Every family has a painful lesson: no one can take all the good things away.

The world is fair. If God gave you beauty, you must have missed something else. For example, people who are good-looking but can't sing well; Successful career, poor performance; I found a good husband and didn't choose a good mother-in-law.

To be a man, you should be able to find a balance between unlimited demand and limited harvest. Excessive pursuit of perfection will only bring disaster to life.

There is always something wrong. This is life, the most real life.

As the saying goes, there are two things in life, one or the other, not what you think.

When can you really accept the unsatisfactory and incomplete parts of your life? Your life has just begun. Think about it carefully, you've got a lot. Stop staring at the missing parts and be content.

As long as life is passable and passable, it is almost the best. At least you have a healthy body, which is very grateful.

Every family has a painful lesson: no one can take all the good things away.

1, as a partner.

Is there really a perfect person in this world? The answer is yes, even if there is, you are not worthy, and people will certainly not choose you. Therefore, in marriage and family life, having an inclusive and tolerant heart is more important than anything else, which directly determines the direction of marriage.

When you look at your partner horizontally and vertically, but you can't help but want to be picky, it only shows that there is something wrong with your mentality.

In this case, what you need to do is to adjust your mentality, instead of asking your partner to meet your own preset and standards.

That's what people do. They have their own advantages and disadvantages. What matters is what you see.

If you focus on your partner's shortcomings, your partner will become useless in your heart. If you can focus on your partner's good points, you will see fewer shortcomings.

Seeing that other people's partners are all good and perfect, it's only because you don't live together and are confused by their advantages, forming a complete impression. So don't look at what your other half has, look at what your other half has, think about romance, affection, singleness and Excellence. It's too idealistic.

Ideal is ideal, and reality is reality. Don't confuse them. Pursuing ideals is good, but ideals should be based on the real society.

Allow your partner to have shortcomings, just as you can allow yourself to have shortcomings. Since we are all laymen and ordinary people, why can't we correct our attitude?

2. To make a living.

How can life be smooth and perfect? There are always some problems. Family life, in particular, involves the will, thoughts, personalities and emotions of so many people. How can there be no problem? A family always has some problems every day, which is the real life.

Today the child has a cold and fever, tomorrow your career will be frustrated, or the toilet will be blocked today and the washbasin will be broken tomorrow.

Tinkering is the normal state of life. What's the problem? You solve it. When you encounter any problems, you will begin to question your choices or think about an absolutely satisfactory life. This is your problem.

Accept all the incomplete parts of life, and don't think that beauty, wealth, education and love are occupied by yourself. This is a very dangerous thing.

If all the good things are swallowed by you alone, then you are overdrawing your child's happiness, and his future life will be full of bumps and thorns.

Or your husband is very kind to you, but your mother-in-law is too selfish and indifferent, which is normal. Meeting a good husband, not meeting a good mother-in-law, meeting a good mother-in-law and not meeting a good husband is a true portrayal of many families. If the mother-in-law is very good and the husband is also very good, then the father-in-law may not worry you.

This is good, that is bad. No one's life is beautiful, and no one's life is bad. Think more about what you have.

3. worry.

Maybe getting married is a good thing. After marriage, it is good to want to have children. After having children, it is good to wait until the children go to school. It's good to wait until the children go to school and get married. Life, endless troubles, and living to the old age are all like this.

Worry is the normal state of life. No matter what age or stage, there is always something to worry about.

Later, you will find that all the things that once made you sad are over, and nothing is hard to pass.

Live in the present, don't think about tomorrow, but the day after tomorrow, which will make you lose your present life experience and focus on the future.

Treat your troubles correctly and don't worry too much. Perhaps many old people will feel deeply about this. When you are young, you should think about saving it for middle age. When people reach middle age, they should think about providing for the aged. As a result, you still have all kinds of things to worry about every day.

Life is endless and troubles are endless. You always take other people's lives very well. In fact, you have no idea what other people's lives are like.

Of course, many people's troubles are also caused by themselves. They think too much and are anxious about things that have not happened. This is the result of thinking.

To tell the truth, it is very dangerous if all the good things are really taken away by one person. People who accept imperfections and always comfort themselves with "every family has its own problems" when encountering problems are all smart people, at least they will not question their choices.

There is no ash at the bottom of other people's pots, but you don't see it and don't want you to see it, although this is vanity. Through the glamorous appearance, it is chicken feathers.

So don't panic in advance. The more you panic, the easier the rhythm will be, and finally affect your thinking and judgment. It is the normal state of life to truly realize that there is a problem.

If there is a problem, you can take it slowly, take it slowly and deal with it intelligently. Calm is a kind of temperament, but also a realm. Change is the way out without complaining.

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