How to be tolerant and kind to others?

Many young friends often haggle over trifles, making them blush and have thick necks. This lack of tolerance is not only detrimental to the harmonious coexistence between classmates, but also to normal interpersonal communication.

To learn to tolerate others, we must first have an optimistic attitude. A pessimistic person, always easy to think of the bad side of things, depressed, depressed, so always dissatisfied with others or angry. Some people are optimistic at ordinary times, but they are pessimistic when they encounter anything. This is not true optimism. True optimism is that you can give yourself encouragement and hope at any time and believe in yourself.

Of course, if you want to gain tolerance, you can't do without the establishment of * * * winning view and transposition view. * * * The concept of winning is just like an advertisement saying, "It's nice to have everyone". This is a denial of the concept of excessive competition and a true collectivism. We need to be tolerant of our classmates and opponents in the competition. President Lincoln was once famous for tolerating his competitors, but later he finally caused dissatisfaction among lawmakers. The members said, "You should not try to make friends with those people, but destroy them." Lincoln smiled and replied, "When they became my friends, weren't they destroying my enemies?" President Lincoln hit the nail on the head. A more tolerant and open opponent may be our potential friend.

The concept of empathy requires us to think from another person's point of view and change our role. The essence of empathy is to put yourself in others' shoes, that is, to think what others think and understand first. If there is friction in students' communication, they should exchange positions with each other, stand in each other's position and consider the problem with each other's way of thinking or angle of thinking. In this way, when you want to get angry, you will calm down through empathy; When you feel that the other person is unreasonable, you will really understand his feelings here and now through empathy. Through empathy, you will also become tolerant.

In fact, tolerating others is tolerating yourself. If we are more tolerant of others, there will be more space in our lives. People live in society and cannot exist in isolation. They have to deal with many people, including family, friends, classmates, colleagues and strangers. We must always integrate into the big family of society in order to feel happy and live more valuable. If people want to realize their own value and live a more meaningful life, they must constantly get along with people around them, and the best way to get along with people is to be kind to them and constantly adapt to their changes, which is also the main manifestation of tolerance.

First, be kind to people around you and be tolerant. People will inevitably make mistakes, or do wrong things because of mistakes. Be kind to him, tolerate him, and allow him to correct his mistakes, so that he will be grateful, have a chance to repay you, and be more dead set on you.

Second, be kind to people around you, be sure to care about his needs and try your best to help him get satisfied.

Third, be kind to people around you, make them mentally happy and put an end to domestic violence. Usually we will use words of praise and affirmation to find each other's bright spots and affirm them, which is a bit of a Q spirit.

Fourth, make friends from the shallow to the deep, have a correct understanding of the intimacy of the relationship between the two sides, and have a process of understanding and screening friends. Some people don't care about each other as soon as they meet, but later they find that they are unhappy when they disagree. Therefore, I would rather keep my distance from each other and be polite than make friends after I start.