How to treat a wicked mother-in-law

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been an eternal topic since ancient times.

Before marriage, when I was not in love, I talked with many girlfriends about how to get along with my mother-in-law after marriage. It is said that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult to solve for thousands of years, and every family has its own problems. Many married friends around us are actually experiencing family conflicts more or less, and the source is basically the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

I am a man of universal love. May the world be peaceful, all beings be happy, and everything at home go smoothly.

So I hope I can get along well with my future mother-in-law.

Later, I married Mr. Xue. My mother-in-law is an older and honest person. She always asks my advice before doing anything, and she will accept all the decisions I make. Of course, I won't make unreasonable demands.

She lived with us for a while when she was young because of her bad leg and serious bone spur in her knee. Then I took care of her full-time and she went back to her hometown. We haven't lived together for a long time, and when we are together, we are also well-behaved (except for living habits, such as she always wants to save money, and Mr. Xue and I read stories to her like Tang Priest to make her eat and drink more). Conflicts are difficult to produce, and there are basically no differences and anger.

Although my mother-in-law can't take care of my children, on the other hand, I have never met a so-called evil mother-in-law. I can't say that I love each other as much as my own mother, but I am also very harmonious. At least for now.

Some people say that there is no evil mother-in-law for no reason, and how many good daughters-in-law are there? It takes two hands to make a sound.

Some people say that she is a bad mother-in-law, because she met a bad mother-in-law before and was bullied. Now she turned over and waited for the opportunity. If we compare family life to an enterprise, then she is an old employee now. Old employees always have to show off in front of new employees.

Others say that the evil mother-in-law is because her son was robbed, thinking that she married her daughter-in-law and forgot her mother, and her heart was unbalanced.

Speaking of which, I think of my mother.

That is the representative of a generation of daughter-in-law who have suffered a lot.

My parents are cousins, which I didn't know until high school.

Yes, you are right. They are close relatives, and I am not disabled. I really want to thank the Bodhisattva.

Count your fingers. My grandmother, my mother's mother-in-law, is actually her sister-in-law. If my parents are not married, then I can only call her aunt. Well, in that case, there is no me. . .

Some people say that this is really a good thing to kiss. Shouldn't your grandmother be nicer to your mother?

Yes, theoretically.

But sometimes the truth is that I like to play inversion.

My grandmother had a daughter, Si Er. I heard that I had three sons before I married my grandfather, but I lost touch with them later. My father is the third child, maybe because he is in the middle, he is not favored at all, and now my mother is involved.

My mother married my father at the age of 2 1, and my father is one year older than her. Two years later, she had her first child and died of dysentery. At that time, my father worked as a carpenter in other places all the year round, leaving my mother alone at home, and almost all my wages had to be paid to my grandparents. My grandmother is strong and strong, and she goes on a hunger strike in bed when she is slightly dissatisfied. Whenever this happens, her children and grandchildren will kneel before the bed to comfort her. In the long run, things are getting worse and worse.

In the seventies and eighties, the conditions were already very difficult. My mother worked at home and went out to work, and she was scolded by her grandparents. In the first year, all the clothes in my family, including my elder sister-in-law, fourth uncle, brother-in-law and grandparents, were washed by my mother, even though I was pregnant, which led to two consecutive miscarriages. Nuo Nuo is always passive at home. He can't speak loudly, let alone say anything against his will, or he will be scolded again. It may happen that there are not only evil mother-in-law but also evil father-in-law.

I can only think of being bullied here.

Later, my mother couldn't stand it and begged my father to take her, otherwise she couldn't live. In Tianjin, I was pregnant, thanks to my mother who left home at that time, otherwise I might not be there.

Nearly nine months ago, when I went home to give birth, my grandmother brought some noodles and asked for separation. It's nothing. My parents started from scratch. When my mother gave birth to me, they saw it was a girl and never went to see my mother and me again. And still spread my ugly face, pointed face and monkey face outside. Later, when my younger brother was born, they still ignored him, so I never had the impression of being with my grandparents since I was a child. My mother always takes us when she goes out to work or asks her cousin to take us to play. Because the two children are entangled, and the father is not at home, it is common for the mother to go hungry. I can't eat well, sleep well, and my body and mind are seriously affected, so my mother has been in poor health, especially moonfall.

Her tears have dried up in those years.

At that time, she was younger than me. I can't imagine that if I live this life, I'd rather be alone.

You might say, isn't this stupid?

It is stupid, it is too kind, it is too filial, and perhaps it is also the bondage of that era.

Now many years have passed, and we have all grown up. Grandpa has gone to the west, and grandma is 84 years old.

The former evil mother-in-law has long lost her fighting capacity.

You may ask, is your mother ignoring your grandmother now?

No, she will be given three meals a day and tea, except that she can't sleep with her. My uncle and my family take turns to take care of her. My mother and aunts will spit out their past love and hate together, but that's all.

Once I asked my mother, would I still hate my grandmother?

She said, "Even the hatred is over. Grandma is old now. Filial piety is an obligation to support the elderly. Besides, I want to be a mother-in-law in the future. I also hope my daughter-in-law can honor me. Zhu Dexiao comes first. "

Yes, those who love to go out love to come back, and those who are blessed will be blessed.

If everyone passes on what they have suffered to the next generation, they can't think of what life can be like except jumping around and pointing fingers at each other.

Forming a family is for a common goal, that is, to make one's life more complete, and mutual tolerance and understanding between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the true meaning.

Happy marriages are similar, so is a harmonious relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Most of them have the hard work and warm care of their mother-in-law, and then have the kindness and thoughtfulness of their daughter-in-law. After all, we are not a family, but because a man like * * * becomes a mother-in-law, there is no blood relationship or even pure interest relationship. So we can only cultivate feelings and adapt to each other slowly.

Don't be a bad mother-in-law, let alone a picky daughter-in-law.