My mother often says these 7 things

Source_2017-10-29 Psychological Study Club

Children are the mirror of their parents, and parents are their children's role models. We are our children's parents, and more importantly our children's teachers. We are the objects of learning and role models for our children in all aspects.

I believe that the most important thing in a family is the family atmosphere. Children who grow up in a harmonious and warm family are better than children who grow up in a family environment where they quarrel every day, both in terms of emotional intelligence and personality. All aspects are welcome.

Many mothers often complain to me that their children are very disobedient, difficult to teach, and will not listen to anything they say. Sometimes I always talk about my children, but the children don't listen. I can't suppress my emotions and get angry at my children, scolding them, but I don't regret it later.

In fact, as long as the mother masters the correct way of speaking, whether it is educating or disciplining her children, it will become twice the result with half the effort.

When a child doesn’t want to go to bed

Mom should say this: It’s bedtime in 5 minutes. Should you wash up first or tell a story first?

But you can’t say this: It’s so late! Stop playing, hurry up, wash up and go to bed! I've told you several times and you still don't listen!

The child thinks like this: Mom, I’m not sleepy, I don’t want to sleep, maybe I want to do something interesting, I don’t know what time is about yet!

As long as you set a good bedtime, maybe I have set my biological clock, and I will slowly develop a regular bedtime. If you "say this" to me, I will choose things I like, Then go to bed again.

When children are dilly-dallying

Mom wants to say this: We are going out in 10 minutes. Should you get dressed now or hold on to your clothes?

But you can’t say this: Why are you still dawdling there? It's so late, hurry up! Did you hear that?

The child thinks like this: Mom, I don’t know what procrastination is, especially when I am doing something I like. I have no concept of time. If you “say this” to me, I will Make a choice.

When the child says "no"

Mom should say this: Well, you can say "no". But, I want to hear why you said "no" so that I can understand you.

But you can’t say this: You are a child, what do you know, don’t be so stubborn, I am doing it for your own good, you must listen to me!

The child thinks like this: Mom, every time I say "no", you are rejecting me. In fact, I want to be independent. I want to prove that I have grown up. If you treat me "Say this", I will bravely express my true thoughts.

When a child accidentally breaks something

Mom should say this: It’s okay. With experience this time, you won’t break things in the future. Everyone makes mistakes, and mom makes mistakes too, let’s try together and see if we can fix it.

But you can’t say this: Look at you, why are you so careless! This thing is so expensive, I won’t buy it for you next time!

The child thinks like this: Mom, every time I break something or make a mistake, I am very scared. I am afraid that you will scold me or hit me. If you "say this" to me, I will feel that you can understand me, and I will definitely be careful and pay attention in the future.

When children don’t want to pay attention to us

Mom should say this: Baby, mom feels that you are worried, can mom help you? Talk to your mother, it will make you feel better. Your mother is very worried about you.

Instead of saying: Hey, I’m talking to you! What's going on, what's going on, you kid, why are you ignoring me?

The child thinks like this: Mom, actually I just want to be alone for a while. Sometimes, I am thinking about my secrets. If you "say this" to me, I will feel that you love me very much. , maybe I’ll tell you the secret.

When a child refuses to play with toys for others

Mom should say this: Do you want to play for 5 minutes first and let him play for 10 minutes, or let him play for 5 minutes first and play by yourself? 10 minutes, or give him another toy?

But you can’t say this: Bring it to him and play with it for a while! Learn to share.

The child thinks like this: Mom, I like my toys very much, but I don’t want others to play with them because I’m afraid they will break them. If you "say that" to me, I'll probably give him another one to play with.

When children cry to achieve their goals

Mothers should say this: If you don’t cry, we will solve the problem together. Calm down first. What do you want to say to me?

But you can’t say this: Stop crying, you already know how to cry, what’s the use of crying! If you cry again, I won’t want you anymore!

The child thinks like this: Mom, when I cried before, you satisfied me and I got what I wanted. And crying is my instinctive way of expression, and I haven’t learned how to communicate yet. If you "say this" to me, you patiently teach me a new way.

As parents, when dealing with our children, we must pay attention to the way we speak and teach our children patiently.

A truly good parent and teacher is not about teaching children how many knowledge points, but about teaching them good learning methods and problem-solving methods.