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As a growing parent, please stop nagging and set an example.

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With regard to precept by example, I often wonder, why do you preach in the early stage and preach in the later stage? Is it true that words speak louder than deeds?

I'm afraid not. Take my daughter's relationship with me as an example. I told her many reasons, but she remembered very little. Especially some things, no matter how many times I say them, don't work, such as: don't play mobile phone, don't watch TV ... but if I do a lot of things, then she will follow suit. For example, I turned off the TV, put down my cell phone and started reading.

Since the birth of the child, her reference is us, so she observes us all the time and imitates us. Eyes in front, ears behind, usually we will see what a person does before listening to what he says, so if we can set an example and tell them what to do with actions, they will know how to do better.

Of course. Not that words are not important. It's just that many times our parents say one thing and do another. Obviously, when we cross the road, we will pay attention to the traffic lights. As a result, when we crossed the road, we looked around and ran a red light. There was no car. When we said not to watch TV, we sat in front of the TV and said not to play with mobile phones. We held the phone and refused to let go. Over and over again, children will be confused when they hear your words and see your behavior.

Therefore, words and deeds are more than words and deeds.

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Let's talk about nagging. I have read many articles and described my parents' love with delicate brushstrokes, which is reflected in my daily nagging. I also agree that all parents' nagging does include love for their children, but do you think all nagging also includes control over their children?

I nag about the cold weather every day and put on more clothes. I believe this is because I love my child and am afraid that he will catch cold. However, the temperature of the body is determined by the child's own feelings. Parents are replacing their children's feelings with nagging, hoping that their children will listen to his opinions.

Every day, I nag my children to study hard and get into a good university. I believe this is also because I love them and I am afraid that they will take detours and suffer losses in the future. However, learning is also a child's business. How to study and what university to enter should also be decided by the children themselves. Parents drown their dreams with nagging, hoping that their children will follow their planned route.

I understand parents' love for their children, but I don't understand how to control children's behavior by nagging under the banner of love. Just as we love our children and identify with their feelings, it doesn't mean that we must recognize and accept their behavior. No one can grow into a happy person under control, and no one can realize his dreams in other people's plans. You should feel your feelings, choose your dreams, and go your own way.

When we were young, we would choose to close our ears and refuse our parents' nagging. When we grow up and become parents, we begin to understand parents' nagging, not because we really think it is right, but because we begin to look more and more like them, and our children will gradually understand what we have experienced.

I don't want this cycle. I hope I can jump out of this cycle and change bit by bit in continuous learning and continuous review and reflection.

It is much harder to shut up than to nag. However, parents who really grow up are those who stop nagging, help their children find their dreams with examples and words, and lead their children to follow their own life path.