How do introverted boys find girlfriends?

You attach great importance to feelings, but you don't know much about skills. You can't express your feelings properly, so you can only miss them silently.

Now I want to say, first of all, you should strengthen your feelings! ! If you miss it, you won't have it! You only have one chance, don't give up. Even if you are rejected, you will remember it all your life. At least you bravely confessed, right? ! You're a man, right? Then come on! !

Second, you should have certain skills. The method of expression is related to success or failure. What is the method? You should know the girl's psychology. Don't talk too much, don't talk too lightly, but be appropriate.

Specifically, it means nature. When you are natural, she will relax. If you always look at her with pain and infatuation, she will be stressed and run away. If you are natural but not intense, you can tell her that I like you. If it can't be natural, don't say it directly. Take care of her silently. A girl is smart enough to know that you like her. So some words are needless to say.

You can talk to him, heart-to-heart conversation is the easiest way to promote empathy; You can also take her to the playground, which is the happiest and most relaxing place; You can also write love letters ... the best way is to be friends. Your silent concern, delicate consideration, coupled with your masculinity and your thoughts, will naturally make her like you, and gradually become a lover from a friend without confession. Everything is natural.

Third, how to face rejection. Why did she refuse you? No chance if you refuse? Let me teach you to know yourself first. Generally speaking, a girl will not accept your confession as soon as she opens her mouth. She will refuse it several times before accepting it. There are three possible situations for a girl to reject you.

First, she has no feelings for you. Some girls said, don't chase if you don't feel it. It's no use chasing. She won't be moved, but you are getting more and more annoying. I tell you, don't be persistent, but at the same time, you must master the rhythm. If you chase it too hard, it will be counterproductive. You can also change from bright to dark. Don't be in a hurry to express your confession. Be friends first. In this way, she will have a chance to get to know you, discover your advantages, get used to your care, and treat you as one of her own, and never feel anything. At the same time, she will be moved by your persistence.

B, she has no feelings for you, but she doesn't reject you. Her psychology is very complicated. Maybe she is happy and a little scared. She has ambivalence towards the boy who intruded into her quiet life. She didn't mean to. Don't think she is testing you, but she is actually fighting herself. She is afraid of getting hurt. At this time, she will also refuse you, so you should be positive, persistent and calm ... Don't make a confession in a hurry and make more appointments. If she always refuses you, you always invite her politely, and she will feel guilty. If she doesn't refuse you, she will give you a chance and even be moved by you. And if you are worried that your initiative will bring her disgust, and as a result, you don't take the initiative, and she doesn't take the initiative, then it will fade away, and the best opportunity will be lost.

C, she has a crush on you, but as a girl, she can't give up on herself easily. She should have some reservations. Some girls are so shrewd that they may even deliberately set obstacles for you to deal with you! So she wants to fight you for a few rounds. Rejecting you doesn't mean rejecting you. She will refuse you several times and give you a chance. Her refusal is not terrible, but full of interest. If you are generous enough to associate with her, it will be OK.

Besides, I want to say don't confess when you are uncertain. You didn't confess, she agreed, so it's your girlfriend. This is not the right order. It should be your behavior that makes her feel for you. She is your girlfriend. At this time, you confessed and she agreed. You didn't confess, and she agreed. Confession is dispensable, and it is an emotional adjustment after she becomes your girlfriend. Because confession is the stupidest way to pursue, you tell her categorically that you love her, and she may answer you categorically that she doesn't love you. You force her to have no room, and she doesn't leave you any room for manoeuvre.

A more advanced way is for you to date her, which is a concrete way to pursue love. She may refuse, but you still have room. A more advanced method is that you use other excuses to date her, such as helping, class reunion, etc ... She knows you are chasing her in her heart, but you haven't made it clear, so she feels safe and won't refuse you easily. I found that many friends and girls who want to chase are regarded as brothers and sisters, which is very conducive to pursuit, easier to date, more reason to care about her, and easier for her to find your advantages. Therefore, if you regard your relationship with her as brother and sister, don't confess easily and pierce this enough paper if you are not sure, which will put yourself at a disadvantage.

Fourth, provide a set of programs. Because most netizens are relatively young, I take chasing innocent female college students as an example for reference only:

A, hitting on girls starts with help, either you help her or you ask her for help, such as borrowing a note from her, and then you call her: "I can ask you in time if you have any questions." Before you call, you must act like a person who really needs help.

B, there must be a dialogue at the beginning, otherwise you don't know what to say, so ask her for help. You wrote a beautiful article and used an adjective. I don't know how to deal with it. Please ask her sincerely. Then you can read what you wrote to her, concise and beautiful, if you have a good writing skills.

C she helped you. You should thank her, so send her a lovely FLASH, a story about little rabbit and big rabbit.

D. Call her and tell her that she has a beautiful voice and wants to hear her sing. If she doesn't sing, you can generously sing for her and sing the songs you wrote for her.

E, you can ask her out if you are familiar with it. If she refuses you, you can joke that you saved money to buy the ticket. Then you said sincerely and calmly, I know you are busy and the time is arranged. Can I make an appointment with you? I must thank you for helping me. Do you think next week will do? Then you invite her to the concert.

F, elegance is followed by relaxation. Take her to the amusement park. Then there are tennis courts, dolphin halls and libraries ... usually increase the frequency of phone calls to capture the interest of colleagues; If you are together, talk to her about your dreams and let her see the light in your eyes.

G, take her to the botanical garden and find a forest vagina flying all over the sky to hold her hand.

H, take her to the mountains, the seaside or Angkor Wat to watch the sunrise, and give her the first kiss at the moment of sunrise. ...

In fact, these are all external AIDS. The key is the temperature you deal with, which is to be warm and generous. I'm just here to attract jade. You might as well write your own plan.

Wish you success! Give me the news of the event:)

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I have written so much for you, so touched. As long as she shows this spirit, she will be moved. You give it to me, she will give you extra points!