How to overcome tension and anxiety

First, actively communicate with others.

Most people with low self-esteem are withdrawn, unsociable and isolated. Psychologists believe that when people are alone, psychological activities will turn inward to themselves. People with low self-esteem will be alone for a long time, and the scope and content of psychological activities will narrow. In addition, the limitations of personal knowledge will make their psychological activities one-sided, only see their own shortcomings and ignore their own advantages, thus falling into deep inferiority and being unable to extricate themselves. When you take the initiative to associate with others, your attention will be attracted by others, you will feel the joys and sorrows of others, and your psychological activities will become cheerful. In addition, by interacting with others, we can know others and ourselves in many ways, and know ourselves correctly through comparison, so as to adjust our self-evaluation and improve our self-confidence.

Second, improve self-evaluation and pay attention to self-motivation.

Inferiority is a psychological barrier caused by low self-evaluation, so the important way to overcome inferiority is to improve self-evaluation and attach importance to self-motivation. We should conduct a comprehensive and correct analysis of ourselves, pay more attention to our strengths, and often recall our past successful experiences, so as to stimulate our self-confidence, re-attribute our past failures, and don't blame ourselves too much for failures. When you feel lack of confidence in the face of the situation, you should constantly hint at yourself and motivate yourself: "I will succeed"; "Don't be afraid, others won't laugh at me when I am wrong, and sometimes they will fail"; "Everyone can do it, why can't I?" "I am no worse than them"; "I used to be able to do more difficult things than this, not to mention this." After such a period of exercise, inferiority complex can be weakened or even disappeared.

Third, increase successful experience.

Inferiority is usually caused by setbacks and failures in self-expression, so it is very important to express yourself successfully and make up for past failures. You should know how to overcome difficulties step by step and exercise your ability. From the beginning, we should choose those things that we can do, seize bigger things as a breakthrough, and strive for success in the first action. The success of the first operation is of great significance. It broke the previous situation, reversed the situation and greatly enhanced self-confidence. In addition, don't ignore small successes, because any success will improve people's self-confidence. With the increase of successful experience, inferiority will gradually be replaced by self-confidence. People's self-abuse psychology When you want to say "no" to others, do you feel guilty? Do you often feel ashamed and uneasy about your words and deeds? Do you always feel that others are better than yourself? If so, then you are a masochist.