Some people say that when people reach middle age, they are most afraid of getting a phone call at home in the early morning. Why?

In fact, no matter what age stage, I am quite afraid of receiving a phone call from home in the early morning.

Because most people don't make phone calls in the early hours of the morning, it's the rest time of others, and even very close people will avoid it. Once there is a need to make a phone call in the early morning, it is probably because of illness and death.

Nothing in the world is serious except physical illness and death.

When people reach middle age, they are old and young, and friends and relatives around them have entered another stage of their lives. Whether you are yourself or people around you, the distance from life to death is relatively closer, and the probability of birth, aging, illness and death is higher.

On the one hand, there are not many people who can really see through life and death, especially in the face of where you are going. A close friend will always feel sad and sad, and the inherent state of life will be abruptly broken.

On the other hand, witnessing other people's life and death will inevitably push others into their own shoes, feeling that their life is unpredictable, and there is no longer sadness and worry in their prime.

Middle-aged people are afraid of getting a phone call from home in the early hours of the morning. In fact, they are afraid to hear that someone is sick and dies, and they are afraid that they can't bear the pain of losing like that.

Speaking of this matter, it is really unforgettable. /kloc-in mid-August of 0/5, at two or three o'clock in the morning, the landline at the bedside rang. I slept in a daze at that time, because I had been writing a work report until one o'clock that night, so I slept soundly. I haven't answered the phone for a long time, and my wife answered the phone to wake me up. I picked up the phone in a daze. That's my dad's hoarse voice with tears, saying that grandma is in the rescue. Come on. Then my mother took the phone and told me which hospital it was. My father cried. After hanging up the phone, my mind went blank. I only remember that I jumped out of bed and went to the bathroom, and tears poured out involuntarily. I quickly put on my clothes, called my wife and rushed to the hospital. At that time, my legs and feet were really weak and I didn't know how to drive. My wife drove me there. I rushed to the emergency room of the hospital and found my grandmother lying in the hospital bed, her eyes closed and her brow furrowed, surrounded by crying relatives. I came to my grandmother's side, and the empress (aunt) was in tears, stroking her grandmother and saying that my grandson came to see you. Open your eyes and have a quick look. At that time, I knew that my dear grandmother had left us forever, but I was really unprepared for this sudden evil consumption, which was totally unacceptable to the whole family. I remember calling my grandmother hysterically, and I really thought it must not be true. Then I kept hitting the wall with my hands and head, crying and repeating what was going on?

Although more than three years have passed, although grandma's later life should be very happy, and her descendants are also very filial, living conditions are very rich, and she rarely goes to the hospital, she is still extremely sad and sorry today. Such a good life should be in a few more years, and it should be filial for a few more years. Moreover, she died suddenly without seeing her for the last time and saying a few last words.

After that, whenever I hear a phone call in my sleep, my heart will jump to the limit. Now I am most afraid of hearing the phone ring in the middle of the night.

Cherish the people around you, especially the elderly elders. No matter how busy you are, you really need to spend some time with them, even if you make a phone call. Don't wait until the day when you want to say goodbye to them.

First of all, when people reach middle age, they are afraid to make phone calls at home in the early morning. In fact, what they are most afraid of is hearing the news that their parents are ill.

Once my sister suddenly called me and asked when to visit my mother.

For various reasons, my mother and I haven't seen each other for three years, but we usually have WeChat contact, which I find very strange.

Before I could answer, she said, "Mom misses you." ...

What happened? My heart thumped, feeling that my sister's operation today was a bit strange. Then my mother wouldn't be ill. ...

Then she said, "Actually, mom is ill. Come back and see, and find her a big hospital. "

I panicked at that time, and many questions popped up in my heart:

Looking for a big hospital? Is it a serious illness? Why didn't you say anything on the phone the other day?

I have been out for many years and seldom take care of my mother. I am ashamed of her. ...

Going back will delay a lot of work, and how much will it cost ...

Serious illness costs a lot of money, will it suddenly return to before liberation?

I quickly called my mother to verify that it turned out that my sister was exaggerating the facts ... People in their thirties cried like children and told my mother on the phone, Mom, you must tell me anything, and you must treat any disease!

Second, the "fear" of parents' illness is actually the fear of their inability to bear the consequences.

Afraid of financial pressure.

Most of these old people are old and young, and the food and drink of the whole family fall on the shoulders of our middle-aged people. All kinds of expenses are a big expense. If parents are sick, minor illness will turn into serious illness due to age fatigue. Cases of "serious illness leading to poverty" abound, and no matter how much money you earn, you can't stand the toss of a disease.

Afraid to see the truth but unable to change it.

In middle age, Otawa's parents separated. If you get a call during the day, you may be able to catch up; If you get a call in the early morning and want to hurry, the traffic may not be very large.

Even if you arrive in time and take care of your family, you may still leave regrets.

Cai Dai 'an, the translator of the million-dollar bestseller "Too much is too late", talked about his regret in the preface of this book.

That autumn, Cai Daian's father suddenly felt unwell and was hospitalized. Cai Daian rushed to take care of his father from the day he was admitted to the hospital. For more than two months, he has been working day and night. Later, he had to return to the United States for medical treatment because of physical exhaustion, and the day after she left, her father died in his sleep. This made Cai Diane regret it, and not seeing her father for the last time became a great regret in her life.

Third, fear may not be eliminated, but it does not prove that we can only face it passively.

My friend Liangzi, a native of Northeast China, is generous, but a little stingy with himself. For example, when he got married, he chose a small house when he could buy a big room. He said that his father had been in poor health and he left a sum of money as a reserve fund. If the old man is hospitalized or something, he won't panic.

Liangzi also reminds his father to take exercise every week. Before, his wife always thought he was neurotic, and now she is also influenced by him to do some efforts for her parents.

When we actively embrace these problems, they will not disappear, but can be solved one by one.

If you do something for your parents, you will have less regrets.

Just forget it． Five years ago, after midnight, I received a phone call from my brother, saying that my seriously ill mother was dying, and told me to hurry back. I'm surprised. I hurried to find the card to find cash, took all the cash in the counter and took the card to withdraw money. My hands are shaking and I can't remember the password. I said I don't remember the password. He said don't worry, take your time and finally get the money out. The taxi on the way said, I wouldn't have dared to go to such a remote mountainous area if I hadn't seen you in a hurry to go home to attend the funeral. I said that if I hadn't brought my taekwondo coach's son, I wouldn't have dared to let you know that I took a taxi with tens of thousands of cash in the middle of the night! Also, when my son was in junior high school, I was most afraid of receiving a phone call from my teacher. As long as the teacher calls, it will be bad. My son must be in trouble again. Later, he simply didn't answer the teacher's phone, turned off his phone directly, and talked to him the next day!

Generally, whoever calls in the middle of the night has something important. One year, my brother-in-law called at one o'clock in the middle of the night. As soon as he answered the phone, he hung up, then called again, just answered and hung up, and repeated it four or five times. When he didn't answer the phone, his wife got sleepy and even asked what was going on. I don't know why. My wife said she would go back to her parents' house. It's almost two o'clock. Later, I didn't call. I rode to see it early the next morning. Nothing happened. The couple got off work at midnight and had nothing to do. I'm calling to see what we are doing. This is a false alarm. As a result, my wife scolded me and the couple made a joke on the phone in the middle of the night.

I got a call from my cousin at three o'clock in the morning the year before last, saying that my cousin suddenly fell asleep and died without saying a word. When I heard my cousin's phone call in a daze, I woke up at once.

My cousin is just 48 years old and in perfect health. He usually doesn't even have a cold and cough, let alone see a doctor. What caused his sudden death?

Cousin said it was good to go to the fields to fight pesticides during the day, and came back to eat two bowls of rice at night. My favorite beef stew, radish and cabbage drank half a catty of white wine and went to bed. t

Then my cousin got up in the middle of the night and saw that his face was particularly red and he felt a little difficult to breathe. My cousin called him. Why? Is there a problem? He didn't say anything, and he was out of breath in two minutes. It's useless for my cousin to shout again.

Later, my cousin suddenly thought about whether the death of my brother-in-law was related to taking medicine, because he had mild diabetes. Before eating, he just took medicine for diabetes, and then drank half a catty of white wine. My cousin told the doctor that the doctor said that he should drink white wine for at least six hours after taking the medicine for diabetes, otherwise his life would be in danger. Cousin regretted not reminding her brother-in-law, otherwise such a thing would not have happened.

I'm really afraid of getting a phone call in the middle of the night, because there is absolutely no good thing.

Because answering the phone in the morning is definitely not good. When people reach middle age, they are over half a hundred. In the past, when they were young, their elders were older, and some people were seventy or eighty years old. Some people develop better in middle age and work in cities. Old people have long been used to living in their hometown and don't want to come out, but these middle-aged people who work outside the home are not used to living in the countryside. Many of these middle-aged people are in their twenties and live in the city with their children and daughters-in-law. Old people are not used to living in cities. Old people like raising chickens, ducks and geese and playing mahjong, so these middle-aged people often go back to see the old people once every two weeks. If the two old people in their hometown are still alive and healthy, they will often call back and visit once every two weeks. If there is only one old man left in their hometown, they will call a nanny to take care of him/her. Usually, these middle-aged people are at ease when they get a call from their hometown, because it is normal to make phone calls during the day. Who will call? Therefore, when people reach middle age, some middle-aged people are most afraid of getting a phone call from home in the early morning, because they generally don't choose to call in the early morning and don't want to disturb their children's rest. They only call in the early morning unless there is an emergency, which is why middle-aged people are most afraid of getting a phone call from home in the early morning.

No matter what age group you are, nine times out of ten, it's no good calling in the morning. I remember hearing the phone ring at work in the middle of the night, and my heart would jump ... either by accident or by death. We call it "midnight bell"! After middle age, I am most afraid of home phone calls. The child has a fever and his parents are ill. I received the most painful phone call. My biological father passed away. I just sat on the bed and didn't know what to do. After midnight, I dialed the wrong number, which also embarrassed my little heart! Hey! I wish the midnight bell would stop ringing!