Father-son chess

After dinner, my son came to play chess with me again.

Recently, for some unknown reason, he suddenly resumed his interest in chess, playing chess with his partners, playing computer games, studying the chess score, and challenging Laozi. He looks like a "war-loving and aggressive".

In fact, when he was in the first grade, he briefly studied chess with a teacher. He can basically play, know the number of pieces and get started.

Later, without persistence, he felt that playing chess was meaningless and challenging. Interest shifted to table tennis, basketball, calligraphy and so on. We didn't force him to continue his studies. In fact, his chess skills are still in the primary stage, and he only knows how to block water, and he basically doesn't know how to plan the layout and how to design the array.

Once in a while, he is caught playing two games, even if he is given a "car" and a "horse", he is often defeated. He has a strong self-esteem. Losing the game, he blushed and left quietly without saying a word. He hides in his room and cries silently, but after a while, he will dry his tears and come out casually. We all know his habits, but we never discover them or expose them, giving him a space for self-adjustment. Let him know that it is common for a military strategist to win or lose, and failure is the normal state of life. He should learn to accept failure and his own shortcomings.

But in order to encourage him and prevent him from losing confidence, I will lose one or two sets to maintain his self-esteem and self-confidence. Every time I see him jumping happily after victory, I can't help laughing.

In recent years, because of the transfer of interests, the father and son no longer play chess, and the chess at home has long since disappeared.

Recently, however, he suddenly became interested in chess again. Looking for chess, but looking upstairs and downstairs, I couldn't find it. I bought a new pair right away. Every time I finish playing basketball, I will stay at my friend's house for a while and kill a few sets. Every time I come back, I also pay attention to reflection and study the lost chess game. I often take a tablet and fight with my friends from a distance, and I never tire of it. Last time, he didn't come out in the bathroom for a long time, but he broke into the house. It turned out that he was "replaying" the chess game he had just lost, weighing and thinking step by step. Good boy, this state of concentration is rare.

When a child wants to do something by himself, parents don't have to worry about his motivation, and his thinking ability, critical thinking ability and self-help ability will be greatly improved. At this time, his ability will naturally improve. He will often exchange chess with me at the dinner table, and fight with his partners and computers, and the result is that he wins more than he loses.

Confidence is bursting, and it has been challenging me in recent days. In advance, he generously "confessed" and revealed his ugliness. When he lost chess as a child, he secretly shed tears. This boy, keep it in mind! The implication is that he won't be so naive now.

Sure enough, my son's chess skills have greatly improved, and he is no longer so vulnerable. Now I don't need to give up my son. It is not easy to beat him. I must concentrate and try my best.

Not only has the chess skill improved, but the mentality has also changed.

He has been able to accept some of my suggestions, such as not paying attention to layout at first, often making himself passive, willing to face up to problems, improving immediately and listening to people's opinions. This is a very big change and progress.

He has been able to see through some "traps" and "temptations" in the process of fighting, and he can have countermeasures. He is no longer impetuous in Mao Mao, but only cares about attack, regardless of defense, present and future, and sees the problem more comprehensively.

He can calmly face his failure. Now our father and son are fighting. Although he still wins less and loses more, he still has shortcomings in experience, patience, stalemate and judgment. But in the face of failure, he accepted it indifferently, just sighed, and then started again, with a calm and thoughtful expression.

Now, I won't deliberately lose to him again, let him know that winning must depend on my own strength. Only by improving ourselves and practicing ourselves can we be in an invincible position. When you face a real opponent, no one will pity you, sympathize with you, no one will take care of your emotions, only dare to show your sword and go all out without reservation.

Boys grow up, not only in size, but also in psychological maturity and thinking growth, which should not be underestimated. With his research attitude, over time, I will not be his opponent. I'm ready to lose often, but I don't know if he will also play a game of "emotional chess" and let me play one or two games.

Life is like chess, endless. Father-son game, the best time, is only such a time. As children grow up, it is less common.

So cherish, such a night, my son, chess, silent company, long and long thinking, not only the growth of victory or defeat.