Do you understand the folk saying that "a good man doesn't eat alone, and a good woman doesn't fight for a wedding dress"?

For everyone, the most selfless and outstanding people in the world are our own parents, who have worked tirelessly to bring us up. Most parents can do anything for their children, and always leave their children behind, fearing that they will be hurt a little.

Some people have been working hard for their children all their lives, doing everything for them, but never thinking about what their children will get in return in the future. Their only wish is that their children can live happily in the future. If parents are not the best and most selfless people in the world, who else can afford it!

I used to hear grandma say that the biggest responsibility of parents to their children is to help them get married, and this is the greatest happiness. Seeing that they have a good life after marriage, parents will be very satisfied and at ease.

Let me share with you a common saying related to today's topic. What I want to share with you is that "a good man doesn't eat separately, and a good woman doesn't argue for a wedding dress." What does this sentence mean? Why did someone say that before? Next, take a look with me.

In the past, parents always prepared a lot of things for their children when they got married. For their son, the most important thing is for the whole family to eat together. To put it bluntly, it is money. On his son's wedding day, his parents will give him a sum of money as a family meal. On the one hand, I am lucky, on the other hand, I tell my son that he will be responsible for his family after marriage, and his parents can't keep him as a child as before.

For a daughter, her parents will prepare some dowry for her on her wedding day. For a woman, the bride price prepared by her parents is all the property she has just married to another family, except those when she first arrived at her in-laws' house, so many people will not use the bride price given to her by her parents at that time unless it is absolutely necessary.

This proverb means that as a qualified filial son and daughter, a man will not ask his parents to cook a family meal for him when he gets married, and a woman will not care too much about the dowry prepared by her parents when she gets married.

Because in people's eyes, filial and sensible children will know how to be filial to their parents when they grow up, and it is not easy to understand their parents. So what they have to do later is to do their best to honor their parents and reduce their burden, instead of continuing to ask for anything from their parents. As the saying goes, "a good man and a good woman" refers to a filial and sensible child, not what we usually understand.

In fact, this proverb left by our ancestors also means to teach future generations to be a man of backbone. Even our parents, the people closest to us, can't always rely on them. We should exchange our own efforts and efforts for corresponding things and pave the way for the future, instead of staying at the stage of relying on the strength of others. I always believe that people with backbone and solar terms will be more respected by others and feel more secure in the future.