Why are some children so smart and sensible?

Childhood is the most carefree, and children are naive and carefree.

But there is such a kind of children who are not so obedient. They are the "Xiong Haizi" that people talk about. Sabotage, pranks, unreasonable troubles and so on are all indispensable.

The opposite of Xiong Haizi is a good boy.

The understanding of a good boy is in sharp contrast to the uproar in Xiong Haizi. If Xiong Haizi makes people feel tired, then a good boy makes people feel distressed.

They are usually gentle, thoughtful, good at listening and considerate of others' feelings.

As soon as the baby is born, it grows up in the family. Children will form different personalities in the future because of different parenting styles. Many parents want their children to be clever and sensible and not to create trouble for themselves, but the children have done it, and they will not fight, cry or make trouble.

But is it really good to be so "sensible"? In fact, good children are not happy when they grow up, and may also form some personality defects.

1, used to please, no problem.

Children who are too sensible will look at people's faces, don't do things that make others unhappy, and gradually form a likable personality.

When I was a child, I was clever and sensible, seldom willful and obedient, and my parents did whatever they said.

In fact, they also have their own small temper and small thoughts, but they are afraid that speaking out will make their parents angry, so they dare not show it.

Therefore, in the future interpersonal communication, please others blindly, do everything carefully, and dare not refuse others, even if it will bring trouble to yourself.

They help others without asking for anything in return, but they have difficulties, but it is difficult for them to speak to others for fear of disturbing them.

Because they care about others' comments, they are afraid to do things, unwilling to show their thoughts, afraid of not being accepted and ignoring their feelings and thoughts. Without their own opinions, they will only listen to others and be pushed around at will.

2, sensitive inferiority complex, introverted depression

Because of parents' neglect, excessive criticism or disharmony of family environment, children will be too sensible, and behind this sensible is sensitive inferiority.

We think that children don't know anything, so many parents are either busy with their work and ignore their children;

Either quarrel all day because of trivial matters, regardless of the presence of children;

Or be strict with children and do everything well. ...

In fact, children are particularly sensitive to changes in parents and family atmosphere.

Parents' lack of care for their children, frequent quarrels between parents and tense relations will all affect their physical and mental health. They will long for their parents' approval and cater to their expectations. They will restrain their behavior and become smart because they want to improve family relations.

Therefore, they become lack of self-confidence and inferiority, suppress their inner thoughts and emotions, and dare not show them. If the inner thoughts contradict the superficial cunning, it may lead to psychological problems such as anxiety and depression.

3. Lack of sense of boundaries

An obedient and sensible child always thinks of others. They will worry about their parents' emotions and take on responsibilities that do not belong to them.

For example, if parents quarrel and don't cook, children will not only be afraid because of the change of family atmosphere, but also be hungry. At this time, the boss of the family has to take care of his brothers and sisters, cook and wash clothes, and worry about the lives of his parents and brothers and sisters.

When they grow up, they lack a sense of boundaries, rarely consider themselves, and it is often difficult to refuse the needs of their families and others.

Children are innocent and lovely, and being sensible should not be their only "label". I hope parents can pay attention to their children's mental health and make them different. Be patient with children.

1, the child made a mistake

Every child makes mistakes, and the process of children's growth is actually a process of making mistakes, so parents should be patient with their children. Just like the mother on the show, she has never been mean to her children. She is always gentle. She curls her hair up, does not wear makeup, and does everything gently. She wants her children to be sensible, so parents should be patient with them.

2. Be patient in the process of educating children.

Many parents are angry, and they will be particularly angry when they encounter something, as well as in the process of educating their children. In fact, parents are samples of children. If parents are too grumpy, then children will learn to do things like their parents. In a grumpy environment, children are either particularly grumpy when they grow up and learn from their parents' ways of dealing with people, so as to associate with their classmates, or they become particularly cowardly and do things only after Nuo Nuo, without the courage to take responsibility. No matter which way, a sensible and well-behaved child will not be educated, so parents must pay attention to their patience and be patient with their children in the process of education.

02

Accompany children

1, watch TV with children

In the program, my mother often watches TV with my heart in her arms, and my heart will dance and shout "Pulling radish". It is precisely because of the company of the mother that the child will grow into a sensible and well-behaved child. Now the social pressure is so great that everyone's life is in a hurry. Every parent wants their children to win at the starting line, and they all want to be at the starting line, so they work hard to earn money to support their families and hope to give their children better material living conditions, but sometimes this is not what children want.

After work, you might as well spend more time with your children, don't always play with your mobile phone, don't always ignore your children, care more about their growth and their mental health. In addition, we should pay attention to concentration in the process of companionship. Don't let the children watch TV, you are watching the mobile phone. Give children high-quality companionship, not companionship.

Step 2 play games together

In my life, I always play games with my children. In the process of playing games with children, you can not only give them a good company, give them a feeling of love, but also draw closer the relationship between you. Don't think that children's games are childish, so you are too lazy to take care of them. The child is your own, and everyone came from that time. You should give your children patience, time and growth. In addition, if there are any parent-child activities in the school, you must bring your children to participate, and don't let them feel inferior. Others are accompanied by their parents, but they have nothing. Such a child is sensitive, and his understanding and cleverness will make him grow up inappropriately.

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Let your child feel your love for him.

1. Tell your child that you love him.

In the present environment, many children are loveless. But parents may belong to the thoughts of the older generation, and it is difficult for them to express their love. This has caused the situation that children have no love and parents don't know how to express it. So if you want to educate a sensible and well-behaved child, you must tell your child your love for him.

In normal life, if your child does something wrong, you can tell him "I love you, but I don't want you to do this" instead of blaming him too much. On the one hand, it can express love for children, on the other hand, it can let children know that what they are doing is wrong. Since children are given a sense of security and can correct their mistakes, a word can achieve twice the result with half the effort, so parents should not be stingy to express their love and do not find it difficult to say it. When expressing it to your children, let them feel your love for them.

2. Show it with practical actions.

In the program, Xin 'er's mother is on a business trip to take care of her brother. The first thing she did when she came back was to see if the child had been wronged and give Xiner and her brother a kiss. Growing up in such an environment, the child will certainly become gentle and sensible, because her mother has given her infinite love. Therefore, you should express your love for your children with practical actions in your life, so that children will learn to treat others in your way. A caring child will be smart and sensible, and a violent child, you can't expect him to be smart and sensible. Therefore, parents are the benchmark for children, and parents should take good care of their children.

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Treat children equally.

Learn to treat children equally. On the one hand, children are equal people, so don't think that children are born to you, and treat them as you want. Children are also independent people, and they are eager to be treated equally. On the other hand, in some families, if there are two children, parents tend to prefer the youngest one, and everything will give way to the youngest one, but in such an environment, older children will lack the love of their parents. He can't feel the love of his parents, so he is withdrawn. Under such circumstances, it is impossible for a child to grow into a sensible and clever person.

Conclusion: Every parent likes sensible and intelligent children, and people will feel particularly envious when they see their hearts, but they often forget that it is their responsibility to educate their children. At the beginning of life, people are kind by nature, and when they are born, they will become particularly naughty, and when they are born, they will be withdrawn and indifferent. Therefore, educating children is a parent's problem, and it is the responsibility of parents to educate their children into a well-behaved and sensible child. Don't blame your children for not being sensible, but reflect on whether your education is appropriate. We should love our children, let them live in a loving environment and give them a correct education. Only in this environment can we become a sensible person. May every parent's efforts be rewarded, and may every child become sensible and smart.