Why should children be taught to say hello to others?

You are walking on the road, and suddenly, there is a milky "Hello Auntie" around you. Look inside, a pair of curious eyes are scanning you, and he (she) may still be in his/her mother's arms. How do you feel at this time? You will be heartbroken and happy, and then you can't help going to Doby to praise those children. As for me, I have enjoyed this beauty more than once. As a mother, I did the same. When the sheep babbled, I taught him to say hello to others, and the child gradually developed a habit. When Yangzi was four years old, he came to live in Beijing with us. Unfamiliar environment, no small playmates. We are very concerned about whether the adults around us like him or not, and whether he can blend in with the children smoothly. So, we start with courtesy, say hello first, and help children integrate into the new environment bit by bit. Soon, he had good friends in the kindergarten, played with the children in the neighborhood, and greeted the adults on his own initiative, which relieved our nervousness and felt that the children could overcome their shyness (when the sheep was young), break through themselves and take the first step to communicate with others. What remarkable progress! However, what happened later made me rethink. It was a weekend and the weather was fine. When our family goes out to play, the sheep are naturally happy. The elevator door opened, and the sheep shouted "Hello, Aunt" and walked in quickly. As a result, we were surprised. There is only one sheep in the elevator, and my aunt is not there at all (she may have to leave temporarily). It turns out that sheep's greetings are just a routine! Later, when the sheep greeted me, I didn't pay attention to my tone and expression. It turns out that "Hello Auntie" is really just a question that does not convey feelings and does not require an answer. From the perspective of "auntie", I feel the greetings from my children (not including those who know me very well). Most of them are accompanied by their parents, who greet them with their reminders and supervision. The children themselves have no intention of talking about it. Moreover, the older the child is, the less heartbroken he will be as at the beginning of this article. On the surface, children are polite, but they don't know what this politeness means. This is a bit like a topic of life left for children, but can we expect children to consciously reflect? Facing the growing children, etiquette education can no longer stay at the level of "being a polite boy". Politeness is a stepping stone to cultivate children's communication ability. A greeting will make the other person feel very comfortable, and the initial goodwill will be established. With this foundation, the chat will continue and the communication will begin. What a coincidence! Abortion's mother sent me such a diary of her tutor: There is another communication thing I want to tell you. We went downstairs to play on weekends, and she was quite relaxed and had a good time. She didn't answer only when Lele called her name. When I came home, I met my neighbor across the street. Jiajia also wanted to go home with her father. They went upstairs before us. Arrived at the door, Jia Jia entered the door and said, goodbye abortion! I said, goodbye, Jia Jia. Abortion didn't speak. After entering the room, I told Xiaoyue that the children should promise to talk to you. If only you had said goodbye to Jia Jia. Abortion said, I don't know her either. I'm dizzy! I asked, do you really not know her? Abortion replied, I forgot who she was. According to the child's mother, Jia Jia is two years younger than Xiaoyue and lives across the hall. She used to go to the same kindergarten. She seldom plays together, and occasionally meets her when she comes out and goes in. They also hitchhiked with Jia Jia's family, so Abortion must know Jia Jia. So, how to guide children to greet others happily? This is the focus of our discussion: Mom: I might say so. Yanping: Tell me about it. Mom: If you don't want to say hello, you don't have to. If you want to say hello, just say it out loud. Yanping: Did the child choose not to say hello? Mom: It's more polite to say hello. Yanping: Yes! Yanping: Politeness, if understood from the perspective of communication? Mom: Everything I say looks like criticism and accusation. Mom: It only puts pressure on children. I don't know what positive effect it will have. Mom: Why don't you just scold me? Yanping: That's even more undesirable. Yanping: From the perspective of communication, politeness is the first step, just a stepping stone, right? Mom: Yes! Mom: Teacher Yanping, I remember telling you that Lele greeted the child and she didn't respond. Now that Lele saw her, she stopped talking. Mom: It turns out that there is a Ningning downstairs. Every time she sees abortion, she calls her, but she never responds. Don't talk now. Mom: I once told her about it. Yan Ping: Well, it's important to help children learn to communicate. Mom: Yes. Mom: I know. Mom: But this, to be honest, neither will I. Yanping said, "Look, Abortion, Jia Jia greets you, but you ignore others. What would she think? " Mom: Oh. Mom: I see! Yanping: Guess what children will say and think? Mom: I don't know what she will say. Mom: But she will be moved. Mom: There must be! Yanping: Well, of course, children may not be able to express their feelings in such detail. Yanping: Put yourself in the other's shoes: "Abortion, if you say hello to a child and people ignore you, you will be very sad, won't you?" Mom: Yes, it's a good reminder! Mom: Put yourself in others' shoes. Mom: Thank you! Mom: This will work. Yan Ping: Well, from the feelings of both sides, when the child has an experience, she will slowly adjust her words and deeds. Mom: Thank you! To sum up, it is to start from the child's own feelings and put yourself in the child's shoes, so as to feel and promote action and help the child cross this hurdle. As parents, why should we teach our children to say hello to others? Not just to make them feel that our children are polite, so as to satisfy our vanity. What's more, we have the responsibility to help children start the first step of communication with others.