Boyfriend's ex-wife is very arrogant, and her boyfriend is still United with her. What should I do?

Boyfriend's ex-wife is very arrogant, and her boyfriend is still United with her. What should I do? I am most afraid that I have not touched others, but I have touched myself first. My boyfriend is older than me 15 years old. He used to be married, but later divorced and had children. After his ex-wife knew that he had me, she pestered him and completely ignored me. What should I do?

His ex-wife divorced him because she wanted to add a name to the real estate license (the house was bought by her boyfriend's parents in full), and she wanted money. If not, she threatened to divorce. She didn't threaten her children from three months ago until everyone was exhausted and went through the divorce procedure. At the beginning of the divorce, his ex-wife went to his parents' house to make a scene, and even dragged his mother to the community to chase after his ass. I wrote an agreement and gave her money when I got divorced. She refused to recognize her son all her life. In the first six months, she pretended to be single and fell in love without even looking after the children.

She brainwashed my object every day, saying that the child must grow up in the family of origin, and shared with him the news that the stepmother had harmed the child. I can't tell anyone since I entered the door. The children tell me stories every day. The child keeps calling me mom. I get along well with this child. I don't know how she has the face to pester me like this. Ironically, however, my date was brainwashed by her. I also think that children will be rebellious when they grow up and understand, or after puberty. I can't restrain him.

I get along well with his parents, brothers and sisters. His mother is always as cold as ice. I washed her feet and rubbed her legs every day all winter, so this time they thought I was leaving, scolding him and persuading me. But he can't wake up like a demon.

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The reason why his ex-wife was so arrogant at that time was even incredible. Your prospective mother-in-law (of course, she is not a prospective mother-in-law now) provided a little clue and you caught her. That is, when she first met you, she felt that she could not be nice to you, because the former one was spoiled. As for whether it is customary not to mention it, at least one thing is certain, that is, your boyfriend appreciates this kind of woman. And is the ex-wife really a person who wants money and doesn't want children? This is also questionable. Because judging from the reason why your boyfriend wants to get back together with her, it seems that your boyfriend is more dependent on her and counting on her money, although it may only be hundreds of thousands. So when I met you, I told you that my ex-wife loves money and doesn't want to love children. It may be a projection that your boyfriend loves money himself, so he thinks everyone loves money.

Why was the ex-wife so noisy? On the one hand, it does not rule out that the other person's personality is indomitable and makes things big. On the other hand, he may feel that his husband has always owed himself. How did I get this out? Because your boyfriend brought his sister home behind your back, you caught the evidence. Don't you think this happened in his previous marriage? It's just that he may not choose to tell you. When he told you, he stuck himself with crazy gold and put the problem on his ex-wife. Moreover, he saw you and pursued you madly, but didn't tell you that he was divorced until you happened to see him. Obviously, he deliberately hid you until he couldn't hide it. Then he said, I'll give you time to think clearly. Sounds good, doesn't it? Did he really give you time? Not at all. He said to give you some time, but he kept picking you up and crying for you every day. Please don't leave him. This is called giving you time? You have no time at all. You can look at him calmly and not be disturbed by him. So, as a result, we also know that you will continue to be with him with a soft heart.

With children, children are also used by him. The first time a child sees you, he is called "mom". The birth of the biological mother in October has a profound influence on every child, so that's why abandoned children still feel that way when they first meet their biological mother when they grow up. But children have only such attachment instinct to their mothers, but not to others. Even a father may need to be established slowly after birth, let alone a complete stranger. How could he see a stranger want to hug and call him "mom" directly? It was taught by adults. As for who taught it, I don't have to tell you to guess.

So your boyfriend is an old driver, playing with a woman who is inexperienced (don't think that she is inexperienced, I mean that she doesn't handle intimate relationships deeply). That's a real set of things. He should be keenly aware of your goodness from the moment he sees you, which also includes good manipulation. That's true. He lets you fall into his layout step by step, and then works for them. Later, if you are not satisfied, you will start work and make all kinds of excessive demands.

I think you will understand later, not his ex-wife, but him! Since his ex-wife thinks that such men will continue after divorce, let them continue. Maybe if you leave, they will be separated again soon.

Then talk about your problem. Why is it that a person who concealed his marriage history from the beginning can coax you into it by being persistent, pretending to be pitiful and caring? Because you want to prove that you deserve to be loved. From the beginning of love, you want to run to the man's house to be a snail girl. You can see that. Your prospective mother-in-law is afraid to be nice to you because of her ex-wife. You immediately serve in various ways, just to prove to everyone that you deserve to be kind to you. You are a hundred times better than your ex-wife. If the ex-wife doesn't want children, you should, and take the children as your own, take good care of them, and even kiss them more than the father. When does a person need to prove himself? She thinks she is not good enough. What needs to be stated here is that I don't think you are not good enough. I think you are really nice and kind. But why keep proving yourself in this relationship? Maybe you have a panic and worry in your heart. I don't know about that. We can't go any further. And if you don't handle this part of your problem, you will leave a love rat today, and love rat, who wants to find a kind girl tomorrow, will continue to dig a hole for you.

Finally, tell the mushroom coolies all over the world with your story that there is really no need to constantly prove how good you are, and there is nothing really bad about being "bad". We can make a good mushroom, but this "good" has boundaries and degrees. When others cross our boundaries, don't give in again and again, and don't feel too powerful and thoughtless just because others brainwash you. The person who really loves you will not be willing to wronged you, and will not use various means to go beyond your bottom line and force you to change for him.