When a child reaches the rebellious stage of youth, he always likes to mess with his parents when doing things. How to deal with this?

The youthful rebellious period is a process that everyone has experienced. As a parent, you have also experienced your own fifteen or seventeen years old, so you don’t always have to preach to your children as someone who has experienced it.

When a child enters adolescence, it indicates that the child will grow up, break away from the protection of his parents, and spread his wings to fly to higher places. But at this time, it is just the child's idea. His behavior is not yet capable of such capabilities, but it is always good to have ideas. As a parent, you must fully understand your children's desire to make the decision for their own lives, and respect your children's ideas. Maybe the child's ideas are naive, or there is no benefit at all. But this is the first step for children to take their own lives. Parents should sympathize with their children's thoughts, respect their children's psychology, and communicate with them on an equal footing.

As a parent, you must respect your children, respect your children's right to speak, and respect your children's ideas. Nietzsche said: "I don't agree with your ideas, but I will defend to the death your right to speak." A child's right to speak is a symbol of the child's expression of himself, so as a parent, you must be patient and listen to your child's thoughts, and try to stand on your side. Understand the child from the child's perspective and give the child the opportunity to make decisions for himself.

If you want your children to treat society in the right way, you should lead by example, set an example for your children, and make agreements.

Adolescent children also have very bad tempers, sometimes even worse than their parents. You are cruel to me, and I am more cruel than you. What to do?

You should be more kind to your children, so that your children can feel your care and love, and treat them the same no matter how they fare in the exam. Appreciate your children no matter what they wear. But parents should set an example by setting an example for their children by reading and studying at home. Make an agreement not to use mobile phones at home, so that children can see what their parents do instead of just listening to their parents' preaching.

Many parents have not realized their life ideals and always hope that their children can get ahead. This is so ridiculous.

A child has his own ideas and ideals. His life is not a continuation of his parents, but a brand new life. Therefore, parents should not always say: "What do you need to do to get into such and such a university?" Instead, they should communicate with their children about what they like, want to study, and what kind of person they want to be in the future.

Actually, I don’t think there are any rebellious children, but that parents are too self-righteous. They always feel that they are right and that they are doing it for their children. But what do children really need? What do parents really want? Do you understand?

How to deal with children in the rebellious period of adolescence

? Adolescent rebellion is a process that many children have to go through, but it has always been distressing for many parents. It was obvious that he had raised the children by himself, and he had put in so much effort, but in the end, the children moved further and further away from him. Many parents miss the way their children talked to them about everything when they were young, but when they grow up, they have nothing to talk about, and sometimes they even contradict themselves. In fact, as long as parents correct their understanding and mentality in time, this is the only way for children to grow.

? If a child is rebellious, it is not necessarily a bad thing. First of all, rebellion means that the child is slowly maturing and starting to have his own thinking. This is a manifestation of the child's growth. If a child has always been an "obedient" baby, he will have no opinion of his own when he enters society and becomes submissive. On the contrary, such rebellious children have personal thoughts, so rebellion is not necessarily a bad thing. It represents the maturity of the child.

? Secondly, rebellion is a way to vent bad emotions. This is related to the psychological development of children. When children enter adolescence, they will become sensitive and emotionally changeable when faced with various pressures. If the pressure cannot be released, it will also be detrimental to the children's mental health. Very disadvantageous.

? If a child is rebellious in adolescence, it is not only a process of psychological development, but also a normal phenomenon, but the cause of rebellion also has a lot to do with the family. Adolescence is a crisis in the parent-child relationship. If it is not handled well, the parent-child relationship will go to extremes, and the child's psychology will become that unhealthy person.

Therefore, parents should also pay attention to the methods of educating children who are in the rebellious period. You can try the following methods!

1. Squat down and communicate with your children and show respect

Influenced by traditional culture, many parents always use a commanding tone and a condescending attitude when speaking to their children. You were born by me, so you should listen to me. Therefore, once the child goes against his will, he will not be able to bear it. He will feel that the child is always working against him, and then he will yell or yell at the child. If he does not relieve his anger, he will be beaten. For children in the sensitive period, doing so will only make the child more disobedient, so when we really want to get angry, we can first go to a quiet place to calm down, and we must say silently in our hearts: Don’t be angry, don’t be angry. ...because we have no ability to judge when we are angry. When we control our emotions and then squat down to communicate with our children, this is respect. It is a hundred times more effective than yelling!

2. Effective Communication

The success or failure of any communication does not occur during the communication process, but is determined before the communication. Many parents will become the "Tang Monk" in life after their children show rebellious behavior. They will first bombard them with a lot of truths, and then recite the "tightening curse". If it doesn't work, just like the girl's aunt in the case, Use force to solve problems. Is it actually useful? Useless. What you do will only make your child more rebellious. So what is effective communication? It is also very simple, just communicate with the children on an equal footing and speak to them in a consultative tone.

3. Respect children and be patient

? Around the age of 3, a child’s self-awareness begins to sprout. He hopes to have a sense of control. He hopes to be able to do everything independently. Children as young as 3 years old have this awareness that they can make the decision themselves, let alone older children. Therefore, in the face of all the behaviors and thoughts displayed by children, as parents, we must give them the right to express their opinions, and patiently listen to them before considering their thoughts. This is true respect for them. But few parents can do this. When their children really show rebellious behavior, many parents will be triggered by their children within a few minutes and either yell or yell at their children, or else they will beat them. In fact, this is a taboo in communicating with children. The most rebellious child can't stand is the "authority" of his parents. The more you oppress him, the more he will resist. Sometimes it seems that we have won, but in fact we have lost, and we have lost very thoroughly. We have planted the seeds of rebellion in the hearts of our children. Therefore, as parents, when a child confronts us, he has already shown a tendency to be rebellious. We must be patient with him. The more rebellious the child is, the more patient we must communicate with him, otherwise the child will become even more rebellious.

? When facing rebellious children, you must be more patient and control your emotions, otherwise you will not even dare to imagine the consequences!

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Hello, when children reach the rebellious stage of youth, they always like to struggle with their parents when doing things. First of all, we say to ourselves that this is something that every child will experience, and it is inevitable. phenomenon, and then allow yourself to calm down and rationally analyze what things your children do that are bothering you, and do it right, not the person. If it doesn't matter, don't worry about it. Respect your child's choice!

At this time, you must learn to understand and tolerate your children. When you let your children feel your inner love, your children will also show respect and restraint when facing you!

In short, when children reach the rebellious stage of youth and always like to struggle with their parents when doing things, parents should first make changes and rationally adjust the methods of disciplining their children instead of dealing with conflicts emotionally!

The rebellious period of children is a problem that many parents will encounter. Parents should try their best to provide adequate companionship and care to their children since they are young, and care about their psychology, health, learning, and development. Be a witness, companion, and guide to their growth process. Parents need to care about their children's mental health at every stage, talk to them more, talk about the basic principles and principles of life, and provide appropriate sexual enlightenment and education to help children avoid protecting themselves or hurting others. Good parents and children are not stupid. error. When children are rebellious, it is a time for parents to test themselves. At this time, parents should set an example and set a good example for their children by being people who love work, love family, love learning, have good conduct, have a positive attitude, and are positive.

Communicate more with your children and give them enough care. When your children don't need too much or too much care, keep a certain distance and don't interfere too much. As a parent, you should be an understanding person.

A child's rebellion shows that he has grown up. At least he was in elementary school or junior high school. The word "big" here does not mean that he is older, but that his mind has grown up. It's normal, because he has his own opinion. My ideological stance and views on things are completely different from those of my parents. It is what we adults call rebellious without good children. Well, I encountered such a situation. As parents we don’t have to worry. This is just a character detail of children as they grow up and seek independence. When we are in contact and communication, we only need to acknowledge him. Even if he does something wrong, first affirm his initiative, and then try to enlighten and reason with him. That is to say, the soft ones come first and stand on the same ground as him, and then the tough ones come later. The so-called tough ones mean to be reasonable and practical. Then he will recognize you. If you object at first, he won't listen to your explanation again. In fact, this is just a matter of communication method. Those who are rebellious in the world do not mean they are bad children. They are good children if they are guided in the right direction. Come on [Rose]

Parents, don’t panic! Please do the following. First, be good at listening. Adolescent children need more of their own space. What a family member needs to do is to be good at listening to the child's inner world and listen to his inner thoughts.

Second, don’t nag. As a companion to adolescent children, don’t nag. This will seriously affect the child’s mood. In severe cases, it will lead to jumping off the building or causing psychological depression due to excessive suppression. . At this stage, more is needed for the silent company of family members.

Thirdly, as long as it is not a major event, all educational methods and methods for children must stop at the end. What needs to be done at this time is to give the child confidence that he can do well.

Based on the above three points, it can be concluded that the tacit understanding between family members and children is achieved through patient waiting. Definitely not from education! ! !

The "rebellious period" is a growth process that almost every child has to go through. As a father, I have also encountered such troubles. After children enter the "rebellious period", they often have conflicts with their parents. There are verbal conflicts, and sometimes, the children will even express inner protests against me in their behavior. Like most parents, they are at a loss as to what to do. I once asked a friend's child, a girl who usually seems to be very well-behaved. She said that during the "rebellious period" she is also prone to the emotion of opposing her parents in her heart, but she does not or dare not express it in language and behavior. It shows. Now that I'm in college, looking back, I don't understand why. I think that when we label the growth stage of children from innocence to maturity and independence as a "rebellious period", it expresses a kind of helplessness. At this time, we should no longer impose our own ideas on children, and we should no longer use preaching methods to communicate with children. We should gradually treat children as independent-thinking members of the family, and communicate and communicate on an equal footing. Many parents are not used to this process, and the so-called "rebellious period" symptoms will gradually disappear by the beginning of the second year of high school.

The simple solution to this problem is: first, try to get into the child's mind, first understand his (her) attitude towards things or a certain problem, and what principles he or she deals with, and then try to change his or her position. Think about why from a child’s perspective. The second is to transform the role of the parent into a good friend of the child, talk to the child about some topics or people and things that the child cares about or is interested in, treat the child as a friend, and don't always ask, order, or scold rigidly! Relieve the psychological discomfort between children and parents, and things will get better over time! Rebellion does not happen in a day, and melting does not happen in a day. You need to stay down, be patient, work hard for a long time, and wait for the flowers to bloom!

The child's "youth rebellious period" is better said to be the child's further self-awareness. When we talk about the "teenage rebellious period", we usually associate it with some bad behaviors of children, causing a series of bad associations and anxieties. I think we, as parents, should first have a good attitude. Your anxiety will actually affect your children. Children are constantly growing and discovering themselves. We must allow them to have unique insights and opinions. We must treat them as equal adults like ourselves, communicate more, and try to find out what your interests and similarities are. As an entry point, guide them subtly instead of scolding them at every turn.

My child has also reached this age, and I will find that she is more assertive than before and less willing to listen to nagging, so I will quickly change roles and become her friend. She likes anime, so I go and read it when I have free time. She likes Osamu Dazai, so I buy his books. When chatting with her, she will feel that she has something in common with you, and she will be willing to chat with you, and then chat with her. After you feel happy, talk to her about what she has done poorly recently, and many problems will slowly be solved! Not every child will do something outrageous when they reach the rebellious stage. This is just a process for them to move to a new level. All we have to do is calm support and patient guidance!