How to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law

1, don't compete with your mother-in-law for a husband. The chances of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law falling into the water together are not high. No matter how much your husband loves you, you can't replace her mother. Don't make such a low-level mistake. Don't be too close to your husband in front of your mother-in-law. "Marrying a daughter-in-law and forgetting her mother" is the biggest heart disease of all mother-in-law. The more your husband loves you, the stronger your mother-in-law's sense of loss and jealousy may be. Don't call your husband in front of your mother-in-law. Mother-in-law is pregnant with her son who grew up in October. Why did she become your free labor force and the boss around her? Never tell your husband what to do in front of her mother-in-law, or even beat and scold her. Don't say "your mother" in front of your husband. Even if your mother-in-law doesn't treat you as her own daughter, she will be unhappy when she hears you call you "your mother" behind your back. Please change it to "our mother" quickly. Do not argue with your mother-in-law. "Traveling around the world with reason" is absolutely difficult to move within the family. There is no need to judge right and wrong between black and white, and there is no need to compete for high and low. It's no use talking, saliva is better than raising teeth. 6. Don't try to be brave in front of your mother-in-law. Never try to be brave from hair to toes, thinking that you can support the whole world by yourself, and you can't get carried away. "Small sales", timely weakness. 7. Don't forget that your mother-in-law is a woman. Therefore, she is as cautious, sensitive and fragile as you. If women can be as open-minded as men, maybe everything will be fine. 8. Don't forget to take care of your husband. Being good to your husband is good to your mother-in-law. Every mother wants her children to be happy and find a bosom friend. So, show by actions that you will take good care of her precious son. 9. Don't let your mother-in-law feel left out. Make her realize that she is important. Let your mother-in-law continue to display the brilliance of maternal love, let her "guide" you, and make her feel important and alive. 10, don't think that your mother-in-law is "not sensible". The old man is most afraid of the younger generation saying, "Don't follow suit if you don't understand anything!" If this sentence comes from the mouth of the daughter-in-law, it is a great contempt. 1 1. Don't cheat your mother-in-law. Everyone hates being cheated. If the young couple keep everything from the old man, or perfunctory, and tell the truth, the mother-in-law naturally feels rejected, and sadness and anger come together. 12, don't be stingy with your mother-in-law's praise. Good wife, boast; Good grandma, boast. Praise her sincerely, praise her for raising a good son, praise her for her strong body, praise her for her exquisite cooking and praise her for keeping a good house. 13, don't take credit with your mother-in-law. Mother-in-law's greatest contribution is the lubricant to soften the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law Learn from her mother-in-law with an open mind to ensure her status as the "Queen Mother" will last forever. 14. Don't say "my son/daughter …" in front of my mother-in-law, but say "your grandson/granddaughter …". There is nothing wrong with "my son" with a strong sense of belonging, but it is easy to anger her mother-in-law, as if the child has nothing to do with her grandparents' family, or she feels that her grandson has been with her for so long. 15, don't ignore the role of grandson. If you say "your grandson/granddaughter talks about you all day" or "Jiao Zi, your grandson/granddaughter loves to eat your bag", my mother-in-law will burst into laughter immediately, which will bring us closer in an instant. 16, don't discuss everything with your mother-in-law. Tell her often, or let her see what you have done, what are your plans, pay attention to her existence, ask her for advice and eliminate her anxiety. 17, don't try to change mother-in-law. Everyone has his own habits and hobbies, so we should respect each other. Don't expect your mother-in-law in her fifties and sixties to fully accept your outlook on life and values overnight. 18, don't announce your mother-in-law to the elderly. The man sandwiched between mother and daughter-in-law is the most pitiful. If he is a "double-sided adhesive", he will definitely take the initiative to stand up and coordinate; Otherwise, even if you complain, it won't help, it will only increase your husband's troubles. 19, don't speak ill of your mother-in-law in front of outsiders. Mother-in-law says daughter-in-law, and daughter-in-law says mother-in-law. Women always seem very talkative. "Criticism is like a dove, it will always fly back." 20, don't forget to be caring and attentive, don't forget all virtues and filial piety first. Heartfelt concern and greetings are unnecessary. It is the daughter-in-law's responsibility and obligation to honor the elders, and it is impossible to measure the gains and losses, let alone ask for a return. 2 1, don't forget to express your gratitude to your mother-in-law, even if it's just a courtesy. Thank your mother-in-law. Although she didn't raise you, she raised your husband. Although she may not have taken care of you, she may have taken care of your children. 22. Don't underestimate the power of apology. Family chores are complicated, and someone must "surrender" after the conflict. A serious and playful apology is the lubricant of contradictions and can effectively smooth the cracks. 23. Don't hesitate to give your mother-in-law a present. On holidays, buy some small gifts and feel at ease. If you have the heart to find what your mother-in-law expects, it will definitely make her happy. 24. Don't dress too fancy or even different in front of your mother-in-law. Most of the elderly are conservative, especially the mother-in-law certainly doesn't want her daughter-in-law to "dress up beautifully", so it's easy to judge people by their appearances and dress cleanly and generously. 25. Don't completely deny your mother-in-law's opinion. Mother-in-law's words can be rejected, but don't totally deny them because of the conflict. We should treat them objectively and fairly. It is good words that are beneficial, but it is useless to "move Del" and leave no trace. 26. Don't force yourself to meet all the standards of your mother-in-law. The root of the difficulties of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is that they always want to adapt to each other and please each other, so they are exhausted. Don't go too far unless you want to. 27. Don't exaggerate the grievances of your husband's family. When people get along with each other, there will be friction, and trivial matters need not be taken to heart. Haggle over every ounce will only make you hard to let go. A little unhappy, just laugh it off. 28. Don't compare your mother-in-law with your mother. Don't use your mother's standards to ask your mother-in-law. Without kinship, there is a natural lack of instinctive tolerance and understanding. Meet a good mother-in-law, cherish and be grateful; When something bad happens, I won't be disappointed or complain. 29. Don't treat your mother-in-law as a free nanny. The old man has worked hard all his life, and it is also time to enjoy life. The rest of her life is completely under her control. Help you share the housework and help you take care of the children. Sincerely grateful. Never complain that your mother-in-law didn't do anything for you. Don't accuse your mother-in-law of being frugal or stingy. She may not accept the modern concept of consumption, and may think that her daughter-in-law is a "black sheep" and spends a lot of money. However, you have to understand that thrift is the mark left by decades of poverty. 3 1, don't dominate everything in the house. Women are naturally controlling and paranoid about details. No matter where you are in the family, you must complete it. But "one mountain can't accommodate two tigers", leaving a little room for my mother-in-law. Don't be angry and run back to your mother's house. Your mother's family is an occasional refuge, but not a permanent refuge. Not only does your mother-in-law dislike you more, but her husband will certainly be annoyed. Don't always praise your family and belittle your husband's family. Everyone knows that family members are close, love themselves and think for themselves, but don't show your dissatisfaction in the in-laws' house, which will only intensify the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. More tolerance and understanding. 34. Don't pull your father-in-law in front of you against your mother-in-law. In addition to the key figure "husband", there is also the important role of "father-in-law" in the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. If you "rob" your mother-in-law's son and "appease" her husband, then your mother-in-law relationship is basically hopeless. Don't quarrel with your mother-in-law, for whatever reason. Even if your mother-in-law is bossy, don't stand up to her. You can turn a blind eye and turn a deaf ear, but don't quarrel, it's just an emotional vent, which doesn't help solve the problem. 36. Do not live together. Almost all contradictory mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have this wish, but due to the limitation of objective conditions, it may not be realized. I won't say much. Distance produces beauty, and the fragrance between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is far away. How to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law 2 How to do a good job in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law 1, you must be measured in front of your mother-in-law, because every child that 1 mother has worked hard to raise will win in a few days, and there will be some feelings of being taken away in your heart. In other words, it is often said (husband is the world, children are everything). 2. Show your love for your husband in front of the housewife. But let your wife know that you love her as much as your boyfriend. 3. In front of the housewife, you must make her feel that you are also her niece. Treat her like your mother. Sometimes you can be grumpy in front of your mother, but you should be appropriate to housewives, because this will cause dissatisfaction and endanger your relationship with your boyfriend. 4. In front of housewives, you should pay more attention to your husband. Every mother doesn't want to hear others gossiping about her children. 5. She should focus on everyone, so that the housewife will have a sense of satisfaction and can take into account the emotions of her beloved son. 6. If my wife is 1 an unreasonable old woman, although I tell her that everyone is her child's favorite, everyone's association will immediately endanger her child's happiness. If she wants her children to live a miserable life, bring it on. 7. Don't hit your boyfriend in front of your wife. That will make your wife jealous. Your wife brought up your husband, but how many times will you kiss and hug your mother's face when the child grows up? So pay attention, close the door if you want. 8. You don't have to complain about your boyfriend if you have a bad relationship with your wife. That will only improve your husband's troubles and make our relationship more and more complicated. Try to communicate with your wife and talk more about your happiness with your boyfriend. He will trust your ability to deal with people more and cherish it more, because you are also a valuable good mother. 9. Sometimes you should learn to worry in front of your housewife. There is no need to be as strong as a shield in front of housewives, and don't rub any sand in your eyes. Pay attention to small things, so that your housewife will love you because of your paste and admire you because of your self-motivation. 10, always stand by the housewife. If there are differences between husband and housewife, you must accuse the husband of comforting housewife. Because many housewives think that some changes in their children are due to having a wife, they must let their children know that you are also with her, so that she will help you when you are in trouble in the future.