I did a wrong thing that can never be erased, and I can’t extricate myself from regret.

1. Next time you focus on the scar on your arm, remember to carefully review what happened in the past, and then say to yourself, fortunately At that time, I only burned a scar the size of a coin on my arm. If I hadn't done this, I really can't imagine what more stupid things I might have done. At that time, I gave myself a scar the size of a coin, which showed that I was not mature enough. Now I am mature enough and will never do such out-of-control things again. Having this scar is not a shameful thing. You can regard it as the beginning of your own maturity and become a truly promising man. That thing is over, it's over, don't think about it anymore. Imagine you have used a paper shredder to crush your habit of focusing on that scar on your arm. At the same time, actively imagine within yourself that after you do this, you feel safer inside, stronger, prouder, and more confident than ever before.

When you can do this regularly, the psychological problems that once troubled you will disappear on their own.

2. You said that you have read some NLP books in the past, but after doing it a few times, you forget about it and the effect is not obvious. The reason is that you suspect that you are not determined enough. Or you haven’t practiced association enough.

This is not the case.

The reason why the effect is not obvious is not that you are not determined enough, nor that you do not practice enough association, but that your mentality has not really changed, and you have not been able to carefully recognize the impact on you from your past actions. On the beneficial side, you still refuse to let go of the psychological shadow left by the past. This is the root cause of the lack of obvious results in your past.

In this case, although on the surface you are afraid that others will judge you negatively and you are focusing on others, in fact, the center of your attention is yourself.

The root of all human troubles lies in people's excessive concern for themselves. Therefore, the only effective way to get rid of this trouble is to forget yourself.

When you live with a selfless spirit, integrate your personal life into the life of all mankind, and strive for ideals, beliefs, and careers, you can transcend your personal existence and reach the universal. The existence of transcending the limited to reach the infinite, transcending the struggle for oneself and reaching the struggle for the freedom of all mankind, so as to live without worries, live satisfactorily, live unrestrained, live naturally, live with hope, obtain stability and The joy of harmony.

Selflessness is the highest state of the human spirit.