and I will do better what you can do. Use this to prove your self-worth.

Although the "thing" sister-in-law has its own special characteristics. But in the younger brother's subconscious mind, he felt the same as when he grabbed his brother's toy - dopamine was secreted rapidly, and he was filled with joy and pride.

Fourth, "I met you at the most beautiful time"

The flowers are like angry horses, and the white jade is flawless. The center of attention at the wedding; the charm and shyness of the newlyweds.

And the mature charm revealed by being a first-time wife. It is undoubtedly the most beautiful time in a woman's life.

And all of this. In the eyes of a young man who is young and ignorant and has just awakened his love, it has a special meaning.

It would be okay if he was just an insignificant outsider. Is that young man in that family not pregnant?

But this person happened to be his sister-in-law. You can't see it when you look up, but you can't see it when you look down. The scorching figure touches the restless heart of youth all the time. Over time, it is inevitable that a trace of sinful feelings will arise.

In addition, in the Chinese-style family environment, people still live with their original family after marriage. It often also provides "opportunities".

There is such a theory. In China, especially in ancient times, due to the relatively narrow social circle of the opposite sex, the communication between men and women was deliberately blocked. Sisters-in-law and aunts are most likely to become sexual enlightenment objects for men. Because this is the first mature and beautiful woman that men are most likely to have close contact with. Not without reason.

Old cows love young grass, while ignorant teenagers often yearn for charming mature women with more obvious female characteristics.

Everything is impeccable, I met the most beautiful you at the most exciting age.

There is nothing wrong with being attracted by love, and there is nothing wrong with falling in love with your sister-in-law.

How many hidden resentments are there in this world?

A person’s unforgettable thoughts have nothing to do with culture and are harmless.

However, all laws have their own rules and principles. The reason why people are human is to do something.

Some things are somewhat interesting hidden in the heart, but once they are done, their state of mind will be low.