I just discussed a problem with my childhood college classmates. Do you?

1. Girls want others to praise her for her beauty. Everyone likes to hear compliments. Women are more prominent in this respect. They will be recognized by people's praise. To understand a woman's psychology and win the favor of the girl you love, you should always praise her for her beauty. For example, your girlfriend has been putting on makeup in front of the mirror for a long time for you, and she has to put on new clothes every date. So when you see her, shouldn't you praise her sincerely?

2. Women like to give people small favors. There are subtle differences between men and women in giving and receiving gifts. A woman gives a man expensive gifts to show her willingness to trust her. First of all, treat the gift as a sign of respect or a compliment. Therefore, women like to be given some small souvenirs and small gifts for her boyfriend. If her boyfriend doesn't take the gift seriously, she will be disappointed. When a clever man accepts a girl's gift, he must not forget to give her a deep kiss.

3. Respect her and get to know her. Women like others to listen to her, and she hopes that her feelings, even if they are childish and unreasonable, can work for men. She wants others to respect her and understand her. Women are easily hurt inside. Be sure to protect her, care for her and take care of her.

4. It suits her interest. Most women believe that a man who shares her views or interests and helps her achieve a certain goal will be a trustworthy person. Therefore, it is easy for them to feel intimate with such a man and give their hearts to him. Generally speaking, unreasonable men will make women unhappy. If a female colleague can't meet the work quota, you won't get her favor. You should put yourself in her position on the premise that your work and group are not affected, and then her heart will tilt towards you inexplicably. Women are generally alert. If you have the same goal as her, for example, you are both dissatisfied with the behavior of a colleague, you will be easily accepted.

5. Pay attention to her tiny desires. Women always think men are forgetful. So, if she accidentally blurts out something she is interested in, you will always remember it. She will be moved if you mention it to her again one day. For a woman, if you can understand some of her tiny desires, she must think that you know her best and are the most reliable, so she is closer to you.

6. Trust her. It is true that women love men's masculinity. Strong and brave are the characteristics of men. But under the premise of being strong and brave, men also have feelings and tenderness. When a woman falls in love with a man, she often falls in love with his fragile side. The deep-seated reason for this phenomenon may be that women are born with motherhood. It is easy for men to reveal their hidden worries in front of their good women, and it is so natural for women to have heartfelt sympathy for such men. "Men don't flick when they have tears." A man won't cry until he is sad, and he won't tell a secret to a woman until his true feelings are revealed. Women are easily conquered by such men.

7. Pay attention to the subtle changes in her clothes. For a woman, if someone discovers the subtle changes in her body, she will have a sense of satisfaction. Women like to pursue fashion, and love beauty is their nature. If your girlfriend changes her hair style or dress today, she will be happy if you compliment her. She thinks that if you keep her in your heart and look at her all the time, she will feel satisfied, instead of suddenly "running away" or sulking alone. Careful men will find subtle changes in women without her prompting at all. In this way, your feelings will be very harmonious.

Flirting skills

1. When chatting, light a candle or cover the lampshade with a red scarf, which was used in the movie "Have something to say".

2. Make an appointment with the flower shop, and ask the flower delivery person to wait at the place where you are dating him or her at 7: 00 pm.

3. Meet at an uninhabited beach or beach and light a bonfire to bake potatoes.

4. Walking in the light rain without an umbrella, nodding and smiling at the people sheltering from the rain on the roadside while walking.

5. Memorize the stars, ask him (her) to Ding Jie to show him (her) the other person's constellation, and then imagine looking at the starry sky. Of course, if you don't memorize it, just point to a beautiful star and make up a touching story.

6. Sing the old, the older the better.

7. If you plan to have sex with the other person, you can say, "I heard that one way to have sex is to draw a heart on your hand. If the other person agrees, draw one." As he spoke, he drew a red pen on his palm and put it aside.

8. Prepare a piece of Zhang Kuan cloth with words written on it. When you were chatting with her in the coffee shop, you suddenly fell silent, took a piece of cloth from your pocket and shook it off. It can say, "I'm glad to be with you!" "

9. Stop your watch when you are dating him or her, and look at it when you say goodbye. "When I am with you, my time stops. I really hope it is still 7 o'clock. "

10. Insert long matchsticks vertically into the cake, spell each other's names, and flash from beginning to end.

1 1. Wait for his or her further study. If there happens to be an ant nest under your feet, you can write "I love you" on the ground with honey. In a short time, there will be words on the ground that surprise him or her.

12. Go to the restaurant and pay the bill in advance. Chatting, the lights suddenly dimmed, and the waiter brought out the birthday cake and sang Happy Birthday.

13. Go out for a lover's barbecue picnic.

14. Choose an interesting place, such as Dundun or Changbai Mountain, look at the map, look at the pictures, look at the legends, and let him or her feel that he or she has been there. When the other person asks, tell him or her, "I haven't been there, but I know it like the back of my hand." Because I know I will go there one day in my life. Would you like to go with me? "

15. Book a set that only two people know. For example, I want to go to the restaurant on the corner of Chilou to eat hot pot. I suddenly remembered your lovely face when I looked in the mirror in the morning.

16. A "Selected Traditional Crosstalk", when two people are lonely, they often have unexpected happiness while watching it.

17. Tell stories together. One person speaks a paragraph, and the other person goes on. There is such a story. "This cat is madly in love with a light bulb." B: "They are married." A: "They have a baby." B: "They are married." A: "They gave birth to a child." B: "It's a light bulb with a tail".

18. Learn from the ancients and explore Xun Mei.

Soak in mm and see how to find a topic

Let me also talk about my personal opinion! Hehe, please forgive me for saying something wrong ~

Sincerity is the first priority of interpersonal communication. Sincerity is the first step to develop intimate relationship in the future. The so-called sincerity should be to express your feelings without concealment, but expressing your feelings and goals immediately on the first date, I'm afraid it's too abrupt, and it will also give people the impression of being too active and frivolous. Therefore, you might as well show your affection for each other first, and then "seduce" the topics of interest to each other with relaxed and natural dialogue. Usually, people are most concerned about their own problems. As long as we ask the right questions and listen carefully, Israel will regard us as bosom friends and then give us an opportunity to express ourselves in return. The strangeness and embarrassment of the first date will become a warm talk. Here are some topics that can promote intimacy:

What do you do? Why do you like this job? What is the biggest challenge? What is the biggest setback? What are your hopes for your job and future? )

2. What achievements have you made in your life so far? Any major setbacks? )

3. What do you like best? (Why are you interested)

4. What was the most memorable happy event last year? (or an unfortunate thing? )

5. How will you handle your work?

6. How do you like to spend your holiday?

7. Do you want to be famous? (why)

8. If you had a million dollars, what would you do with it?

9. In your family, how did you grow up?

10, what was your character strengths when you were growing up? What are the disadvantages of fear? )

1 1. What kind of relationship do you want to develop?

12 Are you romantic? How romantic? )

13, what do you think is the difference between men and women?

14, what makes you happy?

What makes you sad?

16. When you were young, what did you want to be when you grew up?

17, where do you think you are different from others?

18, do you believe in God? What do you think of God? )

19. to what extent do you think your personal behavior has an impact on changing society?

20. What do you think are the important events in society at present? If possible, what action would you take? )

Some of the above topics seem to involve too many personal problems, especially for people who are dating for the first time, but please remember that few people don't care about themselves, as long as they don't question each other rigidly like investigating their household registration, everyone is willing to discuss their own problems.

And there are three topics that can be used in any occasion: food, family and philosophy.

This may be a custom in China. The protagonist of the first date should be the man, while the woman is more reserved. This person should take the initiative to ask some questions to get Tan Xing's attention. Both sides should avoid long silence. When dating, it is best to make the atmosphere pleasant. The content of the conversation should be broad and popular, and the questions should be short, so that the other party is willing to answer and can answer. We can talk about work, study, hobbies and trivial things in life. Don't embarrass the other party, let alone ask questions that make it difficult for the other party. If the other person is silent and unresponsive, you should change the subject quickly. Both men and women can consciously introduce themselves, including their family members and personal hobbies and specialties. But don't brag about yourself. Don't let it spoil the fun of the first date. Swearing should not be said, otherwise it will be regarded as disrespectful, uncivilized and impolite to each other.

When dating, you must keep a happy mood and mentality. Because dating is not a class, you don't need to preach or inspire your personality, so the topic must be relaxed.

If she likes to talk a lot, don't interrupt her discussion Just be a loyal listener. At the same time, don't talk about some academic topics yourself.

When dating, it is best to talk about things that often happen around the village, such as TV programs and social pages in newspapers. Or about music, use your lovely pets such as cats, dogs, tropical fish, pigeons and birds, because talking about some relaxing and interesting topics can bring us closer together.

When we meet for the first time, we will inevitably face a common distress problem: after some knowingly commit crimes (some personal information has been introduced to each other in advance), we don't know what to talk about next. Then, let's try it from the following aspects.

1: Looking for the "bright spot" of the topic around career pursuit;

Career is the foundation of human life. Any young man who is diligent in his career and tireless in his life will fly once he talks with others about the topic of work and life. So, grab some of his "bright spots" in this respect and dig into the topic, and you will have a lively chat. For example, the topic can be: What do you do? Your work must be very hard, right? It's hard for me to understand your work. Can you tell me something about it? Wait for the topic.

2. Looking for the topic of "* * * sound points" around hobbies:

Everyone has his own hobbies. Even taciturn people will speak freely as long as they talk about their hobbies. However, when we first met, you still didn't know what his hobbies were. It doesn't matter what we do. Let's talk about our hobbies first, and then seek the best points in each other's hobbies to increase our understanding and deepen our feelings. We should expand our common interests to a wider field, so as to find the sound point of "family". Topics can include: Do you like reading and writing? I like music, music and writing, culture and art. This is a' home'!

3. Look for the "focus" topic around the environmental atmosphere.

Ambient atmosphere is a dynamic, random and rich topic. It is not romantic and disease-free, but through grasping this topic, it reflects a person's level and taste in ideological concepts, moral wisdom, and dealing with people. It can be said that a person who is good at observing things, problems and contradictions will be endless as long as he focuses on the environmental atmosphere. For example, if there is a TV in your dating place, you can say: Now there are more TV channels and fewer wonderful programs. Look at this TV series. The whole plot is a farce, with no taste and no practical significance. Then ask him to express his opinion.

4. Look for "exciting" topics around social life.

Social life covers everything. You will always have some deepest feelings, words you want to say, people and things you hate or like most, and things you care about or want most in life. Then, when you are caught up in a conversation with a friend, pick a point that you are most excited about. For example, the topics are: What book do you have in your hand? Or you can say that the clothes you are wearing today are very good, and so on, and then you can say/don't see that you are still knowledgeable about it, and then talk to him. Didn't the topic come out?

How to find an opportunity to start dating someone you like? This has a lot to do with the topic!

The so-called favorite person can have many situations. Let me explain it a little below.

1: The easiest way for people you know to find communication opportunities in the workplace is to join the clubs or activities that this person participates in. If the other person has no interest in this area and is a colleague in the same workplace, you can start a dialogue on the topic of work. If the workplace is different, they can make friends with the same-sex colleagues who are close to the person they like in the other workplace, so that they can have the opportunity to get close to the person they like.

2. If two people have met before and know each other, it should be quite simple to find a chance to talk. At this time, don't take "I want to associate with you" as the conversation content, but naturally narrow the distance between us through topics such as your work or friends. What's more difficult is, for example, how can I start dating someone I like when I meet someone I like on the bus to and from work every day?

One way is to get as close to each other as possible when waiting for the bus at the stop sign. Over time, the other person will naturally have an impression on you. Every morning, in order to impress the other party, the time to go home coincides with the other party's time (for this reason, of course, we will spend some time asking the station at a fixed time to find out the exact time for the other party to go home). After a long time, we can take the opportunity to greet each other gently when we meet. First, nod and smile. If the other person has a reaction, then whisper to him, "Have you gone home at this time?" ? Or "hi! We meet again. If it works, it's half the battle. When we meet at the bus stop the next morning, we can greet him easily. If you are embarrassed to greet each other or nod and smile, try the old method handed down from ancient times, that is, deliberately open the bag to get what is in front of each other, and then deliberately pretend not to be careful to let something fall. Even when you don't wait for the bus, you can deliberately walk in front of each other on the road and then deliberately let things fall. If the other person finds it and helps you pick it up, you can take the opportunity to thank the other person's strength, look at the other person's face and say, "Ah, it's you. Do we often meet? " 」.

Then, on the bus stop sign the next day, you must also say hello loudly: "Good morning! Thank you very much yesterday. " "Where do you work? Don't forget the dialogue.

What I said above is just an example of the topic. No matter what kind of situation you encounter, you should be able to use the methods mentioned above to come up with the method that suits you best. Of course, if you want to do a good job, you have to work hard and have courage. If you want to come straight to the point and say, "Can I be your friend? This kind of expression requires not only extraordinary courage, but also success rather than failure, so I don't encourage this method.

Here I have to talk about this topic again:

On the date, I said something that looked like a book: for example; Until I met you, I didn't know there was a feeling called attachment and a feeling called love. The other person will say hello, which is disgusting. Why do you say that? /I told her a bunch of reasons endlessly, and the atmosphere suddenly became very good!

Another case: she said to me, "I really don't understand. Of all the people who pursue me, which one is richer than you, but why should I be infatuated with you?" I said, "That's because I care more about women than rich people, at least more about women's figure. Follow me and you will never have to worry about your waistline. "

Some good people have also asked: I am older than you, and the age gap is too big. "I said," that's better. If I am not younger than you, no one will provide you with resources for ridicule.

There is another situation: a good family says, "I'm not very satisfied with your appearance." You are not a handsome boy. " I said, "This is where I am superior to a handsome guy. Handsome guys will only compete with you for fame and fortune with fashionable clothes and beautiful skin color, and I will always wear cloth clothes and be willing to be your foil and let others see me. I thought I was your driver. "

Write so much for the time being! I will write more next time! It's a bit messy to think about where to write! Please forgive me!

In my experience,

Coffee shops and parks are good places for a first date.

what to say

These two places are not too monotonous, but there is room for two people.

In order to avoid the embarrassment that two people can't answer the phone after chatting for a while.

You can see the scenery in the park.

You can listen to music in the coffee shop.

The topic came out.

Be sure to avoid going to too busy or quiet places.

I didn't say I couldn't go anywhere.

My first date with my girlfriend was eating in a restaurant.

She also pulled several sisters.

The atmosphere is very good.

I'm afraid it's not easy to make a good start.

Hmm. How interesting

Good luck! !

Before you decide, you should know what kind of girl she is.

Let's have dinner with him first and get to know him. Ask him if there is any place he wants to go. You can go with her. This will make her feel that you respect her and that you are careful enough.

If he says it's okay. He was deeply impressed by the place where you took her. You should accompany her to some quiet places. Parks and beaches are also good. Learn more about them.

Never go to a crowded and noisy place. It depends on the girl's personality. If she is a quiet girl, take her to the park and the river. If she is a good girl, take her to a busy place.

Of course, if you have money, try to invite her to the hotel for dinner.

You can also watch movies, preferably romantic movies.

You can also let her come to your house!

But don't let people interfere anywhere.

O K just walked around, walking and walking. If your feet are sore, find a place to sit down and rest. You can walk.

The best place is a quiet restaurant or cafe.

The worst places are parks, discos and the like.

Find a quiet place for the first date, but not too hidden, otherwise girls will feel insecure. You can't find too noisy places, which is not conducive to communication.

April 22(nd), 2008

Of course, it's best to find a park, which can be romantic. It is easier to cultivate emotional appeal.

Or the lake or the grass, if the environment is good, you can go.

It's best not to be at home, no matter whose home it is, so she will think you have wild desires. Is there any romantic atmosphere like that?

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Or go to a teahouse, which is also good, but it is better to drink than to drink. Most girls don't like men and wine.

The last place to go is a remote place. The more people, the more secure girls feel, and the fewer people, the more scared girls are.

In fact, the key to where to go is to let the girl make her own decision, but often if she is asked where to go, she can't say anything. It is up to you. For example, if you ask her what she wants to drink, she may casually say it, which will make you feel at a loss, but do you want to ask her whether to drink coke or nutrition express? Prepare to take it directly. Then the answer may be different.

In addition, it is also important to give them what they want instead of what they want. If you know what she likes, what she is interested in and what she is good at, it will be easy! Find your similarities, cultivate your * * same language, and it will be easier to have the same hobbies!

Suggestion:

Watch a movie that you all think is very good. What's the name of this movie? Have you seen it? Do you like watching it? )

Find a restaurant where you both think the environment is good. This restaurant has a beautiful facade and a good environment. The food must be delicious, right?

This friend, your question is bold! Girls are always nervous and scared for the first time. First, let her know and understand what this is. This is a way for men and women to express their love. It's not that I don't agree with my boyfriend or feel sorry for him. It's not conventional. Actually, you want to have a real relationship with your boyfriend, don't you? Ha ha! Don't worry, I will help you. First, you have to understand that this is not terrible. Don't worry about pain. Don't be so sensitive. It's actually wonderful. You should overcome your fear of being right and devote yourself to the intimate relationship with your boyfriend. This is what I'm going to talk about next. Both sides can kiss first. Boyfriends can be more active, calm, flirtatious and not single-minded. When a man kisses a woman, his hand is the most important thing. When kissing, he caressed her body, including her private parts. Once the woman intervenes, she will cooperate with you very much, and there will be some shortness of breath, and the body will reflect it. Both sides can be perfect at this time. It's also good to watch some adult films at an appropriate time to add some atmosphere. In my opinion, there is still a gap between your friend and boyfriend, and not only because of the woman, but also because of the man ... go and have a check-up first to see if there are any physiological reasons. Only by excluding physiological reasons can we see whether there are psychological problems. Professional psychologists would suggest this.

If it is not a physical problem, if her problem can be further identified as a psychological problem, it should be solved through psychology.

Because she has not succeeded for a long time, she must be very anxious and worried. When she tried again, there was a psychological shadow of anxiety and worry. This will inevitably lead to an increase in the probability of unsuccessful again. The correct way is to get rid of your troubles, find a time when you are in a good mood and state, and hint that you can do it. In addition, men should enter gently. It's normal to have a little pain during the process. As long as the other party is lighter and cooperates better, the pain will soon pass and the average person can bear it.

In addition, it is not ruled out that the man lacks skills and can't choose the right posture, which may lead to failure.

Level: elementary

It costs nothing to meet for the first time on February 5, 2008, but you must pay attention to the image, speak, pay attention to the details, don't swear, don't spit, don't be careless and so on. In short, we should pay attention to all the places we should pay attention to, and we should not ignore the details. Pull the chair for the girl when eating, open the door when getting off the bus, open the lid when drinking, and ask clearly before smoking. In addition, don't be too stingy, but you can't show that you have no financial concept. This needs to be grasped by yourself. But a girl certainly doesn't like a person who is stingy with money. Maybe she won't let you spend money, but seeing that you want to spend money for her will also add points to your heart. In addition, if someone happens to come to you to sell flowers, you might as well have one, but there is no need to do it deliberately. Don't be too conspicuous. Girls nowadays like generous boys. In addition, don't look around in front of her, or look straight at the beautiful MM, which is definitely wrong. When crossing the street, pay attention to let her go inside, but remember not to have physical contact with her several times on purpose before meeting her. The girl is disgusted. Cultivate feelings slowly, hold hands until the feelings are cultivated, and then start slowly, so that girls will think that you love her enough and respect her enough.

First of all, there should be enough chewing gum!

Second, listen carefully and act according to circumstances.

Third, don't mention old romance, it's too 38.

Fourth, don't mention personal property, Tainiang.

Fifth, don't mention your professional experience. You can't go to the interview.

Sixth, don't mention bad personal habits (smoking, drinking, hitting people, etc. ), you want to die