Conscience says: I know what I can do and do the right thing

Chapter 2: Knowing but not doing, it’s just unknown - telling children to achieve the unity of knowing and doing

Source of allusion: “Knowing but not doing, it’s just unknown” comes from the fifth chapter of "Chuan Xi Lu" "This has been cut off by selfish desires, and is no longer the essence of knowledge and action. There is no one who knows but does not do it, and knows but does not do it, it is just unknown."

Practical explanation: Many parents are troubled by this phenomenon - the child said When it comes to principles, he understands everything but gives up as soon as he does something. Or, he often just talks about it and doesn't do it at all. why is that? A Xing and A Zhi told Xiao Yi and Xiao Liang that "knowing without doing is just unknown" and they must truly achieve "unity of knowledge and action". Only in this way can you become a trustworthy and reliable person.

Section 2 I know what I can do and do the right thing

"Dad, my classmate Manqi invites me to attend the COSPLAY dance organized by her mother tomorrow. Do you have time to go with me? "?" Xiao Yi asked his father.

"Okay, no problem." Ah Xing replied.

Tomorrow is Saturday. The whole family spent an early morning, put on the costumes of Balala, held a magic wand, got into their father’s car, and went to the dance venue.

The dance was held in a square at the entrance of a large shopping mall. When Xiao Yi and his father arrived there, there was no one there yet. They saw a temporary stage set up in the square and some people were busy on the side. Xiao Yi glanced around and didn't see Manqi. Manqi made an appointment with her at eight o'clock in the morning, and Xiao Yi arrived on time, no more, no less.

After about ten minutes, Xiao Yi saw Manqi and her mother arriving at the scene in a hurry. Xiao Yi hurriedly greeted him, said hello to Manqi's mother, and asked Manqi: "When will the dance start?"

Manqi looked around absentmindedly and said, "It's still early. You have to play by yourself for a while."

Xiaoyi responded and walked away a little aggrievedly.

The scene she saw here was completely different from the scene she imagined. When school was over yesterday, Manqi told her that she also invited other classmates to attend the dance, and the scene would be very lively. She specifically emphasized that you must wear beautiful and novel clothes, so that it will be fun.

Manqi glanced around and saw no other students except Manqi. Only around the stage were many little girls who looked about the same size as their younger brother Xiaoliang, wearing dance costumes, as if they were preparing to perform. Standing in the crowd, Xiao Yi felt that he was very different. Her face felt hot. Hiding behind dad, not daring to get into the crowd.

Ah Xing also noticed something strange. He gently stroked Xiao Yi's hair and said, "Did Manqi make a mistake? This doesn't look like a COSPLAY dance!"

Before Xiao Yi could say anything, a The young woman came over with a stack of flyers, handed them to Ah Xing, and said, "Does the child want to learn dance? If you are interested, take a look." Ah Xing took it over and looked at it. It was an enrollment flyer for a dance training class. . The contact person above is Manqi’s mother.

Ah Xing understood that Manqi’s mother was running a dance training class, and today’s event was to promote enrollment, not to organize a COSPLAY dance specifically for Primary One and the others. The reason why Manqi asked Xiao Yi to come was just to make up for the crowd and make it look lively.

Thinking of this and looking at his daughter with a disappointed expression on her face, A Xing couldn't help feeling angry. But then I thought, since it's here, let's wait a little longer, just in case there is really a cosplay dance.

Manqi and her mother were busy arranging for people to distribute flyers, answer questions from inquirers, and organize the children to perform on stage to increase the popularity. Many times when Manqi passed by Xiao Yi, she didn't even look at him, as if she hadn't invited Xiao Yi to come.

Xiao Yi looked down at his costume, then at the magic wand in his hand, feeling like he was being teased. She really didn't expect that Manqi turned out to be such a person! So unreliable!

A Xing lowered his head and asked his daughter: "Xiao Yi, why don't I take you to the mall to see if there is anything you want to buy.

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Xiao Yi was in a terrible mood. She didn't have time to go shopping. She raised her head, forced a smile and said, "No. Dad, let’s stay here for a while, just in case Manqi has arrangements. Be careful of delays. I promised her all. "

In this way, the father and daughter stayed in the corner near the stage until the end of the performance. Manqi was almost busy, and then he came over and said to Xiao Yi: "There is nothing wrong with us here. Yes, if you have something to do, please go back first. "

Hearing what Manqi said, Xiao Yi's heart was completely cold. She was not willing to give up and asked: "Manqi, didn't you say there are other students coming? Why don't you see anyone? "

Manqi said angrily: "None of them have credibility! We promised to come, but no one came! Hum, I will never play with them again. ”

“What about the COSPLAY dance party you mentioned? "Xiao Yi asked.

"Hahaha! Seeing Xiao Yi's serious expression, Manqi laughed: "I just said it casually to tease you!" I didn’t expect you to take it seriously. "

"How could you do this! ? "Xiao Yi finally couldn't help but exploded.

"There's nothing I can do. Seeing that Xiao Yi was angry, Manqi explained: "My mother's dance training class is going to promote enrollment, so she asked me to help her find some classmates to come and warm up." I said it was a cosplay party, but you were the only one who came; if I tell the truth, no one would come. The same goes for those classmates, all of them are monkeys and monkeys. Just be honest. "

Xiao Yi was speechless. She held back everything she wanted to say, stabilized her mood, and said, "Okay. I went back first. "

On the way home, Xiao Yi lowered his head and didn't say a word. A Xing knew that his daughter was feeling uncomfortable, so he kept comforting her.

As soon as he entered the house , Xiaoliang rushed up and shouted: "Sister, was the dance fun?

Azhi also smiled and asked: "Xiaoyi, how are you?" Did you have fun today? "

Xiao Yi angrily recounted the situation of attending the dance. After speaking, Xiao Yi added angrily: "My whole morning was wasted! I will never do such stupid things again! "

Hearing what Xiao Yi said, A Zhi felt very distressed and said, "My child, this is not a stupid thing, but the right thing. "

"I've been teased, aren't I stupid enough? "Xiao Yi asked back.

"Is Manqi your classmate? "Azhi asked.

"Yes, of course. "Xiao Yi had a blank expression on his face. He didn't know why his mother asked this.

"My classmate invited you to participate in her activities, and you agreed. Do you have to abide by the agreement? "Azhi asked next.

"Of course. Since I promised others, I must do it. "Xiao Yi replied.

"Then you did it? "Azhi asked.

"I arrived earlier than Manqi, and I listened to her and wore Balala's clothes and got a magic wand. I have done everything she promised me. "Xiao Yi replied.

"So, did you do anything wrong? "Azhi asked.

"I think I did nothing wrong. "Xiao Yi replied.

"So, who is wrong? "Azhi asked.

"This is all Manqi's problem. She shouldn't have cheated on me. Even if she told me the truth, I think I would help. "Xiao Yi said.

"Mom asked you, is it stupid for a person to do the right thing? "Azhi asked.

Xiao Yi thought for a while, with a relieved expression on his face, and said, "I was made angry by Manqi. She did something wrong, why should I bear the consequences?

Azhi smiled and said, "That's right." My daughter keeps her word, knows what she does, and has a clear conscience. Manqi should be ashamed of her behavior. "

"Oh," Xiao Yi sighed softly and said, "It's just a pity that half of my wonderful Saturday was wasted like this. "

"I don't think so. "Azhi said: "I learned that your time in the morning was not wasted, and it was fruitful.

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Xiao Yi looked at his mother with doubtful eyes, thinking, what have I gained?

Azhi continued: "I think you have gained at least two things. First, you gain self-understanding. You understand that what you did was the right thing and not stupid; secondly, you got to know Manqi, your classmate, again. Without this incident, you would not have known that Manqi had a problem with lying and not complying with agreements. "

The younger one nodded and said, "Mom is right, I will never believe other people's words again. "

Azhi shook his head and said seriously: "My child, if you think like this, you will lose yourself again. You trust your classmates because you live in the same environment and have a certain understanding of each other, but the degree of understanding may not be enough. If a classmate deceives you once, you will no longer trust her or even anyone else. This is your heart being affected by others and losing your self. If that's the case, then aren't you and Manqi the same? The reason why she lies to you is because she is afraid of telling you the truth and you won't help. The root cause is that she doesn't believe you. If she believed you, why would she lie? On the other hand, because of this incident, you no longer trust others. Are you like Manqi? "

The younger one nodded and said, "I trust others, what if I get deceived again?

Azhi said: "For example, if you choose to trust Manqi again, if she deceives you again, it means that she did not realize her wrong behavior. In this case, you are basically You can make a judgment on whether to continue being friends with her. This is what people often say, only three things matter. If she stops cheating on you and treats you sincerely, it means that through this incident, she has realized herself. At the same time, I also understand you as a person and truly believe in you. In other words, she was changed by you and became better. In this case, you have gained a friend. The most important thing is that during this process, you never lost yourself and were not affected by Manqi's mistakes. Just imagine, one Manqi can affect you. In the future, there will be more people like Manqi. Everyone's mistakes will affect you, so what kind of mistakes will you make? I’m afraid I won’t even recognize myself by then. "

After listening to his mother's words, Xiao Yi suddenly understood and said: "Thankfully my mother helped me analyze so much, otherwise, I will make Manqi's problem in the future and I still don't know it. "

Conscience said: People often say that society is a big dye vat. In fact, dye vats are everywhere. Families and schools are also dye vats. The difference is just different dyes.

In this Based on the premise, how should we define "person"?

Some people say that people who are just born, or people who have just entered society, are like a blank piece of paper. Yes, everyone's nature is innocent. However, in this case, there is a big problem. The white paper itself cannot decide what kind of paint is stained, and can only be at the mercy of others, coming out of this dye vat and then into that dye vat. Go, dye it, and you can’t even recognize yourself.

Although no one wants to be like this, in fact, many people are like this, because they lack independent thinking and self-awareness. There is only one way to escape from such a tragic fate, and that is to let yourself be the one holding the paintbrush, and it is up to you to decide what paint you want to apply. At this level, you at least have the ability to think independently.

Even so, you may not be able to draw works that satisfy you. You also need to master the painting methods: how to compose pictures, how to use brushes, and colors. Matching, etc. If you don't master these methods, then there will be a big gap between the work you draw and the picture you imagined.

These so-called methods are knowledge; writing. The process is action.

Mr. Yang Ming said that the beginning of action is the beginning of practice, and the beginning of success is mastering the method.

Xiaoyi and Manqi. Relationships are a very small part of her life. Manqi handed Xiao Yi a box of inferior dye. The paint brush in Xiao Yi's hand was already stained with it, and A Zhi stopped her just in time. .

First of all, Achi tells Xiaoyi what is the right thing and what is the wrong thing.

This is to clean the brush and wash away the poor quality paint that was originally stained on the brush.

Secondly, Achi told Xiao Yi to insist on doing the right things and not to be affected by other people's mistakes. It's all about re-dipping with good quality paint and painting the right way.

Life is the process of painting. As you paint, you paint yourself into it. When we were young, before we went to school, our parents taught us how to paint step by step. When we got a little older, when we went to school, teachers began to teach us how to paint. When we become adults, we really hold the paintbrush in our hands.

Only a person who combines knowledge and action can draw works that satisfy himself and please others.