When the children threw out a stack of awards, the old mothers of Jiwa started to panic ...

Wen | Mi Mi Ma (WeChat official account Mi Mi Ma loves to share)

Not long ago, a friend shared a video of "Children's Fancy Show Awards", which amused Mi Mi Ma.

After the final exam, the old father sat at the entrance of the porch, turned on the camera behind his mobile phone, and prepared to stop his daughter and ask about his grades.

I saw my girl calmly draw out a stack of awards, first took out an "excellent monitor" and backhand it on the table.

looking at the old father's smile from his brow, the little girl simply showed the rest of her cards:

Excellent class representative, double kill!

the star of mathematics, triple kill!

three good students, quadra kill!

The speed of playing cards is "steady and firm", and the old father calls "I can't afford it".

hey, wait, I got 4 points in chemistry on my report card. Hey, hey, I finally failed one!

"Because the chemistry score is 4!" My daughter is still calm ......

Darling, how dare the little girl be the "dead" father!

(Boy, at last, the clown turned out to be the old father himself! )

after reading it, netizens were not calm, and they shouted to the father of the child: How to reward the baby, it's up to you!

And Mama Mi has been irrational for a long time, so she couldn't help growling, "Give me a dozen such children!"

When I see this, I can't help but "fantasize": If my rice has such a day, what should I reward him?

whether it is spiritual or material, it is always necessary to reflect the old mother's heart.

The friend who sent me the video also asked me: What should I reward her children if her ancestors appeared and came here this time?

since we are both "dreaming", how depressed is that dad?

As an unknown "parenting blogger", I decided to help this old father (by myself) and solemnly tell my friends:

The knowledge about rewarding babies is deep!

For example, when Eva's grades suddenly hit a new high, did the old mothers take all the toys that Eva wanted excitedly, or did they pretend to say "Make persistent efforts"?

For example, when the old mothers boast about Haikou, but they are accidentally overtaken by the baby, do they bite the bullet and honor their promises, or do they quietly prevaricate?

The reward will affect the whole body, and the baby will be happy and wait for the prize, but the old mother will go to treading on thin ice!

Reward children with the right posture!

(We can discuss it for a while first, in case, in case of that day, we have prepared it in advance.)

Posture 1: Talking about good rewards, we must pay attention to "martial arts" when it comes to being a parent and dealing with dolls.

just before the winter vacation, I specially rewarded my baby with a week's free time in order to praise her hard work in reviewing at the end of the term.

The condition is simple: He takes a break from playing, remember to finish the online class, and I will never say a word!

when talking about good rewards, you must keep your word!

Poke here for the cause and effect: Exposing the final exam of "Haidian Puwa", you can't think of the truth

Look at the parents in Enshi, Hubei Province, and make a game party after the exam!

It turns out that the old father promised his first-grade son that if he won the double slam in the final exam, he would be rewarded with "buying toys at the supermarket for 3 seconds".

So, as soon as the double percentage results came out, the couple slapped their thighs and immediately took the baby to the supermarket.

the baby is not afraid, wearing a mask and smiling, rubbing his hands and waiting for the order to rush in!

Although the old father's speech was a bit Versailles: You can take whatever you like for 3 seconds, but you must think clearly and don't waste time.

But people and children get good grades and get new toys by virtue of their strength.

I have to say that the parents' play has also brought some thoughts to Mama Mi:

For example, keeping promises is the basic gesture to reward children.

You know, once a pigeon baby, it's hard to chicken baby!

For example, using the concept of time to restrain the concept of money not only magnifies the interest of rewards, but also teaches children to make reasonable choices.

after all, if you put your desire in the agreed cage, you won't go in the wrong direction.

to tell the truth, although she is small, she is actually very sensitive inside.

Just like Li Zimo, a little boy who became popular the other day because of winning the prize:

Listening to the teacher read the names of the students who won the prize, he stood up excitedly again and again and sat down lonely again and again.

When Li Zimo finally got on the stage to receive the prize, Mama Mi looked at him and wept with joy, and she felt a kind of unspeakable distress!

Eva is too afraid that the expected reward will fly!

if you break your word, you'd better never promise.

at least, you won't be disappointed without expectations.

Posture 2: Don't directly "smash" with money

Mama Mi often laughs at herself. The biggest thunder that Chickens have stepped on for many years is to educate her about money.

although I'm not sure whether it's a good thing to spend money on searching rice grains, it must be a bad thing for a baby to raise a lavish consumption habit.

(See the story of rice stingy here: the prodigal mother PK stingy son, it's too high! )

Especially when rewarding the baby, it is not only difficult to achieve expectations, but may distort the baby's view of money.

Li Tianyi is a typical example!

Because he is an "old boy", he has been used to the day of "calling the wind and calling the rain" since childhood because of his father's love for him.

On his teenage birthday, Li Tianyi wanted a luxury car, and his parents bought it without saying anything!

coquetry still has such an effect on weekdays, not to mention how much money you dare to spend when giving rewards!

for the baby, the reward is the support for the present and the encouragement for the future;

parents will always accidentally push too hard, blurring the line between recognition and love.

Mi Mi Ma doesn't object to giving children some small change, but she really doesn't agree. In the name of inspiring the baby, she is lazy in money education.

Let's see how Dad Huo Qigang does it!

At the weekend family activities, two children helped their father wash the car.

Because of his good work, Huo Qigang gave his 6-year-old brother some pocket money and his 2-year-old sister some delicious food.

I have to say, Huo Qigang is judging children's needs, and this part is very delicate.

First of all, I taught the kids that you have to pay before you get back.

Secondly, clearly price the labor, so that the baby can experience a wave of life truth of "how much money you can earn"!

In addition, Huo Qigang has kept the most important line of defense for rewarding children: companionship.

His praise for the children is sincere approval, and the prizes given are the result of careful choice.

isn't such a reward more meaningful than just perfunctory RMB?

In this regard, Mama Mi once wrote about Huo Qigang, and the specific story is poked here: "Hyun Wa" in Weibo, Huo Qigang: Do rich people play like this?

Actually, a chick can't do without cheering her up, and rewarding her children can't avoid material collision.

What matters is not what to reward the baby, but the attitude and intention in preparing the prize.

posture 3: punishment, which needs to be rewarded appropriately.

Yes, "small punishment and big warning" is feasible, and "small punishment and big reward" is also feasible!

a father in Xi' an said that before the exam, the son of grade six and the daughter of kindergarten respectively made a "written pledge to fulfill a military order": if they did well in the exam, they would let their father treat them to KFC.

My brother scored only 76 points, which is 4 points short of the promised 8 points.

and my sister got 1 points easily.

Mama Mi feels that the achievement is not terrible, and whoever is lower will be embarrassed!

here comes the point. The father took his daughter into KFC as promised, but left his son outside the door.

My sister enjoyed the highlights of her life with a bite of hamburger and a bite of coke, and even chewed with contempt, ridicule and carelessness.

When I forgot myself, my sister turned her head inadvertently, just hitting my brother's eyes through the glass and reaching the French fries and egg tarts spread out on the table!

Looking at my sister's mouth full of greasy food, my brother's facial features are distorted when he sticks to the glass. Just don't forget to swallow saliva and pretend to be indifferent.

it's not harmful, but extremely insulting!

But unexpectedly, the father also ordered a meal for his son, just letting his daughter eat inside first, and the son just stayed outside to reflect on the reasons for not doing well in the exam.

This time, it not only distinguishes the commitment to the two brothers and sisters, but also punishes the fact that my brother failed in the English exam, and also encourages the dolls to continue to make progress, winning three things at one stroke and winning by surprise!

especially the trick of "releasing water" for her son, Mi Mi Ma especially appreciates it.

You know, Chicken Baby sometimes pays attention to the counter-routine:

When the baby is on a smooth sailing, where can I remember what "winning without arrogance and losing without grace"?

It's best to catch his low ebb, give him a little slap, and add a handful of candied dates, so that the baby's "power of the wild" can be aroused quickly.

It's really not easy for old mothers and fathers. The common sense of "clear reward and punishment" does not apply to the project of raising children and educating people.

too many rewards are easy to fail; The reward is less, and the chicken is less than the baby.

Mama Mi feels that the best reward for Wa is not to show off how valuable the prize is, nor to throw a perfunctory "Come on" to Wa, but to really identify with his achievements with your heart!

Reward is a science. Did you GET the correct posture?

About the author: @ Mi Mi Ma loves to share (welcome to pay attention to it), an American returnee, a parent in Haidian, the first author of "Parent-child English Book Affecting Children's Life" in Dangdang, and a former top 5 executive. Focus on the scientific upbringing of -5-year-old babies, the enlightenment of English and mathematics, and the recommendation of novelty and good things all over the world. Welcome to pay attention! (5-12-year-old Bao Ma, please pay attention: @ Mi Mi Ma Channel)

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