Tell me if you don’t like drinking alone.

Escape loneliness

Alcoholism is often described as "a disease of loneliness."

We drink alcohol mainly for social and entertainment reasons at first. Infusing alcohol into the body helps us to be enthusiastic, cheerful and versatile in an instant.

However, once the effects of alcohol wear off, what remains is a greater sense of alienation and a sense of being out of place, which also makes our mood even more depressed and difficult to resolve. At the same time, if we feel guilty, ashamed and uneasy about our drunken or drunken behavior, these complicated emotions can easily make us feel abandoned and exiled - endless darkness and indescribable feelings. Heart-wrenching pain. So we quickly picked up our glasses again.

While we drink alcohol, we come into contact with people from time to time. However, most of the conversations we consider important are kept deep inside ourselves and never easily spoken out. We're pretty sure we're never understood, and we often don't care much if we're understood by anyone else.

Years of alcoholism make us suspicious, distrustful, and self-centered of others. We habitually show intolerance, stubbornness, and indifference, as if we have always been withdrawn and difficult to get along with.

When we begin to have the opportunity to develop normal interpersonal relationships with others, and even accept friendship from others. The burden of fear within us often holds us back for years, and we begin to feel lonely and depressed. The outdated thinking of the past can easily encourage us to pick up that first glass of wine again.

Facing the challenges of alcoholism alone is so dangerous, and even with great determination and desire, there are almost no examples of people who can overcome it on their own. When you are alone, the thought of drinking often creeps into your mind, sneakily and cunningly. When we feel lonely and empty, the urge to drink always seems to defeat us faster and stronger.

But now that we can sail forward with other like-minded friends, our journey to recovery will be safer, more meaningful and more secure. Therefore, we are no longer taboo about asking others for help. Accepting help from others during the recovery process is not a sign of cowardice. It is extremely meaningful to cooperate and work together with others, because we all need to help each other.

Of course, each of us needs some time alone to sort out our thoughts, conduct self-reflection, or deal with some personal matters to release the accumulated stress of daily life. But it is quite dangerous if we overindulge ourselves and wallow in isolation. Especially when our mentality gradually becomes withdrawn, depressed, and self-pitying, it is better to be with friends than to be alone and feel sorry for ourselves.

For these reasons, our advice to people who have just stopped drinking is to “avoid letting yourself get too lonely.”

When the thought of drinking comes to mind, if you can pause your thinking and find someone to talk to or communicate with others online as soon as possible, you can at least start to get out of that dangerous state of isolation and helplessness.