Who is the weak in the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law?

In the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, mother-in-law is often not the weak party, but the daughter-in-law is the helpless party.

Let's look at a story. Before getting married, Xiaoqing told her husband that she was afraid that she would not get along well with her family after getting married, but her husband patted her chest and said that her parents and siblings were easy to get along with. A month or two after marriage, she got along well with her husband's family. But in the days of getting along, she realized that her husband's family was not so easy to get along with, and sometimes Sunny obviously felt that she was rejected by this family. But her husband was around, which somewhat resolved some unhappiness in Xiaoqing's heart. But for a while, Xiaoqing's husband needed to travel. During her husband's business trip, her husband's behavior made her feel extremely cool.

Sometimes when everyone eats together, her aunt whispers to her mother-in-law, and then tells her brother to skip her. Moreover, when they were whispering, they looked at her intentionally or unintentionally, which made her feel puzzled. No matter whether they spoke ill of her or not, that kind of behavior was obviously exclusive. What's even more irritating is that when I get home after working overtime at night, there are not many cold meals and cold dishes left. Mother-in-law also lied that the food was not enough. Do you want to cook more for her? For the first time, Xiaoqing said politely, you can do it yourself; The second time, Xiaoqing was really tired and agreed. Who knows, my mother-in-law just said that she didn't intend to do it for her at all. When Xiaoqing promised, she just found a reason to say that she was not available. As a result, Xiaoqing solved it herself. Ironically, afterwards, her mother-in-law told her sister-in-law in front of her that other people's daughter-in-law wanted to reduce her mother-in-law's burden, and her daughter-in-law would only push everything to her mother-in-law. My sister-in-law listened to a mother's words and blindly echoed: I don't know how she can be someone else's daughter-in-law. When I become a daughter-in-law, I will certainly honor my mother-in-law.

At that moment, Xiaoqing was full of grievances and anger. She wants to quarrel, but when she thinks that her husband is not at home, don't let him worry. Forget it. Then she pretended not to hear and walked away. What is even more ridiculous is that Xiaoqing's husband seems to think that his family will be particularly kind to Xiaoqing when he is on a business trip. Because his mother will call him and tell his wife that it is too hard to work overtime. His mother also told him that she often cooks good food for his daughter-in-law. Xiaoqing couldn't tell her husband clearly, so she had to try not to eat at home. She doesn't go home for dinner if she works overtime. She thought that in this case, the days would stop, but who knows? Not long after, my husband called back with accusations and censorship. "I always don't go home for dinner. Have you had dinner with anyone? " ,

My mother cooks your favorite meal every day, and you don't say hello or come back to eat. Hearing her husband's accusation, Xiaoqing told the whole story, but her husband didn't believe it. They had a quarrel, and both of them hung up angrily.

Xiaoqing more think more injustice. She ran downstairs and said to her mother-in-law who was watching TV, "When will I not go home for dinner and call you in advance? When did you cook my favorite food? Which eye can you tell that I came home late because I was fooling around outside? "

Unexpectedly, the mother-in-law has been silent like the lamb's daughter-in-law suddenly became so angry, and immediately put on a look of injustice: "I didn't say anything, I only told Jie (Xiaoqing's husband) that I don't know why you suddenly didn't go home for dinner." If you don't go home for dinner, the cooked food will be wasted. ""Didn't I tell you not to go home for dinner in advance? What's more, even if I go home for dinner, when will there be any extra food left for me? No, I have to cook it myself.

""You blame me now. I am an old man. Is it easy for me? " "You which is not easy, sow discord all day. How can I go out to eat with other men? " "I didn't say." "Your son said what you said. You swear you didn't say that? "At this time, my sister-in-law and brother-in-law got in a word with my father-in-law. One said that my mother was not like this, and my sister-in-law wronged her. One said that she was there when mom called, but mom never said that. My father-in-law is even more confident: she is your mother-in-law, and you can't talk to her loudly for any reason. Xiaoqing knew that her mother-in-law had said these words, because her husband clearly said that her mother saw them. However, her husband's family always listed her as an "outsider". Let her angry, and a sense of powerlessness, let Xiao Qing sad is that kind of isolation. You know the other person is wrong, but you can't yell at him. Reasoning, the other side distorts the facts. That feeling is from the heart.