"Little Doudou by the Window": the "weird" child in the eyes of ordinary people

For a long time, the children at home cried every day and refused to go to school. They were unwilling to communicate with other children. They remained silent outside and made mischief at home. In the eyes of teachers and neighbors, even I once thought that she was a child with a strange personality.

My colleague heard about my child’s situation, smiled and gave me a book - "Little Doudou by the Window". The cover of the book is a little worn, and it can be seen that it has been turned over many times.

This colleague is well-known in the company for her good attitude and good temper. Whenever she appears, the first thing she sees is her eyes narrowed into a crescent shape.

Sometimes people would tease her for being "stupid", because when she encounters something unhappy, she will tell us and let it go, and she will never hold a grudge; even if she occasionally suffers a loss, she still smiles. The fruit snacks at home and the holiday gifts from the work will be given to strangers on the way to and from work; I will clock in at the last second of work while gasping for breath, because I was in the park with the sanitation aunt. I forgot the time.

The same goes for her children, who have wild imaginations and are extremely sunny and happy children.

I think these are largely related to her educational philosophy and family atmosphere.

After reading this book, I am even more convinced that she just allowed herself and her children to become "weird" people in the eyes of ordinary people and be happy being herself.

01

"Little Doudou by the Window" tells a true story of the author when he was in primary school. She was expelled from primary school in the first grade and has unusual thoughts in her head every day. Even now, the author Xiao Doudou's behavior is very "strange".

During class, I didn’t pay attention to the reactions of my classmates and teachers. I just discovered that the desk had an upturned drawer. I found it very novel and interesting, so I opened the lid of the desk back and forth hundreds of times.

When the teacher is teaching, he does not sit in his seat, but stands near the window so that he can spot the passing orchestra immediately and invite them to come and play next to the classroom. When there was no band passing by, she would shout out the window: "What are you doing?". When classmates and teachers came closer, they realized that she was talking to a flying bird.

During the painting class, the entire drawing paper was filled with the content assigned by the teacher. Logically speaking, it was over, but Xiaodoudou still had more things he wanted to draw, so he did not hesitate to finish the unfinished drawings. Content stretches across the desktop until it completes itself.

In the opinion of the teacher, Doudou's behavior has affected the whole class. He has also warned Doudou not to do it, but Doudou does not feel that he has done anything wrong. In desperation, the teacher asked her mother to transfer Doudou to another school.

Seeing this, I think of children in real life. When they want to do something but before they start doing it, there is a voice: "No...can't... ..." Gradually, they learn to act based on adults' faces, worry about the opinions of people around them, and even become cautious.

Not every child can be as unscrupulous as Xiaodoudou.

02

Mom ran around trying to find a school willing to take Doudou in. Facing Doudou who was kicked out of school, her mother did not criticize her. Instead, she was thinking about how to communicate with Doudou about transferring to another school.

From her mother's point of view, even if Doudou told Doudou about dropping out of school, Doudou still couldn't understand what she had done wrong; she was even more worried that dropping out of school would make Doudou develop an inferiority complex.

Finally, my mother found a primary school called "Ba Xueyuan". To be honest, my mother felt a little uneasy, fearing that the new school would not accept Doudou.

But after seeing the principal, my mother's anxious heart finally sank. This should be the most suitable school for Doudou.

The principal was different from other teachers. After a brief greeting, he asked his mother to leave and asked to talk to Doudou alone. It's more of a chat than a conversation.

From the beginning, the principal asked a question: "Are you willing to say everything you want to say?"

This question made Doudou, who was originally a little nervous, completely relax. She began to talk endlessly, and couldn't wait to spit out everything she thought and wanted to say. These words seemed to have been held in her stomach for several years. She thought to herself that it was not easy for someone to listen to her, so she must seize the opportunity and not miss anything.

During this process, the principal showed no impatience and did not interrupt once. He stared at Doudou’s smiling face seriously, listened to her description, sometimes laughed, sometimes frowned, until Doudou I couldn't think of anything to say anymore, and the chat didn't end until lunch time came.

For a full 3 or 4 hours, Doudou said everything she wanted to say to the principal whom she met for the first time; and the principal, as an audience and a new friend, listened to all the stories.

Few people, including parents, are willing to spend such a long time listening to the "nonsense" of a 6-year-old child.

When a child says a sentence, we may ask curiously: "Why?" He may forget what to say next.

When a child describes something exciting to him with relish, we will inevitably interrupt to express our own opinions.

When a child wants to tell his parents something, the parents are too busy to listen carefully.

So that one day later, they were unwilling to share their thoughts with their parents.

03

From this day on, Doudou started her new primary school life. She excitedly told her mother that she especially liked it here.

This school is so unique that if you hadn’t read the author’s description, it would be almost difficult to imagine that such a school exists in reality.

The students’ classroom is not in a house, but in an abandoned tram carriage;

Students do not have fixed seats and change them every day according to their own preferences;

There are very few students in the school, only about 50 in total;

There is no fixed class schedule, and students’ favorite courses are given priority;

The teacher has very little teaching time. Most of them are self-study, and the study is completed on the same day and you can move around the campus freely.

Doudou’s happiest moments every day are walking and chatting with her classmates at school, climbing over fences and vegetable fields, and having lunch.

When walking with classmates, the principal will occasionally participate, and will also meet senior students and become friends with them;

Like a puppy, he digs holes under the fence, Drilling in, out, out, and out, the repetitive movements make Doudou enjoy it;

Every student will bring a lunch box, but the principal will check every day whether there is "the smell of mountains and the smell of the sea." The taste refers to food on land, and the taste of sea refers to food in the sea. If any student lacks one kind, the principal’s wife will serve it to that student from the pot she is holding.

In this school, all students can live and study according to their nature. There is no rigid teaching, but every student behaves like a simple and kind little angel.

When faced with classmates who have suffered from polio, they never feel that there is anything strange, they just think that everyone’s body is different;

Faced with huge heads, short stature and permanent For such a classmate, they will be in the sports meeting, and the teachers and students of the school will work together to make him the first;

Faced with a classmate who refuses to speak on stage because he "has nothing to say", invite him to make up something he wants to say. Even though it was just a few words, "I got up in the morning, brushed my teeth, and went to school," everyone gave me warm applause knowingly.

It was in such an environment that Xiaodoudou changed from a "weird" person in the eyes of ordinary people to a normal person that everyone can accept.

This school left a deep impression on Doudou, so this book, the number one best-selling book in Japan, appeared.

This kind of growth environment is inseparable from Xiaodoudou's eventual becoming an excellent writer, host, and United Nations goodwill ambassador.

04

Every child has a unique nature. They are like a blank sheet of paper, slowly filling in their own colors as they grow.

Good educational concepts and family atmosphere can bring children correct values ????and a happy childhood.

The wind blowing from around you will send your child’s future to a very far place.

All love based on respect and understanding will be accepted by "weird" children until they gradually become normal people who can feel and appreciate.

Today is Children’s Day. I wish all babies a free soul and a happy life!