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The topic of "middle school students' heterosexual communication"

One night last semester, the girl Xiao Xia (a pseudonym) was going to take a driverless bus home as usual. When she arrived at the station, she found no change, so she found Xiaoye (a pseudonym), a male classmate who lived nearby, and borrowed some change from him. Who knows that it is such a simple act of borrowing money, which was seen by the old lady next door. She embellished the story by telling Xiao Ye's mother. Xiao Ye's mother was very angry. She didn't resist. "Xiao Ye, you can do it! You brought the girl home! " "It triggered a war of words between mother and son.

The above case is a real event that happened in a high school in Wuhan, and it also caused Xie, a student of Wuchang Experimental Middle School, to think: Why is the communication between boys and girls in adolescent middle schools always regarded as a scourge, and even arbitrarily labeled as puppy love?

Viewpoint 1: heterosexual communication cannot be simply identified as puppy love.

"If the normal heterosexual communication between classmates is puppy love, is it normal for boys and girls not to communicate a word?" Huang Shiqi, a student of the First Affiliated Middle School of Huazhong Normal University, said that "puppy love" only refers to puppy love, but what is "early"? At present, it generally refers to the middle school period, even including the university. Western sociologists call the love behavior of 12- 19-year-old teenagers adolescent love. Huang Shiqi moved out of the expert's explanation of "puppy love". Even if middle school students have a good impression on each other and even have a tendency to fall in love, it can't be called "puppy love", so parents and schools don't have to make a fuss.

Huang Shiqi believes that in real life, parents and teachers' definitions of puppy love seem to be expanding. Healthy relationships between men and women are often labeled as "puppy love". In fact, heterosexual communication is an indispensable part of interpersonal relationship. "We should try our best to change people's views on this issue and avoid some unnecessary misunderstandings."

Viewpoint 2: Middle school students need correct guidance in love.

Most of the students who participated in this forum admitted that it was common for the opposite sex to have a good impression or even a secret crush on each other in middle school.

A survey on the love affair of senior two students shows that 70% students think that puppy love is not right or wrong, as long as it does not affect their study, and should not be absolutely prohibited and supported.

As this survey shows, the crux of the problem lies in how adolescent middle school students grasp and treat it. "It is the key to grasp the scale of communication between boys and girls." Li Liang, a student of Wuchang Experimental Middle School, thinks that if we let it promote our study and enrich our life, we will benefit a lot. On the contrary, if we passively avoid or master the sense of proportion, it will become a stumbling block on the road to learning.

Some students made it clear that puppy love is not advocated for middle school students. Liu Hongli, a student of Changsha Railway No.1 Middle School, said that middle school students only pay attention to the surface when they are in love, which is superficial and lacks rational thinking. Middle school students in love can't go deep into a person's personality, interests, personality and whether they really like it. So it is very unstable and has changed greatly.

Regardless of whether they support or oppose it, high school students unanimously appeal to parents and teachers for understanding and respect. In the face of students' love, we should take a positive attitude and guide them correctly, not simply deal with them unwisely.

The topic of "cheating on campus"

Open an honest examination room, encourage students to pay attention to honesty and consciously abide by the order of the examination room; The examination room is equipped with shielding devices to shield all electronic products that may be used for cheating, such as mobile phones; After being caught cheating, the test scores were cancelled, and the whole school in informed criticism ... These are all measures taken by the school against students cheating. Nowadays, it is too common for middle school students to cheat. In this forum, how to treat cheating has also become one of the hottest topics discussed by students.

Viewpoint: Establish credit files to prevent cheating.

Most students think cheating is "shameful". Ling Jiang, a student in WISCO No.3 Middle School, believes that cheating in the exam is a kind of cheating, deceiving teachers and parents, and even deceiving himself. Over time, once the habit is formed, it will become a person without integrity, and it is difficult for a person who does not speak integrity to gain a foothold in society.

Zhang, a student of Yali Middle School in Changsha City, Hunan Province, put forward a solution, that is, to establish a good faith file. He believes that we can start from the following aspects: First, carry out honesty education. Write honesty and trustworthiness into teaching materials, so that students can form the consciousness of honesty and trustworthiness from primary school. Second, establish personal integrity files. Integrity files begin with students' enrollment, and integrity should be recorded in any form of examination. This student file should be carried by students all their lives, from primary school to middle school, from middle school to university, from university to society. Students' personal integrity, from school to graduation, can be seen at a glance. If students cheat in the exam, it will be a stain on their life. If students are honest, this file is the best proof, which is of great help to further studies and employment. Third, clear rewards and punishments measures. Advocating honesty, the school should formulate a perfect reward and punishment system for students' cheating in exams, and give extra points to students who have not cheated in exams and other behaviors that violate the principle of honesty and trustworthiness within a school year; Take corresponding disciplinary measures against students who violate the principle of honesty and trustworthiness.

The topic "Middle School Students Participate in Extracurricular Activities"

"Primary school students and college students are the most active in participating in activities, while middle school students are the least active." When communicating with high school teachers, some teachers lamented like this. The reason is that under the competitive pressure of scores and college entrance examination, participating in extracurricular activities means that the study time is compressed. What if the exam is not ideal? What should I do if my grades fall behind? Under such psychological pressure, even though many high schools have carried out colorful extracurricular activities and social practice, except for student cadres, other students are not enthusiastic about participating. "A phone call should be answered by few people" makes many teachers who organize activities feel embarrassed.

Will taking part in extracurricular activities definitely affect your academic performance? In the forum discussion, high school students had a heated discussion on this topic.

Viewpoint 1: A comfortable environment breeds "lazy people"

Zhou Ying, a student of Changsha Railway No.1 Middle School, said that most of the contemporary middle school students are only children. They have lived in a peaceful and happy family environment since childhood and have never experienced the ups and downs of the world. They basically know nothing about the cruel reality of social life and have developed many bad habits such as luxury and laziness. Isn't it partly because college students don't know that the world is difficult and are too ambitious to choose a job?

Viewpoint 2: Extracurricular activities are beneficial and harmless.

Xu Ying, a student in affiliated high school of south china normal university, believes that whether to participate in social practice activities is no longer a matter of personal likes and dislikes of middle school students. As an evaluation standard, high school students should take it seriously. At the same time, for middle school students, participating in social practice activities is not only to change credits, but also to let students pay attention to the gains in this process and "practice makes true knowledge". If they apply what they have learned in textbooks to practical work, they will certainly gain more and deeper knowledge than in books, and at the same time exercise their other abilities and fully tap their potential, which will help them find the future development direction.

Topic "Role Consciousness of Student Cadres"

In campus life, there are always a group of people who are active among teachers, classmates and parents, organizing activities, assisting exchanges and holding competitions ... They tirelessly serve and contribute to their classmates, and they are also happy and rewarding in their dedication. They are the most youthful and energetic student cadres on campus.

Viewpoint 1: Cadres should not only study, but also look forward.

Recently, Song Tao, a teacher of the Youth League Committee of No.1 Middle School Attached to China Normal University, conducted a questionnaire survey among 180 student cadres. The survey results show that when answering the question "What is the most important thing in middle school", 66.9% of student cadres chose "ability and quality". When answering the question "It is most beneficial for student cadres to establish their prestige", only 7.5% of them choose "academic achievement", 365,438+0.8% and 36.4% choose "ideological quality" and "personal charm" respectively, and interpersonal relationship is also valued by student cadres, accounting for 20.2%.

Teacher Song said that student cadres are now paying more and more attention to the cultivation of all aspects of quality and ability, including learning ability, communication ability, expression ability, management ability, adaptability and organizational ability.

Viewpoint 2: A strong sense of pragmatism

The survey results also show that a large part of the pressure of senior high school student cadres comes from the expectations of parents, teachers, friends and classmates, as well as the pressure to compare with others. As a high school student, student cadres still have their own pressures, but what brings them the greatest pressure is "their own requirements for themselves."

Zhao Yanli, a middle school student in Dongfeng No.1 Middle School in Shiyan, Hubei Province, said that after becoming a student cadre, she was always worried that she would not be able to successfully complete the tasks assigned to her by her teacher, and she felt anxious every time she accepted the tasks.

In the interview, nearly half of the student cadres first think that being a student cadre is an all-round exercise of personal ability, which is conducive to a foothold in society in the future. There are also student cadres who admit that "being a cadre can broaden their horizons and gain more social resources, such as broader interpersonal relationships".

Teacher Song believes that this shows that the self-subjectivity of student cadres has been enhanced, and it is a mature performance to treat the expectations and requirements of teachers, parents and classmates correctly. But on the other hand, it also implies that the pressure of student cadres comes from themselves, so decompression means confronting, surpassing and liberating themselves. On the contrary, compared with external pressure, it is not so easy.

The competition in modern society tends to be cruel, and high school students also realize that student cadres are more sensitive to the pulse of this society. Therefore, during their tenure as cadres, they also added a lot of pragmatism to accumulate resources and pave the way for future development.

Teacher: The students left a deep impression on us.

Teacher Yao from the Academic Affairs Office of the First Affiliated High School of China Normal University told the reporter that for the smooth convening of this forum, the student cadres of the school have been preparing for nearly eight months, from scheme planning to contacting the school, to meeting arrangement and material distribution. Teachers rarely ask, "Judging from the development, this forum is successful."

Li Zhen, a teacher from Dawu No.1 Middle School who led the team to participate in the forum, lamented: "I used to treat them as children, but now I don't think so." He said that as soon as he entered the No.1 Middle School Attached to China Normal University, enthusiastic students immediately greeted him and handed in business cards. "XXX, vice chairman of the student union, QQ number mobile phone and all other contact information are available." Not only the teachers, but also every student who attended the meeting sent business cards. Some students from other provinces came prepared and took out business cards and sent them to other partners.

The topics discussed in the forum also let the participating teachers see the knowledgeable and thoughtful side of the students. Chen Jingfa, a teacher from Linchuan No.1 Middle School in Jiangxi Province, said that the biggest feeling is that the students are very thoughtful, and everyone has their own views on various campus phenomena, even if they have different views. "Through this forum, I really understand the psychology of students." Teacher Chen said that the heartfelt words of the students inspired the teacher a lot.