Only when parents let go can children grow up.

The more independent people are, they are often pushed out by their parents' malice. And those who have grown up or graduated from college, still rely on their parents, or even eat old, are spoiled by their parents. If children want to grow up, parents should learn to let go appropriately, so that children can learn to suffer hardships, protect themselves and be grateful on the road of growth. ...

? When I was a child, I wanted to do whatever my parents wanted, regardless of everything! But in reality, parents are in charge of everything, which is not good. You can only do what your parents think is possible. This is what parents usually say, parents pin their ideals on the next generation of children. Either the education from generation to generation has developed spoiled and morbid children, and so on. . .

? My child is eight years old now. Due to our own lack of restraint and supervision, children have developed a series of bad habits, such as ink stains, procrastination and inattention. We often reflect on how to change him. My wife and I have been communicating and arguing about children's education. Because we are opposite in character, she is impatient and I am more rational, so the child seized my weakness and liked to pester me.

So my wife and I discussed whether to send him to summer camp during the summer vacation, so that he can experience some military life and learn self-discipline and so on. Only by learning self-discipline can he grow faster in the future.

? On the first day of the camp, I was a little helpless and sorry to see the photos of the children's training ground during the day. Some children cried. Among the parents, some parents have never expressed their opinions from the beginning to now, while some parents have been asking the principal, did the instructor cry? Are you hurt? How's the food! How to wash clothes and so on ~ ~ ~

There are also parents who say that grandma and the like are asking their children if it is safe to sleep at night, and so on ~ ~ ~ has been pestering them until about 10 at night. Maybe my parents are busy with other things, maybe they are waiting helplessly, maybe they are looking at the ceiling of the table and counting the stars ~ ~ but my wife and I fell asleep quietly. Early the next morning, parents started asking questions yesterday, chattering endlessly, asking for photos to confirm their children. I saw that they had been asking questions, so I silently replied in the group. I don't know how many parents lost sleep last night, and the children put it down, but the parents still didn't learn to put it down. Parents, since we choose to let our children change, what are you worried about?

? As a result of my speech, I was greeted by the cries of my parents. Some parents said that my father was cruel. Finally, many parents slowly began to calm down, because we all know that even if we are worried, there is no way, just let them go! Just like a bird, let him fly. Only in this way can he fly higher and farther. We just need to protect our home, make him tired, come back and have a rest, and let him know that we support him at any time!

In more than ten days, I have regular video communication with children, including photos during training. The state changes day by day, and the sitting posture changes obviously. In the process of communicating with children, from thoughts to actions and behaviors, it has really changed a lot. The baptism of gratitude class made him understand the difficulties of his parents.

Looking back on my childhood, I basically focused on home and housework, playing mud with my childhood playmates, and my parents didn't pay much attention to themselves. I always thought sending you to school was enough. The only criterion for learning is whether the teacher is not good at teaching, and whether he is not serious or clever. This is the sorrow of the times and the helplessness of our generation. Parents seem to let go, but there is no correct traction. If they go in the right direction, or go in the wrong direction, letting go will change their children's lives. If you love your children, you should learn to let go properly and pull correctly, because your life is not only for children, but also for your life and ideals.