Is it worth it to quarrel in decoration and hurt feelings? Tell me about the quarrel between my boyfriend and me when decorating the bird's nest.

Seeing so many people talking about renovation quarrels, I also remembered the unpleasantness that happened when we renovated. Although there are inevitable quarrels, if I really hurt my feelings, I don't think it's worth it! Let me also talk about what we decorated at that time. I hope everyone will decorate rationally and care for their feelings, hee hee. At that time, my boyfriend was on a business trip, and the decoration was going on without interruption, but I did all the work of building materials, electrical appliances, decoration supervision and design acceptance alone. Boyfriend is a very responsible and critical person. Pursuing perfection, quarreling is inevitable. Although we both know that we both want to avoid "two people don't quarrel for decoration", we have discussed every detail on the phone every day since we started designing woodworking, and then we quarreled and got angry. Take the French window desk designed and manufactured by our family as an example. From drawers to three or four, to the height of the desktop, and even the number of times the keyboard stops, as long as we talk on the phone, it is a quarrel. I have a contractor and my father is a strategist, which naturally makes sense; And there is nothing wrong with boyfriends asking questions based on their own experience and usage habits. But it is precisely because of ignorance that the quarrel often rises from the initial desk discussion to: Have you used your head? What others say is what they are. Or you can imagine it out of thin air, right? I have a counselor, and you have to listen to other people's experiences and opinions, attitudes and IQ. In the end, it is often: I feel very wronged, worrying about decoration all day, not being idle all day, pulling my parents to help me make up my mind. Finally, all my ideas were rejected, and then I was called "brainless"; Moreover, my boyfriend is very anxious in the field. He feels that he can't tell me clearly, and his suggestion is not recognized. He feels aggrieved. One night, we had a quarrel. I am full of grievances, I cry when I sleep, and my boyfriend is helpless. The text message said: I am anxious to see the outside. If I don't express my opinion, you should say I'm not worried. If I express my opinion, you should say that I am looking for your things. . . . I held my breath all morning that day. To put it bluntly, I think what I said is quite right. Although what my boyfriend said is not unreasonable, I saw that there was a suggestion from the contractor in kind, and he should listen to me. At noon, I thought I had started working, and time was tight. I must make a plan as soon as possible. I called my boyfriend with an attitude of reconciliation and discussion, and as a result, the phone began to quarrel. The content is still some details of the desk. He has his usual point of view, I have my experience, and they both die. Before leaving work in the afternoon, my boyfriend took the initiative to call for reconciliation. This time, it is a real reconciliation. He said like a deflated ball, anything you say will do. We came up with the idea, and we won't blame you in the future. I am really happy in my heart, because I "won". After work, I rushed home to explain how the carpenter changed, and I was dumbfounded as soon as I entered the door. Just today, all three cabinets are up. I looked at our desk, which has been completed according to a pending plan I casually said at the beginning, which makes people confused. . . . At that time, the mood was really bitter: my boyfriend and I argued for details for many days, and we were flushed and hurt each other. In the end, the diligent carpenter did as he understood, and there was no change. . . . . The multimedia message was given to her boyfriend, and she couldn't make up her mind at her desk and talked to her boyfriend on the phone. They finally reached an agreement: after all, it was ok. On the way back, I thought of so many days of quarreling. We have already gone from the details of the decoration to the denial of each other's efforts and concern, and we don't allow each other, but the result is. . . . What is the final result? What's the point? I feel bad, and it obviously doesn't matter what the result is, but the quarrel between two people has really hurt each other these days. In order to let the other side accept their own opinions, quarreling again and again may not have a good ending, but it will definitely hurt the other side's feelings. We are all working hard for the same family, giving wholeheartedly and interdependent. What happened that day made me feel that it was no big deal as long as it didn't hurt my feelings. It is not enough to argue about right and wrong. The most important thing is that we are both comfortable. The decoration is really not worth arguing about, it's all small details. When we got home at night, we only mentioned the new problem of decoration on the phone. Boyfriend said you were the boss, and you were the boss. We did it. Everything is fine. Then we care about each other's lives as much as we did when we were in love last year. My boyfriend was happy to see me talking, and then said, I'm really tired and want to sleep. Do you agree? A warm heart, I said: sleep! !