Why do you always have the mentality of breaking the jar and breaking it? How to solve it?

When encountering something that makes people despair, people often say jokingly to themselves: "Let's break the jar and break it. I'll do whatever I want."

Actually, it is quite good to say this. At least it can reduce one's psychological pressure and it is also a method of self-regulation. But after all, there are probably not many people who really think like this.

Actually, the phrase "break the jar, break the jar" has quite a lot of meanings. First of all, you have to think that you are a jar or a broken jar. This means that the once hard heart has begun to soften. To put it bluntly, jars are fragile. I used to think that they were indestructible, but now I finally realize that they are also fragile. This is actually a good thing.

Secondly, let’s talk about poshuai. Poshuai is actually a kind of resistance, not against the outside world but against oneself. A person who is dissatisfied with his own situation will often derive two psychological states. One is anger. The world, to put it bluntly, is to fight against the world with one's own thoughts. One is reflection, which is introspection of oneself and the intention to change oneself. However, many people think that changing oneself involves some kind of compromise and is a betrayal of one's original intention. Therefore, those who have strong self-awareness and personality often Those who will not accept this change will not reflect on themselves, but choose to carry it on. In fact, it is not that there are no people who can carry it on and eventually succeed, but there are almost no people who can only carry it on without reflection and ultimately succeed.

Don’t talk about carrying it on, just reflection, because the mentality of breaking the jar often corresponds to reflection, or the beginning of reflection.

The reason why a person is not easy to reflect is actually because he is unwilling to confront his own heart. His heart is too hard and he is unwilling to compromise and change. Gradually, it becomes unwilling to accept the opinions of the outside world, and I have become a completely self-contained and unique person. It’s okay for artists. As long as they have enough to eat, there is nothing wrong with carrying on. But most people are not artists. They have to seek greater space for development, so it is actually very important to reflect at all times. , Sometimes we think that we have tried our best, but why we haven’t gotten the results we want is actually because we haven’t reflected enough. What is needed at this time is the mentality of “breaking the jar and breaking it”.

Think of your past self as a broken jar, smash it first, and it will be empty. When it is empty, you will make room for the shaping of new jars, but those old jars that are fragmented will always There are also some precious ingredients. Pick them up and merge them with new jars to renew them.

People who are willing to walk out from the broken pieces of the broken jar, find a new direction, understand themselves more clearly without blindly compromising, stand on a new level, begin to feel relieved, and It will be easier to look at past experiences objectively, and you will no longer be so sensitive to other people’s doubts, and you will even be willing to reflect on and laugh at yourself about past experiences. Isn’t this great?

So, the mentality of breaking the jar and smashing it is not necessarily negative, it needs to be practiced!