Is it really shameful to take the doll out to play?

The child's sweet smile melted the mother's heart; The crying of the wronged child makes the mother feel like a knife, and she can't wait to give all the beautiful things in the world to her children. Of course, there will always be a moment when the child is like a little devil with magic horns, which makes his mother feel ashamed and wants to stuff him back into her stomach. Don't say there is no such moment. Think about it carefully: if the baby wants toys and you don't agree, he will cry on the ground, and everyone will look at you with strange eyes; When friends and relatives get together, the baby makes a hullabaloo about so that everyone can look at you; When the child says to the fat aunt: You are so fat! When you are embarrassed and don't know how to answer the phone; ? Whenever you face this moment, do you feel embarrassed by your children? What would you do? This issue &; Lduo honey friends have opinions &; Rduo, let's recall this embarrassing moment together! * What a pity! That was definitely the best mood at that time. In public, children always do things that people can't do-make faces, make strange noises, and sit on the ground and cheat? When others burst into laughter, you are not only embarrassed, but also humiliated. & amplduo, what a pity! & amprduoDuang！ This sentence floats in your mind in an instant. The following scenes, if there are similarities, are purely normal! I love Yuting: I will cry if I don't give it to me. I once took my daughter to a neighbor's house to play. When she saw many snacks, she insisted on eating them. I'm embarrassed to stop her. As a result, she cried with a face of injustice! Neighbors saw me and said:&; Lduo is fine, you let her eat! & amprduo I can't kiss my neighbor's face, so I have to let her go. When she left, she grabbed a handful of candy in her hand. I whispered to her and asked her to put it on the coffee table. Who knows, she began to cry again, muttering while crying. The neighbor said:&; Lduo: Oh, just let her have it. Come on, baby, take it. Aunt gave it to you. After & amprduo, the neighbor gave all the snacks on the table to her daughter. I am so embarrassed that I really want to find a gap to drill down. Dizzy: The most humiliating time I was criticized by my teacher at the parent-teacher meeting was at the parent-teacher meeting. The teacher first summed up the overall situation of the class, then praised some children, and then criticized several children by name. As soon as I heard it, whether it was praise or criticism, there was no son's name. I am relieved that my son is not bad. I don't know, I haven't put my heart down yet, but I heard the teacher order my son and say that he didn't say he was careless and didn't do his homework well. Not only that, he bullied girls. After that, the teacher gave a beating and said that parents must be supervised and educated when they go home. At that time, all the parents in the class looked at me with one eye, which really scared me to death! Yang Yangyang: I don't want to walk or lie on the ground. I once took Yang Yang to the park to play. Because the park is built on the mountain, the slope is relatively large. Yang Yang walked for a while, then loudly said that she was tired and didn't want to go, playing tricks and giving me a hug. I refused and insisted that he exercise by himself. As a result, he squatted down first, and then began to cry quietly. Later, when he came to see me, he ignored me and cried directly on the main road, causing passers-by to look askance. I really want to put him back in my stomach. What a pity! Feifei and Feifei: The noise machine on the plane went back to my hometown in the New Year. I took two babies by plane. Along the way, because it was the first time to fly, the two little guys were so excited that they didn't control the volume or stop trying! Occasionally I will say a few words &; If you lduo this, I will cover their mouths quickly. During the two-hour flight, all the stewardesses and passengers looked at me from time to time, which really embarrassed me. I have to keep telling people that I'm sorry. Children are not sensible. As soon as the plane landed, they dragged the two children away together! Little by little: make a scene at the dinner table, take a little out to play on weekends, and find a restaurant to eat at noon. The decoration of this restaurant is petty-bourgeois, and there are many gadgets in it. As soon as I entered the door, Diandian's eyes have been aimed at the boss's various treasures, and all kinds of looting have never stopped. If you don't give it to her, you will cry, and the quiet and elegant environment will be completely destroyed by her. Whether it's the eyes of diners or waiters, my face turned red from never red, and I was probably labeled as uneducated! Radish Ding: hello kitty outside really can't stand a kindergarten meal. The children had a good time and the parents were very harmonious. The little girl turned into a crazy girl in an instant and ran around with her children. Finally, some parents suggested that all the children introduce themselves to me and tell me whose children they are. The children went up one by one. Although they were shy, they all spoke very well after being encouraged. When my daughter went up, she was like a tweeter, and suddenly she was bored. The more people encouraged her to hush, the less she said anything, and at last she almost cried. The only thing I could do at that time was to hold her down first, but I didn't want to be mean to her in front of others, but it was really embarrassing! Everyone knows whose family she belongs to this time! Good mood: swearing, at a loss. We still attach great importance to the restraint of children's behavior, and there has never been any inappropriate behavior. Who knows, at a small parent-child party, we were chatting happily when we suddenly heard our son say loudly:&; Lduox, your mother! & amprduo was quiet in an instant, and I almost hypnotized myself. This is not my son, I'm just hallucinating. Obviously, I felt embarrassed for a while. Later, parents with high IQ changed the subject. I just got through this temporarily. When I got home, I forced my son to ask where he learned it. He said he heard from his little brother next door that I was moving. Old man Bu: Two young people never guessed the fire. Because the community is full of young people, there are naturally many children. We have a good time together every day. There should be nothing embarrassing for me, but one thing has really made me blush recently. Every time I have fun, my little girl will run to the side and look at something seriously. I went over to have a look and didn't scream. I pulled her aside. Guess what she is doing? She watched the little boy pee seriously! Next to the parents watching with a smile. Although there is no malice, it embarrassed me for a long time! * What would you do in the face of embarrassment? The child sat on the ground crying for toys and swearing in front of everyone? After humiliating events and embarrassing situations again and again, is there any extravagant hope of being invisible quickly? There will even be an impulse to beat up to ease your heart, right? At this juncture, it seems difficult to keep calm and think about the reasons. Maybe when things calm down and I am alone, I will really think about what I should do in the face of embarrassment. Honey friends have opinions: as children grow older, my baby will speak loudly when there are many people before parents adjust their handling methods. Lduo's father's feet stink! & amprduo& amplduo I just farted! & amprduo, if you are embarrassed like this. Especially when there are many people, the more I stop her, the less she listens, and she loses her temper and throws things around, which really makes people feel very angry! At that time, I felt deeply humiliated How can I not handle a child? So my way of dealing with it is to educate her well and sometimes hit her a few times. But every time after class, I will regret it very much and feel a little too much. As the children grow up, I also grow up with them, learn to change myself and control my emotions and temper. Now, when a child does something shameful, I try to solve it, reason with her or distract her. If she goes too far, I will tell her seriously and let her know that I am angry. I think there must be a lot of things that every child does that adults feel quite humiliated, even humiliated. But after all, they are still young and don't know so much. Adults should understand their ignorance and fearlessness, and their handling methods should not be too strong, which will arouse children's rebellious psychology. Don't make a fuss, but scare them. After all, as children grow up, they become more and more sensible, and they can gradually understand the intentions of adults and know whether their behavior is appropriate. At this time, as long as they use appropriate treatment methods, they can easily resolve it. Zhang Luyu: Pay more attention to your child and let him know that his parents love him. I think parents must keep calm whenever their children do something that makes you lose face. Sometimes, children often feel bored when they do this, and the reason for boredom is that he feels that no one pays attention to him, or even that his parents don't love him, so they don't even play with themselves, so they think they can attract attention. So, once you find the child &; Lduo humiliated & rduo Now, I suggest that parents should not only pay attention to their emotions, but also pay attention to their children's mentality and choose something they are interested in to divert their attention. Take me for example, if a child's behavior is destructive or hurts others, I will tell him directly why he is not allowed to behave, and then give him a chance to make up for his mistake or apologize to the other party. At the same time, I will also think, is it because I am too busy to play with him? It is much more rational to find reasons from yourself than to simply teach children. I will often tell my child that my mother is watching him anytime and anywhere, so that he won't deliberately seek my attention in other ways. More importantly, I attach great importance to strengthening parent-child communication, spending more time with children and enhancing parent-child feelings. At the same time, it is also the most effective way to avoid similar incidents from happening again. Beibei's mother: It's important to put yourself in the other's shoes and stand with your child. Sometimes you feel really embarrassed, but you have to force yourself to calm down. Every child has a growing process, in which our parents play an important role. Losing your temper rashly will only further alienate your relationship. Do you think, when we were young, did we ever do such a thing to embarrass adults? We don't want to be scolded or even beaten by our parents, do we? This novel world is the beginning of children's cognition, just like our exploration of things when we were young, so I allow my baby to make mistakes and cry, but I will still tell him what is right and wrong, what to do and what not to do. Children's ignorance stems from their beginning to understand the world slowly. They don't even know it's shameful, let alone intentional. Therefore, we should not impose what we think is shameful on children, which is unfair. We should let children know the real world, including humiliation. If you want to grow up with your baby, you must face the so-called humiliation together, not to mention it is part of knowing the world. I don't feel ashamed. On the contrary, we should cherish the things that our children make us lose face, so that we can have a chance to help our babies correct their mistakes and cultivate sensible children. Don't worry about losing face, teach children to manage their emotions. When almost everyone wants something but can't get it, most people will feel depressed, lose their temper and even do some abnormal behaviors. It is normal to beat and scold, even adults, let alone children. As parents, our first task is not to put the so-called &; Lduo is humiliated & rduo is strangled in the cradle, education can't always consider other people's eyes and mentality, and it is most important to achieve one's own goals. For example, when a child cries in public, he should first apologize to the people next to him, then pull the child aside and stay with him quietly until he calms down, and then tell him to learn to manage his emotions no matter what happens. Crying won't solve the problem. This way is better than yelling at him&; Lduo, this is embarrassing! & amprduo It has a more positive effect. In addition, I think our parents should lead by example, set a good example, try to solve everything without anxiety, and let them know what to do when they encounter things and how to deal with bad things. Please put your face aside. Experts in this issue: partner and psychologist of Ma Baicheng Relieving Psychological Center. The TV station's legal report, night line, the third mediation room and life wide angle invited psychologists. I remember when our children first landed, we thanked God for the gifts and prayed for their healthy growth. There was nothing else to ask. But as the child grows up day by day, we begin to give this little life more missions, including adding luster to our faces and making us have face in front of others. Having said that, some parents may say in opposition:&; Lduo, I didn't let my children honor me! & amprduo But dear mom and dad, have you ever had such an experience? When your child doesn't take the initiative to greet your friend, force your child to say:&; Lduo, come on, call aunt (uncle)! & amprduo: When the children are staring at others outside and still swallowing, they dig at the children: lduo is such a loser! Why are you so greedy! & amprduo When a child loses control in public, he can't wait to find a crack in the ground, and then angrily yell at the child:&; Lduo, shut up at once. If you cry again, I'll leave you here and make you cry enough! & amprduo I compared my child's weaknesses with other children's strengths and said to my child:&; Lduo, whose children are promising and won the prize in the piano competition! & amprduo？ Yes, sometimes we don't even realize the subconscious things, but your words and actions have clearly shown that you feel that your child is humiliated at the moment, but sensitive children can easily capture this information and then simply boil it down to that mom (or dad) doesn't love me. How terrible the news is for a simple child! In the child's mind, he actually cares about his mother's (father's) attitude towards himself. Once children think that mom and dad don't love me, their sense of security and trust will be reduced, which will make their emotions more out of control. Parents should understand their children's psychology. After all, they are still wet behind the ears. They have a gentle heart. They don't know the complicated world. They will simply follow their hearts and their emotions. You can call them naive or simple. Parents should learn to adjust their mentality, and don't look at some behaviors and performances of their children with adult values and ways of being human. What you do is very important! When children don't take the initiative to say hello to your friends, you don't have to force them to call someone to make you feel proud. We can try to be ourselves and give our children a positive template. For example, when you meet an acquaintance, you should take the initiative to greet the acquaintance politely, and show it to your child with your own behavior, so that your child can learn imperceptibly in daily life. Parents should understand their children's psychology and understand that children often envy other people's things. Even at home, children will feel good when they see others eating or playing. You may feel inexplicable and unreasonable, but this is the child's psychology. When children lose control of their emotions in public, please put down your posture to appease them and don't condescend. At this time, you can hold the child in your arms to calm his emotions, or kneel down and say to him: lduo's mother (father) knows that you are angry now, and I can stand by and wait for you to tell me the reason. Mom (dad) is willing to help you! & amprduo In addition, parents should never compare their children with other people's children. Every child has his uniqueness, and every child is different, which makes the world colorful and beautiful. Parents should be good at discovering children's bright spots, encourage them more, teach them in accordance with their aptitude, and let their children grow up and bear fruit successfully. Remember, when you feel your child is humiliated, please put your face aside first. When you don't pay so much attention to your face, you may think it's really no big deal. Compared with children's health and happiness, things on their faces are really not that important! The article belongs to the original article of psychological parenting. If you need to reprint, please indicate the source!