In a family with a good parent-child relationship, what is the relationship between parents and children like?

Our family should be considered a family with a relatively good parent-child relationship. The relationship between my parents, my brother and I should be more like friends supporting each other and encouraging each other. Our family is relatively democratic and harmonious, and no big deal can happen. It's a matter of discussion, and the children also have the right to make their own decisions and don't need to obey their parents' decisions. Therefore, I did not grow up in the typical family environment of authoritative control, beating and scolding.

1 Because of good communication and mutual tolerance, there is no need to quarrel.

In a family, conflicts and contradictions are inevitable. In some families, parents like to quarrel or even fight to resolve conflicts when they encounter problems. Whoever quarrels wins. Whoever wins the fight has the right to say... But such a situation is actually very bad for the child's character formation and is not conducive to the formation of a good parent-child relationship. Therefore, this kind of solution will affect the use of this method to solve problems when conflicts arise between parents and children in the future. Quarrels can also arise between parents and children.

In our family, in the past twenty years, I have never seen my parents quarreling so hard that their faces turned red. Maybe it’s because the children of poor people have already taken charge of the family. There seems to be no conflict between us and we can all understand each other. I know that it is not easy for my parents to make money, and my parents have also devoted themselves to training my brother and me to study hard and become useful people to society and the family. .

There are very few quarrels between them. Usually trivial things, such as picking too many vegetables at home when cooking, and I can’t finish them all. When cooking, there is too much rice and too little water. This problem can be solved by just talking about it...

2. Be tolerant enough to your children and understand their behavior.

My parents rarely beat or scold me since I was a child. Even the few times they hit me in my memory were all because I did something wrong. But when they hit me, they didn't want to express their emotions that I had done something wrong. But let me remember the lesson and not make the same mistake again. When I was beaten and scolded, they would reason with me and explain clearly what kind of wrong behavior I had that led to me being beaten and scolded. There are many parents who beat their children violently without asking the reason. After the beating, they calm down and pretend that nothing happened. But in fact, the child does not know what he did wrong. If the same problem occurs in the future, he will continue to make mistakes.

I think my parents have taught me very well on this point. They pay attention to my behavior, but they also understand that I am just a child and will make mistakes. The key is to know where the mistakes are. That's it.

3 Have confidence in your children and give them enough freedom.

In our family, parents adopt a "free range" approach to educating their children, and except for some basic upbringing issues, they rarely care about other issues. For example, when children play together, sometimes there will be quarrels, but my parents usually ignore them. The children can resolve the conflicts, and there is no need for the parents to get involved. When we grow up, our parents rarely care about which school to choose and what major to choose. They only give their own opinions and suggestions. It is us who make the decision.