As an older leftover woman, what deep malice have you received from this society?

As a married man, it seems inappropriate to talk about the issue of older leftover women. However, because my wife’s classmate is over 40 years old, he is still single, and he often comes to his wife to tell his troubles. Therefore, we have more or less understanding of the problems encountered by older leftover women. Let me have a frank exchange with you all.

Old leftover women, as a special group of people, receive "deep malice" in society, mainly in the following three aspects:

First, are you sick?

There are various reasons why older leftover women are left behind. Most of them are studying for exams. A considerable number of people with poor grades often have to go through repeated studies for many years before they can pass the exams. Therefore, they are naturally older when they graduate from college. The person being introduced is either not satisfied with the other person himself or the other person is dissatisfied with him. After a few unsuccessful attempts, he will gradually be left behind. Then there are those who are too picky, have a high self-esteem, pick and choose in every aspect, and refuse to give in. In the end, if they fail to achieve high or low standards, they will be left behind. These are the two main reasons for being left behind. Of course, there are also people who are single due to disabilities or other illnesses. However, it is really an unforgivable behavior to suspect that someone is sick regardless of the facts. This is the most malicious thing that older leftover women encounter in society.

Second, are you a psychopath?

Older leftover women suffer from tremendous pressure from family and society because of their long-term inability to solve their personal problems. It is normal for their inner world to be somewhat different from that of ordinary people. But most of them don't reach the so-called abnormal level. However, when outsiders face them, they will always look at them with strange eyes, just like aliens. This is also one of the evil things they encountered.

Third, is there something wrong with your style?

Older leftover women have their own jobs and social circles. They have to deal with other people. It is inevitable to have to deal with male colleagues in the workplace and other people in society. However, when it comes to dealing with the issue of the older leftover women’s interactions with the opposite sex, they often make wild guesses: I can’t stand the loneliness... something must be wrong... This kind of discussion also brings great harm to the older leftover women. As time went by, everything turned into nothing. In fact, it was nothing.

Of course, there are definitely many confusions faced by older leftover women. The harm caused to them by these unfair words and deeds is beyond the experience of ordinary people like us. Here, we hope that the older leftover women will be strong and take a good future; we also hope that people in society can treat them normally and care more about them instead of hurting them intentionally or unintentionally. In this way, our society can become a better place.