Reflections after watching the documentary "Shengmen"

?Since marriage, women’s tasks seem to have suddenly become more intense. After sorting out the housework, I added one more thing besides work - having children. After her childhood ambitions of never getting married fell through, the pressure from her significant other to have children came one after another. I have been to the hospital three times, and I have also been to Mount Putuo, which is considered to be very effective for my children. From the pressure at the beginning, to the secret prayers later, to the worries later. What if you really don’t have children? From worrying to not worrying, worry never goes away.

? The door to life was opened accidentally. This name is a bit heroic. I thought it was the heroic deeds of some people. After reading the first story, I discovered that everyone was fat and shiny, and their clothes were tacky. Most of the women wore large-size pajamas, and they were all pregnant women. , expecting pregnant women, every story revolves around obstetrics and gynecology.

What impressed me the most was a rural couple. The wife had high blood pressure during pregnancy, and the child had congenital diseases in the mother’s belly. The wife was dull and silent, and the husband was also a very honest and honest man. It was very difficult because my wife had a series of problems during pregnancy that required high expenses. The husband asked his brother to borrow tens of thousands of yuan from dozens of families in the village. In my eyes, my husband is a simple and weak man, unable to protect himself and others. He wanted to give his children away and ask others to adopt them. My family also had a younger sister adopted before. Because the family wanted to adopt a son, when the younger sister was born, we tried to find a way to let someone else adopt her. There is no moral kidnapping, loss of family ties or anything like that here. In my case, I only see their choices, and what they choose will be what they bear in the end. In the end, no one was interested in the couple's children, including the media, which politely rejected them because they couldn't find a topic. The hospital saved the couple money by not using many expensive medicines, including labor pain suppositories that can reduce pain. In this story, the couple spoke very little, probably because they were poor and at the mercy of others. The patients donated food, diapers, milk powder, etc. to them.

? Coming from poverty, let me talk about my understanding of poverty. From the beginning, when I receive some assistance, such as student subsidies or donations from someone, I feel very grateful and happy in my heart. The first is that he finally realizes the wish he dared not think of without any conditions, and the second is the despicable one who thinks that he can get extra rewards without paying. Later, you will always see sympathy or something in other people's eyes, and you may even receive preferential treatment on certain occasions. Some people may ask, isn't this bad? It's hard to say. In my opinion, it may not be good. In the final year, the poverty subsidy became a competitive system. All those who wanted to receive poverty subsidy had to go to the stage in front of hundreds or thousands of classmates, uncover their scars, and let everyone compete to see who was better. miserable. Many students who were miserable cried on the stage, one from the bottom of their heart, and the other to gain sympathy. But I couldn't cry, not even a drop. I asked myself in my heart, am I not so poor that I have lost my self-esteem and ambition and cried in front of so many people. Don't give in to fate.

The doctor-patient relationship is one of the themes in the play. The patient comes to the hospital at a difficult point in his life, and his mood is understandable. Doctors are also too busy with work to maintain the image of angels all the time. I just finished reading "To Kill a Mockingbird" today, and there is a sentence in it: You can only understand his thoughts by putting on someone else's shoes and walking the path he has walked. Those who are angry and complaining about you each have their own unspoken reasons. No one hates someone for no reason. What you can do is try to understand others as much as possible and keep yourself rational. You cannot lose your judgment and reason because of other people's prejudices.

In the play, the patient ignored the doctor's warning. Ignorance makes patients fearless and may also cause patients to lose more precious lives. True bravery is knowing everything and still remaining calm, not being fearless when you are ignorant.

Every mother, regardless of her character, is silently suffering physical and mental pain.

When they were lying on the operating table and trying to look up in the direction of their children, they all had smiles in their eyes.