12-year-old children are depressed! The harm of "crying poor" education is far greater than your imagination.

How many people have been hurt by the concept that "girls should be full and boys should be poor"?

There is indeed a difference between raising boys and girls, but the so-called "poor support" and "rich support" are not only material, but also spiritual. Compared with material and spiritual richness, it can give children a sense of security.

At the beginning of school, my friend took a nap with her 12-year-old child but went all over the children's hospital in Hangzhou! At first I thought it was because the child didn't adapt to school, but gradually I felt that the child's spirit was a bit strange.

The teacher told her that children don't listen to instructions in class, don't concentrate, don't associate with classmates, and often swear and don't answer, which caught her attention.

After going to two children's hospitals, the final conclusion is the same: the child suffers from communication stress disorder, not depression! Doctor's advice: decompress, let your child get in touch with nature and communicate with him more. At the same time, you need to go to the psychology department to find a professional doctor to do language training.

Take a nap and cry bitterly: "I never thought this would happen to me ..."

Recalling the children's daily life during the summer vacation, she always blamed herself and said, "I killed him!" " "It is a happy thing for the beast to return to the cage, but it is a bolt from the blue for a nap.

Adolescent children are rebellious and didn't report to cram school during the summer vacation. They stayed at home for more than two months. She complained a few days ago, but now she has a headache at the sight of the child.

Every time I am in a bad mood, I complain and get angry with him. Sometimes, I even feel that children are a burden. But every time I get angry, I can't help feeling distressed.

In this way, from disgust to guilt, I didn't expect the child to pass on his pessimism and complaints about life to the child in this process.

12-year-old child's lack of self-control makes his fragile mind worse.

Crying Poor is not only telling children that life is not easy, but also complaining about material shortage, decadent thinking and depressed life. How can parents have the heart to let a child share the difficulties that adults can't bear?

Recently, the case of Wu, a Peking University student who sensationalized the whole network, was publicly pronounced in the first instance, and the trial recorded the whole process of his crime.

But for Wu, killing his mother is "helping his mother get rid of it"!

Teachers and classmates also spoke highly of Wu, calling him a master of learning and a god of learning! Why did such an excellent child take the road of killing his mother?

It is reported that Wu's father died of a serious illness, leaving him and his mother alone. My mother has a hard life, and I often chat with her. He is like a "trash can", let her pour out her emotions until she can't stand it any longer, and then it breaks out completely, leading to tragedy. ...

Complaining and "crying poor" will hurt children's psychology. Experts suggest that crying poor education does more harm than good to children.

What harm will "Crying Poor" education do to children?

Emma, a doctoral supervisor at China University of Political Science and Law and a criminal psychologist in China, said: "He will feel inferior and think that he is afraid to communicate with others because of poverty, and the pattern will become smaller. There will even be a series of psychological changes such as extreme, depression, paranoia and depression, which will affect his character. "

Unfortunately, in the traditional concept, parents are unconscious, and they always think that daily gossip is a normal communication with their children, but they ignore the age factor.

Educator Li Meijin once said: "Children's problems are often created by adults. Every psychological or behavioral problem of a child must be related to the behavior of parents and the way parents educate. "

The influence of family background on people is an epidemic, so that after many years, it still hurts to think of it.

In fact, being a parent is an art that never goes out of date. As a new parent, only by mastering the law of children's growth can we keep up with the pace of children and grow together.

Teaching students in accordance with their aptitude is not just lip service. ...