How to be a talented woman? Just do these three things.

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I am a cheerful woman. I do things carelessly and say whatever I want. I think this is very good, but my family always says that I have no talent, that it is not good, and let me change.

When I was young, I sneered at my family's advice. I think everyone in the world has their own temper and personality, and there is nothing wrong with it. But slowly, I experienced more and more things and suffered more and more losses. It seems that being a talented woman is not a bad thing.

I began to learn to talk less, I began to become more rational, I began to control my emotions, and I began to stop letting others see through me easily. I was really tired at first, but I got used to it after a long time.

If this feeling that is not easy to see through is called shrewd, then I think women should have a little, because this is your camouflage and your armor.

If you also feel that you have no talent and want to have talent, then I will share with you three things that I think talented women should do. You can try to do it and change it slowly. I believe that one day, you will become a talented person.

When I was a child, I was a very cheerful girl, and my biggest feature was that I liked to talk. You can hear my voice on any occasion. I am everyone's pistachio. Everyone said that the atmosphere would be good with me.

At that time, I thought it was my pride, but my family said I had no talent at all, which was not good.

I didn't understand it at first, but later I found that it was really easy for me to put my foot in my mouth, and I often suffered because of it. Others think I can see through it at a glance, so they have no fear of me, and even unscrupulous people want to hurt me.

After suffering a lot, I dare not speak casually anymore. No matter what the occasion is, I will observe it first, and then think about whether I should say this sentence before I speak.

In this way, I also have something to say, keep it in my heart, and rarely talk on any occasion, especially not nonsense.

Many people around me began to praise me and said that I had become mature and calm. Many people I just met said that I was a very smart person and always hit the nail on the head.

I asked myself, can such a person make me happy? The answer is no, because I am not as happy as before, but this is life. In order to adapt to this world, we must learn to change.

At the age of 20, you can still say that you are young, but if you are still like this at the age of 30 and 40, you will be criticized.

Although we often say that we should not care about other people's eyes and live for ourselves, who can really care about what others think of us?

Moreover, now I begin to understand that being smart is not a submission, but an evolution. We have mastered the method of protecting ourselves, knowing when to say what and who to say what. There's nothing wrong with that.

Therefore, if you want to be a smart person, you might as well change from speaking, so that you can talk less no matter what occasion, especially talk less nonsense and think clearly before speaking. Every sentence has its meaning.

In this way, you will gradually become smart, and you will certainly be able to protect yourself and your loved ones.

Most women are very emotional, impulsive, easily influenced, not good at analyzing problems, and don't know what calmness is.

Because of this, women are always easy to see through, and then give the weapons that hurt themselves to others.

I have met many women who like to threaten each other with "breaking up" when they are angry. Although they talked about the word, they never really wanted to be apart.

But what about men? They caught this weakness of women, coaxed them at first, then ignored them, and finally even blamed all the mistakes on women when they broke up.

Hearing this, you may think that men are so cruel, but think about it, as women, we also have our own problems, that is, we are not smart enough.

When I began to realize this problem, I carefully observed many talented women around me. I found that most of them are calm when they encounter something, know when to do something, and will analyze it carefully after encountering something.

For example, if a man is indifferent to himself, he should observe carefully to see if he doesn't love himself or just his feelings become dull.

If it's just a normal emotional change, try to change it, such as making a little surprise, such as changing yourself a little.

However, if the other party really wants to be separated from himself, then he should stay put, find evidence of the other party's mistake, and then safeguard his rights and interests.

Such women won't be too bad in the end, because they have weapons to protect themselves, just like those big women who are super online in TV dramas. They can protect themselves and their loved ones.

I think women don't have to be rational to be happy, and they don't have to have high emotional intelligence. But if it makes you happier, I suggest you change in this direction. Please work hard.

I have always been a person who can't control my emotions. I always like to write my emotions on my face, so I am often hurt and criticized by others.

In fact, I also understand that it is good to control my emotions and keep them from being seen by others, but it is really difficult for me to do so. I guess I was born without acting skills.

But I haven't changed at all, because I also envy those women who are very shrewd, because they can always let others see what they want others to see and what they say is always what others want to hear.

Take my colleague Eiko as an example. She is an elegant woman. No matter what she does or says, she covers everything. You will always think that she is sincere, but in fact she keeps a safe distance from everyone.

She once told me that life is like a play, it all depends on acting. I asked her if she was so tired. She said with a smile, aren't you tired of being seen through by others and offending many people?

Yes, being able to control emotions is a compulsory course for every adult, which is what we must learn in dealing with people. This can not only protect yourself, but also make the people with you more comfortable.

Although we don't need everyone to like ourselves, I think we should at least make ourselves a person we like, instead of making ourselves regret everything we say and do every day.

I don't know whether it is good or bad to have talent, but it is not difficult to do it. You can have it as long as you are willing to make a little change.

If you feel that you have no talent now, don't worry, accumulate it slowly, and you will have it as you get older. But if you think you have enough talent now, congratulations. I hope you can keep it and get the happiness you want.