Why do rural elderly people prefer to end the rest of their lives rather than drag down their children?

This is a very heavy topic, although I don't want to mention it, but the reality is cruel and even a little hard. The aging in China is very serious, and the living conditions of the elderly in rural areas are far more difficult than expected. With the rapid development of urbanization, young and middle-aged people in rural areas have rushed to cities, and rural elderly people are likely to become left-behind after 60 years old.

No matter how big the village is, only a few old people at the head of the village are warming each other. The afterglow of the sunset shines on them and they feel warm. After becoming the left-behind elderly, the elderly in rural areas know very well that the frequency of seeing children will decrease year by year, and the day of marching into the loess is getting closer and closer.

This paper wants to expose the current situation of rural elderly people through the short stories of three elderly people, and express the reasons why rural elderly people would rather end the rest of their lives than drag their children down. I try to tell the truest story in the most plain language. I hope you will be moved.

Aunt Li gave birth to five sons. At that time, people said that many children were more blessed. Aunt Li endured hardships with several children, survived the Great Leap Forward, the famine, the Cultural Revolution and countless hardships. Finally, Aunt Li added a home to every child in the family.

Just as everyone in the village thought that she had five sons, Aunt Li could enjoy her old age and live happily in any case, but they never imagined that Aunt Li with five sons would end up in such a miserable situation.

After her son got married, Aunt Li chose to live alone in a thatched cottage in order not to burden her son. Originally, she was in good health, but when she was old, she naturally had rheumatic bone pain. Once, Aunt Li accidentally hurt her waist while doing farm work, so she couldn't move and had to be taken care of. So the five brothers discussed taking care of Aunt Li for half a year.

In this way, Aunt Li became a commodity figure, living in the East for a while and in the West for a while, with a bumpy life. What is even more frightening is that ten fingers are different. Some sons are still very polite to Aunt Li, but some sons think that Aunt Li is in the way and can't die. What makes Aunt Li sad even more is that the daughter-in-law is not easy to provoke. They think that Aunt Li's coming to their home is harmful to the family, and sometimes they deliberately provoke the relationship between Aunt Li and her son. One minute, Aunt Li was difficult to serve, the next minute, Aunt Li had a bad heart, and the next minute, Aunt Li didn't help her with her son.

Even Second Daughter-in-law scolded Aunt Li for being a burden in front of her neighbors. She threw all her pillows and clothes out of the house and scolded Aunt Li for getting out. Aunt Li's second son was silent after seeing it. At that moment, Aunt Li's heart was broken.

She picked up her clothes and pillows and went back to live in the old house. An old man walked to the hut with trepidation. The other sons said nothing. Even if some sons want to be filial to Aunt Li, they can't see other brothers showing off like that, so they let Aunt Li go back. Aunt Li was so cold that tears could not help flowing down. The son who worked so hard to raise is indifferent.

Later, the two brothers left Aunt Li alone and took turns to deliver meals to Aunt Li as soon as the meal arrived every day. Because no one wants to raise anyone, and no one wants Aunt Li to live in her house. Everyone shirks responsibility, and I shirk responsibility, because the responsibility for support is not clear and we cheat each other. In this way, Aunt Li was fed by the children in the thatched cottage for several years, helpless, and finally left on a dark night. It was two days before the neighbors found out that Aunt Li had passed away. However, it seems that it is not so difficult for Li Auntie's sons to hear the news and arrange Li Auntie's funeral. Maybe they still feel happy, after all, there is no burden, no so-called responsibility, no burden.

Are you comfortable in the countryside?

Aunt Zhang's son is more promising. He bought a suite in the county and once lived there with Aunt Zhang. But Aunt Zhang didn't like colorful cities and busy streets, so she soon returned to the countryside.

It is not surprising that old people have the idea of moving to another place. After all, they don't want to leave where they have taken root. In this way, Aunt Zhang and her son separated. My son is busy with work, and the whole family is in the county, leaving Aunt Zhang to live alone in the countryside. During the day, Aunt Zhang wandered around the village, looking for someone to talk to. But sometimes you can find it, sometimes you can't. The hardest thing is to close the door and turn off the lights at night. I am alone and helpless. Aunt Zhang is very tormented and feels that living is meaningless.

In fact, Aunt Zhang was very happy to hear that her son took her to live in the county seat, but she got lost in the county seat several times and didn't like the furniture and equipment in the county seat several times, so she was ashamed to stay in the county seat. So Aunt Zhang and her son lied that they were not used to living in the county, and it was very comfortable to return to the countryside. But in fact, Aunt Zhang was just afraid that her son would abandon her, so she chose to go back to her hometown alone.

I have been back for more than ten years this time, and my son goes home to visit her once or twice a year. In the end, people can't survive birth, illness and death. Aunt Zhang suddenly got a strange disease. Knowing that she was dying, she didn't want to drag the children down, so she chose to jump into the hillside in the countryside and ended her life. She finally got rid of loneliness, pain and torture and went to heaven.

Uncle Zhang came back from the nursing home, and his sons were unwilling to support him and sent him to the nursing home. Later, Uncle Zhang lost his temper and said that the food in the nursing home was not delicious, so he chose to return to rural life.

Today, Uncle Zhang sits on the stone bench at the entrance of the village every day, watching the vehicles coming and going at the entrance of the village and the busy farmers in the field. He gradually became silent and lonely. Maybe I can't find someone to talk to. I know that Uncle Zhang will be as miserable as Aunt Zhang and Aunt Li for the rest of his life, so I didn't say anything.

The stories of three characters reveal the tragic situation of the rural elderly. Faced with the life arranged for the elderly by their children, the elderly rarely resist because they have no ability to resist at all.

Everything they do is just to cover up their inner humbleness and fear that their children will be dragged down by fatigue. All they do is take care of the dignity of young people. This word is "love". You can call it great fatherly love and maternal love, but you can also call it the inferiority and helplessness of the elderly. They would rather bear loneliness and sadness than be a burden to their children. This is a heavy love and a deep love. I just don't know if this kind of love can win the understanding of children.

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