Unscrambling the life code and Bi Shumin's post-reading feeling

I was lucky enough to read "Decoding the Code of Life" by Bi Shumin, a famous psychologist and writer. I am very inspired. It turns out that there is a password to get happiness, and everyone's life password is in their own hands. So, I am the master of my own happiness! The following is what I compiled to help you understand The Code of Life and Bi Shumin's thoughts after reading it. I hope you like it.

Chapter One: Deciphering the Life Code and Bi Shumin's Reading Comprehension Deciphering the Life Code is one of the reading books recommended by the education department. The author is Bi Shumin, a national first-class writer, an attending physician in internal medicine, a psychological consultant and a lecture room professor. The work pays attention to life and death with vivid writing and warm philosophical thinking, and writes happiness and warmth.

The book says: A truly happy person is not only happy at every moment of his life, but the whole state of his life. Even though he has experienced painful moments and he knows the true meaning of these pains, he still points to happiness after these pains. It can even be said that these pains are part of happiness, and he is still happy on the whole.

What is happiness in reading from different angles? Using many vivid examples to explain the profound meaning of happiness makes people feel suddenly enlightened. Here I briefly explain my understanding and feelings about happiness after reading this book.

Happiness is a kind of consciousness of the living; Happiness is a feeling that everyone yearns for. Everyone wants to live a happy life, but everyone's understanding of happiness is different, because everyone has different ideas, and everyone's definition, source, content, form and pursuit of happiness are different, that is, their views on happiness are different. Therefore, everyone's happiness is of course different. Some people say that happiness means having a warm home, a loving partner and a beloved baby! Some people say that happiness is to have an ordinary job, cherish a touching story, like to know a bosom friend, always remember a silent blessing, forget worldly troubles and leave a string of romantic memories! Some people say that having peace, health and love is complete happiness! ………

I said, happiness is a kind of mood, it is a kind of contentment, indifference, contentment, happiness and gratitude; Happiness is related to mentality. A pessimistic attitude makes people feel depressed; And an optimistic attitude makes people full of energy. "If your heart changes, your attitude will change; If your attitude changes, your habits will also change; Habits have changed, so has your personality; If your personality changes, so will your life. " In this sense, mentality determines life, mentality determines fate, and mentality determines happiness. Misfortune depends on happiness, and happiness lies in misfortune. When setbacks, misfortunes, disasters or bad luck come, we must keep an optimistic attitude and not be captured by a pessimistic attitude.

I think I am a very happy person and very satisfied with my present life. I don't expect too much. As long as family and friends are in good health and have a good life, that is the greatest happiness. If you are in a happy mood, you will be more passionate at work. If you have passion, you will naturally feel happy. At that time, I sometimes lamented that life was not satisfactory, and I couldn't be a saint-like "not happy with things, not sad for myself." But I also know how to face life with the mentality of "indifferent when you are proud, calm when you are frustrated". People often can't control the outside world, but they can control their own mentality. Grasping our own state of mind, we will have a beautiful and peaceful spiritual world, and happiness will come to us. Of course, it's easier said than done. As Mr. Bi said, in fact, our minds will catch a cold. When it comes to physical diseases, we will say prevention first and strengthen the system. In fact, our psychology is also prevention-oriented, and we should realize that ordinary possession is the true meaning of happiness. Happy people don't have everything, but try their best to enjoy the gift of life. Watching office workers return to their homes, quietly listening to music and cooking is a person's happiness. Calling home when you are homesick, simple greetings and parents' concern are also a kind of happiness. It is also a kind of happiness for a few friends to eat and go shopping together on weekends. One day, I got a call from a friend. It may be just a few short words, but it is also a kind of happiness. At least someone cares about you.

Happy people are like the sun, where it shines; Unfortunate people are like the moon, and the fifteenth day of the first lunar month is different. May all those who want to be happy in the world grasp every happiness point in life and win lifelong happiness by their own mentality!

The above is my experience from reading this book, and finally I want to share with you a prose poem-"What is Happiness".

Happiness is the warmth nestled in the warm arms of mother;

Happiness depends on the sweetness of lovers' broad shoulders;

Happiness is the kindness to touch a child's delicate skin;

Happiness is respect for watching parents' vicissitudes.

What is happiness?

Happiness is a mystery. You ask a thousand people to answer, and there will be a thousand answers.

Someone once said: "True happiness can't be described, only experienced. The deeper the experience, the more difficult it is to describe, because true happiness is not a collection of facts, but a continuation of a state. " Happiness is not for others, and it has nothing to do with what others say. The important thing is that your heart is full of happy sunshine, that is to say, happiness is in your own hands, not in the eyes of others. Happiness is a feeling, which should be pleasant, comfortable and sweet.

Happiness is when I can't see you, I can comfort myself: it's good to miss you quietly like this. Happiness is that I am always tied to you, even if you are not by my side.

Happiness is that whenever I think of you, the air is filled with the feeling of spring.

Happiness is that no matter how big the storm is outside, you will know that there is always a cup of hot coffee waiting for you at home.

Chapter two: Decoding the life code and Bi Shumin's thoughts after reading it. The world we lived in was once so vast that it seemed endless. But technology makes communication everywhere, and the world suddenly becomes a "global village", which solves the post-reading feeling of life code. But between heart and heart, the gap is slowly cracked. As the saying goes, it's easy to get the moon first, which is exactly the case! Everyone is asking: where is happiness?

When our eyes are entangled in material vanity and become vacillating, when our hearts are impetuous by worldly dust, who is our most trusted mentor, especially books? It is the best companion to appease the lonely soul of modern people. When the soul haunts a book, we can gradually find ourselves abandoned. Bi Shumin's mental health book "Deciphering the Code of Life" may be able to answer questions about happiness for you and me.

The book says: meaningful happiness is happiness. Everything in human history is only for the continuation of race and civilization. Speaking of people, the so-called meaning of life is nothing more than making "life live poetically on the earth". Unfortunately, however, we can see that many people have abandoned their hard-won lives, and the bad habits such as alcoholism, drug abuse, violence and suicide are getting more and more serious. Not only does it cause physical trauma, it is by no means meaningful, but even the happiness of that moment is like a flash in the pan, which is not worth mentioning. But sadly, we can find that more people sacrifice their spiritual happiness for material satisfaction. Since childhood, we have been instilled with the idea of getting ahead, thinking that standing at the top of power and money can reach the other side of happiness, so we reluctantly do things we don't want to do or can't do. We habitually join the rolling crowd and push forward. As for the direction, few people have seriously explored it. Even if he returned home in splendor, he could not hide the dozens of helpless vicissitudes printed in the corner of his eyes.

The book says: let go of the burden and walk with the flowers. At present, many people can pay attention to the "sub-health" of the body, but subconsciously or unconsciously ignore the "sub-health" of the mind. There is a huge net in front of modern people, called "pressure", which restricts people's pursuit of individuality and freedom. Pressure is everywhere, all the time. When a child comes into contact with the air outside the home, stress begins its suffocating life journey.

When we can't change our living environment, we should adjust our mentality. Try to change what can be changed, and try to accept what cannot be changed, not to be content with the status quo, but to do your best.

When we resolutely give up those unattainable goals, many unnecessary pressures have disappeared and disappeared into your relaxed smile.

The book says: from inferiority to happiness! If you don't try to embrace the world, then the world will be farther and farther away from you and me. Teacher Bi told us that inferiority is the biggest enemy of happiness. Because of inferiority, I dare not pursue what I love, and I am lonely or numb all my life; Because of inferiority, I dare not work hard to realize my dreams, so I live in mediocrity and mediocrity; Because of self-abasement, I dare not express myself boldly, and the passion to suppress my life has quietly passed away. ...

Because of inferiority, I feel that I don't deserve real happiness, so I have to let happiness flow through my fingers, live in regret and remorse, and go on completely unfortunately. The book says: Happiness is not a luxury. Yes, because happiness is always there, it is hidden in our hearts. What stops us from being unhappy is nothing more than our own inner lack of firmness and courage. If you close your heart and try to win the love of the whole world, is it ridiculous or sad? To embrace the world, please open your arms; To embrace happiness, open your heart. We need a change, a change of soul.

Starting today, do something meaningful, be a happy person, release unnecessary pressure, face it indifferently, face up to inferiority and dare to surpass it. Strong mind, can happiness be far behind?

Happiness is just a turning distance. When you turn around and face the sunshine, the shadow will always be behind you, and happiness will overflow on your face and mine.

Chapter 3: Decoding the life code and Bi Shumin's thoughts after reading it. When reading this book, I always burst into tears when I saw the most sincere place. I think it's probably because the stories in the book are so reasonable. This book points out that ignoring body language has subtly created my own diseases. But also recounted that Louis Hai gave a small dictionary of body language. I felt a sore throat at that time, so I took a look. After reading this part, I caught a cold. Did I deliberately detoxify myself?

Then what is happiness?

As a senior psychologist, the author Bi Shumin told us that happiness comes from a sense of purpose, and the so-called meaningful happiness is happiness. Bi Shumin said, "Man is a strange animal. He must find the meaning of life. Life is meaningless, so we should make it meaningful. Life itself is not happy, so we should live happily. "

Many novel ideas first appeared in Breaking the Code of Life. In the book, from the perspective of psychology, medicine and humanities, Bi Shumin gave us detailed answers on how to solve the deep trauma of inferiority, depression, anxiety, sadness, death and fear, and thought and explored a harmonious and balanced spiritual art. ..

The book mainly expounds happiness from these three aspects: getting rid of the inferiority of happiness ... sealing up sadness, rebuilding oneself ... properly handling emergencies and relieving anxiety. ...

The book points out: "Sadness doesn't have to be forced to disappear, it just becomes a part of our history. Don't hide your sad bones in the closet of memory forever. As soon as you open the cupboard door, they will be scattered all over the floor. Pack it up and keep it in your memory. Peace of mind should be completed gradually, so don't worry. " Sadness should also be released.

Throughout the book, I am deeply touched by this sentence: "A good social support network and trustworthy people can effectively fight anxiety and crisis." Those who want this book can read it carefully, appreciate it carefully and understand it carefully. The rhythm of life may be different from that of life.

How hard life is. So, seize every happy moment in life, enjoy life, accept yourself and be happy! This book is very approachable, eloquent and does not preach! I think it is profitable. Happiness can really be debugged. "Happiness has a blind spot, and only those who lose it know its value", "Find a new model to cover up the deep inferiority complex" and "Sadness need not be forced to disappear, so that it can become a part of history".