Will your mother-in-law provide for her old age if she doesn't pay or contribute?

I think this question is particularly good. I don't know what it's like in other places. Anyway, in this corner of our countryside, the second half of this question is: No! I dare not say that 1% people will do this, but people who do this will account for a considerable part!

Many daughters-in-law here often threaten their mother-in-law. If you don't do this, it's none of your business until you get old! Gradually, this seems to have become an unwritten agreement. Sometimes, when my mother-in-law says: When we can do it now, we don't care about our daughter-in-law. When we are old, we can't move, and our daughter-in-law won't care about our affairs.

alas, I really want to shout when I hear that. When you are old, how can your daughter-in-law stay out of your business! But I can't roar. I feel that there are high and thick walls around me. They are like echo walls. My roar is deafening, and no one can hear it, let alone understand it!

As for the reasons for yelling, I don't think it's necessary to say more. Anyone who can be upright, open and bright knows this cliche: filial piety is the foundation of being a man! In fact, we don't have to compare ourselves with the dutiful son who is immortal. We just compare ourselves with the livestock and animals. Think about "the sheep has the grace to kneel and the crow has the meaning to feed back". My mother-in-law gave her son all her life's property together with a little residual value left in her old age free of charge-her daughter-in-law is the direct beneficiary. What reason do you have to say not to give her mother-in-law a pension?

Of course, the complaints above are directed at male compatriots. Maybe it's "I married my daughter-in-law and forgot my mother", or maybe my daughter-in-law got dizzy with pain ... In short, married male compatriots often agree with her daughter-in-law's demanding of her mother-in-law-no money, no effort, no matter you when you are old!

Here, I would like to ask my female compatriots weakly: Did your parents contribute money for you? Do you provide for her old age? -in my humble opinion, the female compatriots here in our countryside are fond of their parents who neither pay nor contribute! This book is understandable. But since we are talking about this "Wukong question and answer", we'd better make the "contributions" of "mother-in-law" and "mother-in-law" clearer.

Let's talk about my mother-in-law's "miserable world" first, or take my corner as an example. When the son gets married, the man should have a building in the countryside, and now it will cost 2 thousand together with the yard; There should also be buildings in the county, and the down payment should be 2 thousand; When engaged, the man has to pay 18 thousand bride price money; When getting married, the man has to pay 18 thousand wedding money. -This is our "top 18, bottom 18". In the meantime, the man must buy a car; When discussing marriage, the man has to spend tens of thousands; When the daughter-in-law marries the door, the man will have to spend tens of thousands ... So the man can marry a daughter-in-law in the countryside without a million dollars! And the money, is the man's parents scrimp and save, borrow from the east and borrow from the west, and ask grandpa to tell grandma. After the son gets married, these accounts are for the man's parents to face alone.

it's natural for parents to pay off their debts. Our daughter-in-law will confidently say, if you don't pay off your son, why don't you want him? !

-this is the "miserable world" of our mother-in-law! Carrying hundreds of thousands of debts, we have to look after our grandchildren without complaining; Look at the time, run to the field to plant some crops, and finally collect something and sell it for a little money, and give half to my son ... We can know with our toes how "miserable" such a mother-in-law can be! Of course, a capable mother-in-law and a father-in-law who can earn money may be better in front of their daughter-in-law. Alas, let's tell a true story.

A teacher here can still get a salary of several thousand yuan a month, so he should be an "elder" in front of his daughter-in-law. But one day, the daughter-in-law scolded her mother-in-law! When this teacher heard this, it's not bad. What's the family style? Where is the ethics? Where is morality? As a result, the tram slammed into the daughter-in-law's family. Who knows, my mother's hands rested on her hips, and her words were so thick: My daughter is like this, you can pass if you can, but you can't leave if you can't! The teacher was blindsided and had to go home with his head drooping.

-an "elder" who has a salary is still like this. How about a farmer?

As the saying goes, there is no harm without comparison. Let's talk about the happy life of "mother's family".

When the daughter goes out, the proud in-laws will symbolically spend some money to buy a dowry; But if you meet a shameless in-law, the "top 18, the last 18" given by the man are all meat buns hitting the dog, and there is no return.

as for helping the daughter look after the children after marriage? -"Hey, she is old at home", and most of her parents will shirk it (except for a few cases). But when her mother-in-law is sick and needs to be taken care of, her mother-in-law will say, "She (mother-in-law) didn't give birth to her (daughter-in-law) to raise her (daughter-in-law)." -look, at this time, my mother-in-law fell from the throne of "old family".

But when my parents are sick and use money to hire people, I really haven't heard anyone say, "If you don't have enough money, you won't give old-age care"!

-alas, poor mother-in-law and happy mother-in-law!

in this title, where are the sons who are men? In fact, the crux of this problem is still the son's problem! Really, I feel that the son of an ungrateful slave haw is not as good as a silly daughter.

-I'm not a male chauvinist, but I pursue the equality between men and women, the equality of family ethics, and the simple and honest marriage view. Perhaps when the "young couple" are awake and have the morality of "caring for the elderly and caring for the elderly", there will be no such voice as "no money, no contribution, no pension"!

but when it comes to "morality", let's say a few more words, because I saw a netizen say, "I abide by the Civil Code, so it's good to be legal"! Here I also want to talk about my cognition. Although I am not a legal worker, I always feel that the law is the bottom line of a society, and obeying the law is only the lower limit of a person. Morality is the upper limit of being a man and a high standard for people in a society. For example, talking loudly in public places may not be illegal, but it is against morality. Daughter-in-law does not support her mother-in-law, and there may be no clear legal constraints, but it violates her own conscience and public order and good customs.

don't you think so?