When people reach middle age, it is good for everyone not to get too close to their brothers and sisters.

Brothers and sisters are a female compatriot. As a "bone-breaking" relative, family relations are more stable and reliable than other social relations.

However, kinship is not monolithic under any circumstances. If the difference between the rich and the poor is obvious, there will be psychological imbalance, or there will be contradictions and entanglements involving money, and feelings will also be affected. Therefore, how to maintain the affection between brothers and sisters tests a person's wisdom and emotional intelligence.

When people reach middle age, brothers and sisters get married separately, and personal relationships are transformed into family-to-family relationships. If you don't keep a proper distance in communication, it is likely to bring trouble to yourself or make the other family feel bad. If you want to keep a long-term relationship with your brothers and sisters, don't get too close to them.

1. is prone to dependency.

Brothers and sisters grew up in the same family, and their fate is one, honor and disgrace and * * *, regardless of each other. One person's business is everyone's business, especially younger brothers and sisters are used to handing over their own problems to their younger brothers and sisters to solve, which makes it easier to form dependency thoughts. Parents generally support this behavior of "helping the small" and "leaning on the big" as a manifestation of children's unity.

After brothers and sisters got married and got married, everyone's social roles changed, from children and brothers and sisters to parents and couples, and everyone had to bear their own heavy family responsibilities.

However, no family is perfect, life is not easy, it is difficult to tear apart between people, and every family has its own problems. Show the bright side and hide the unbearable side in your heart, which is already tacit. Just looking at the superficial phenomenon, it is difficult to see how much life pressure the other party has suffered.

If brothers and sisters get too close, they often can't "be alone". It is easy to hope that your brothers and sisters can help them solve some difficult problems in life and pass on their responsibilities or obligations to others, just like when they were young, they should help them deal with big and small things. Over time, my brothers and sisters and their families will be unbearable and restless, and family relationships will easily go downhill.

2. It is prone to economic disputes.

This society is very realistic and cruel. When a person encounters problems in life, he must do two things: first, don't ask for help for things that can be solved with money; Second, don't borrow money from others for things that can be solved through bank loans. Otherwise, before the problem is solved, you will have already hurt your self-esteem or lost your brotherhood, and it will not be worth the loss.

Being too close to brothers and sisters can easily give people the illusion that they have an obligation to help them solve their financial problems, just like buying a house or a car. They can obviously solve the problem of insufficient funds through mortgage loans, but because they want to save the interest on bank loans, they reach out and borrow money from their brothers and sisters, regardless of their own affordability and feelings, not to mention the family pressure they will face after borrowing money. The consequence is often that brothers and sisters have difficulties and avoid them.

If you want to maintain a long-term close relationship with your brothers and sisters, you'd better not have too much money. You'd better settle accounts with your brother.

There is a simple reason. Once brothers and sisters are mixed with money, family ties will become stale and become rivals in market interests. Everyone can calculate the economic accounts, and it is difficult to grasp the absolute balance in the economic exchanges between people. What you earn from your brothers and sisters is what they lose. Brothers and sisters represent different stakeholders. If you are involved in the whirlpool of economic disputes, your feelings will come to an end.

3. It is easy to cause family conflicts.

Everyone has secrets and doesn't want to be known by outsiders. Similarly, every family has its own secrets, which we don't want outsiders to know, because family secrets often imply some contradictions.

The contradiction between family members is hard to say who is right or wrong. The best solution is to talk about "love" instead of "reason", understand, forgive and tolerate each other in the name of love, gradually eliminate contradictions, reduce differences and finally achieve harmony.

Being too close to brothers and sisters makes it easy to know the secrets of brothers and sisters' families inadvertently. Based on the idea of supporting brothers and sisters, they either spread around or intervene forcefully, complicating simple problems and making secret problems public.

This reckless approach is actually to let brothers and sisters bear the consequences. It's not really helping, but it's a real mess, which will greatly arouse the resentment of brothers, sisters and family members, and the brotherhood of brothers and sisters will be greatly reduced.

Only by keeping a certain distance between brothers and sisters, not participating in or interfering in each other's family's "internal affairs" and respecting each other's family's "privacy" can we truly maintain family ties. They are duty-bound when they need it, and never make trouble when they don't need it. This is the best care and help for brothers and sisters. Only in this way can their feelings be warmer and more rational.

4. It's easy to have psychological imbalance and jealousy.

It is normal for a vine to have a melon, big or small, and for a family to have poor or rich brothers and sisters. However, among brothers and sisters, if their lives are not good and their hearts are not broad-minded, they will often envy and hate those who have a good life and do some gossiping and affecting unity, so that their loved ones will be hurt and their enemies will be quick.

Good wishes do not necessarily lead to good results. Brothers and sisters who live a good life tend to approach the one who lives a bad life and try their best to help and help him. People who have been helped are often psychologically unbalanced and think that they have suffered from their family background. Now is the compensation that the beneficiary should give. Not only are they ungrateful, but they push their luck and make unreasonable demands on those who help them, which makes their brothers and sisters feel chilling.

People who have a bad life should know that it is your personal business to have a good life. Brothers and sisters help you out of kindness, not duty. In order not to let you fall behind and lend you a helping hand, you should turn the warmth of your family into an upward motivation, improve your state as much as possible, live a better life and live up to everyone's expectations.

When people reach middle age, they will not get too close to their brothers and sisters. Not to alienate them. On the contrary, it is to make the family relationship longer and farther. It is to set aside independent living space for each other, minimize unnecessary contradictions and disputes, respect each other and understand each other, so that everyone can bathe in the sunshine of family and enjoy a relaxed and happy life.