Twittering 46: the center of the moon, the lesson of blood

I am only one year older than my younger brother. When I was three months old, my mother's breast milk suddenly disappeared. Later, I learned that I was pregnant with my younger brother, and naturally breast milk stopped after pregnancy. I'm only three months old. I'm starving, but my breast milk is gone. I'm worried about my parents. At that time, it was difficult to buy milk powder. In fact, even if you can buy it casually, you have no money to buy it. In this way, sometimes I eat milk powder, sometimes I drink porridge, and sometimes I eat condensed milk, so I grow up. It may be related to malnutrition from childhood. Since I can remember, I have been in poor health, often taking medicine and often seeing doctors everywhere.

Over 4 years old, I gave birth to a second child. After delivery, my physical condition was of course extremely poor. My husband said that I was too hard, so I must have a good month and take the opportunity to recuperate my body. After a round of investigation, I decided to let me live in a relatively good month center. This decision is extremely inconsistent with the economic conditions of my family. But my husband and my parents agree that money is not a problem as long as it is good for my health. You get what you pay for, and the monthly center charges so much. There must be some reasons, and it must be good.

In this way, I spent more than 3, yuan to live in the Yayue Heritage Yuezi Club in Zhengdong New District. In Zhengzhou, it belongs to the middle and high grade, and my husband asked me to book a VIP suite (5, to 6, yuan). Originally, I wanted to take a month off, so I didn't have to spend so much money. I gave in to living in the month center. Therefore, in the choice of suites, I resolutely stopped giving in and insisted on choosing the mid-range room inside, saving tens of thousands. Later, I was often glad that I lost 2 thousand or 3 thousand.

Looking back now, the process of giving birth to a son is quite smooth, thanks to my good friend in junior high school, who is a surgeon. We specially decided to go to their hospital to give birth. My good friend accompanied me into the operating room. The whole operating room was a friend's colleague. The atmosphere was relaxed and harmonious, and I heard my son crying when I was talking and laughing.

after five days in the hospital, I was invited for a one-on-one new moon, which was very careful and took good care of me and my children. I clearly remember that every time I go to the bathroom, Yueyue will follow me and say that it is not good for my hand to touch the cold metal button. She will press the toilet. I have always been very grateful to the new moon. In those days, the pain was unbearable, especially when the nurse came to press the stomach, especially after the analgesic stick was removed, it was painful from the tip of the hair to the fingertips. I can't take care of myself. If it weren't for her, I really don't know who would take care of the baby. My mother-in-law serves my father-in-law at home, my mother takes care of my daughter at home, my husband has to go to work and can only stay in the hospital for one day.

On the day of discharge, the car from Yuezi Center directly took me back to our reserved room.

This Yuezi Center has an excellent online reputation. It is a three-story building, very quiet and beautifully decorated. I am looking forward to being more considerate and providing better service than Yueyue in the hospital. As a result, I understand a bloody fact: don't look at advertisements, but look at the curative effect.

Yayue inheritance is a nurse system, that is, when you need it, you can call someone on the internal phone. Nurses are all graduated from regular medical schools, with certificates, majoring in science, which sounds beautiful. In fact, a nurse can't work for 12 hours and take care of three or four babies at the same time. What I admire very much is that nurses are not well paid, with a monthly salary of more than 3 thousand, but they are really dedicated and enthusiastic, and they can basically be on call. But their physical strength and energy are inevitably overdrawn. I often dare not give my baby to them for fear that they will not take good care of it. So the baby is basically taken care of by myself, and I can't sleep well during the day and night, so I am very tired. This is far less than the 24-hour moon around. And nurses change frequently, which is not fixed. Some nurses have just become familiar with the baby, or the baby has just become familiar with the nurse, but the result has changed again, and everything has been explained from the beginning to the beginning, which of course has disadvantages.

In terms of diet, Yuezi Center promised to order a monthly meal according to everyone's physique before signing the contract. Later, when I got acquainted with my mothers, I realized that every mother's meal was exactly the same. This is really naked deception, and many mothers are dissatisfied. There is also too much meat, too little fresh vegetables and unbalanced nutrition in meals. The extra meals are completely cheap bread and cakes, which are not the promised healthy snacks made by the chefs in the Yuezi Center. Lots of meat, few vegetables, and extra meals with high sugar content. During the whole month, I often got angry, my gums were swollen and my weight soared. In the case that I was very tired of taking care of my children alone, I gave birth and weighed 2 Jin.

One more thing, before signing the contract, Yuezi Center promised a psychologist. If mothers have postpartum depression and anxiety, a professional doctor will immediately start one-on-one diagnosis and treatment. This is actually the most attractive point for my husband. I have been hospitalized for depression. The doctor of the Sixth Hospital of Beijing Medical University said that I can't have another child in my life. If I have a child, I will definitely have a relapse of depression, and I can't cure it. I will take medicine for life. Therefore, my husband and my family are most worried about my depression during the second month. The promise of the second month center made my husband sign in an instant and paid tens of thousands of dollars.

but what about the fact? How can there be a psychiatrist? During the whole month, no matter what happens, you must rely on yourself to explain yourself and care for yourself. Compared with the actual situation, this promise of Yuezi Club is simply a big joke.

Before signing the contract, another thing to attract the mothers is that there are various classes in the club of Yuezi Center, such as handicrafts, aerobics and yoga. However, after actually moving in, I found that all this requires you to have a natural birth, be young and in good physical condition, and give your child to a nurse before you can go to school. However, many precious mothers are weak after childbirth, and they are not assured that the babies will be handed over to the nurses, so most mothers can't go. These attractive publicity at the beginning actually just sounded beautiful. Babies also have early education classes, but the babies in the month are basically sleeping, so they are useless. Now think about it, these additional things are too fancy and impractical. But you have to pay for it.

If you give me another chance to choose a month-end center, I only want the room to be big enough, because you have to stay in the room most of the time, and I will value the month-end center with a 24-hour escort. These are all experiences bought with money. I hope I can give some reference to the friends who read this article.

when I recall here, I suddenly remembered an even worse thing. On several nights, the road was built outside all night, which made the mothers in the whole month center unable to sleep. After we reported it to the competent leaders, they said it was a municipal construction, and the month center could not interfere and did not solve the problem at all. Fortunately, the babies slept soundly and were not affected.

when you are out of the month, go home like a refugee and breathe a sigh of relief.

If you think about it carefully, living in the month center also has advantages: the family is relaxed, my mother, mother-in-law, husband and daughter are not in a hurry during the month, and they all live normally at home. My husband will come to see me on weekends.

Yes, there is another biggest advantage. I have met several like-minded mothers, and we have become good friends. We have kept in touch all the time. We get together with our babies from time to time, and it feels particularly good. And we meet, and our exchange group will never leave, until the children go to school, grow up and get married, they should keep in touch and inform each other of each other's news. This is the greatest comfort and the greatest surprise and gain for me who love to make friends.

In a word, we spent tens of thousands of dollars to buy an experience: if we must go to the Moon Club for a month, we must choose a one-to-one moon center, or we can just have a month at home and ask for a moon.

it's almost 1: 3. I'm going to work. I'll take time to talk again tomorrow.