When couples reach middle age, what two words are often the source of conflicts?

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Many couples have a very sweet relationship from the time they realize their love for each other to the time they confirm their relationship and enter the marriage hall. Although there are occasional quarrels, it will not affect the relationship.

Especially in the first few years of marriage, the husband and wife are in a state of mutual affection and understanding. Even if they have quarrels, they are at the head of the bed and at the end of the bed. In the eyes of outsiders, this is flirting. One act does not constitute a conflict between two people at all.

However, when many couples reach middle age, their relationship will undergo earth-shaking changes. Many times, two people can quarrel over trivial matters. Obviously, in the past, this kind of thing was considered a matter of two people. The end of giving in, but now they will argue endlessly, as if it is not too late if they don't fight for a victory or defeat.

At this time, many conflicts will arise between husband and wife, and no matter how small a matter is, it will be magnified into an irreconcilable situation because of your words and my words.

In the final analysis. The root of these contradictions often cannot escape the word "lack of money."

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There are always some people who naively believe that love transcends money. The happiness of a relationship is only related to whether you love each other and has nothing to do with money.

However, the fact is that feelings without the support of money are full of contradictions. A happy marriage is always based on a certain material foundation.

Of course, we cannot deny the importance of love to a marriage, but we cannot ignore the role of money in relationships.

Several deeply touched readers have confirmed this truth with their own experiences: when couples reach middle age, the source of their conflicts is often the word "lack of money."

Mrs. Fu, 42 years old, married for 15 years: "Poor and lowly couples suffer from everything." Mrs. Fu and her husband have been married for more than fifteen years. The family has high living expenses and has two parents to support, which puts great pressure on them.

The monthly salary of the two of them was just enough to spend. In the early years, the two of them felt that it was quite easy, and they never thought about working hard to get promoted. They feel that it is pretty good now. It was better than the best and more than the worst. They were very satisfied.

Later, the children grew up day by day. Not only did they have to enroll in tutoring classes for their studies, but they also had to make two plans for their children. Art classes were also indispensable. They were afraid that their children would not be able to keep up with their studies and could still engage in art work. Both of these were It's a lot of expense.

Gradually, Mrs. Fu and his wife’s salary could no longer support them, and they began to bury their heads in the water.

Mrs. Fu dislikes her husband for being unmotivated and has not been promoted in the company for ten years. Her husband complains that Mrs. Fu, a teacher, cannot educate children well, causing him to spend so much money on tutoring for his children. .

The two people had a small quarrel every day and a big quarrel every three days because of "money". They both felt that they had given too much, and the other party had made no contribution to the family.

Sometimes the two of them would calmly think about how great it would be if they both earned more. At this time, Mrs. Fu felt that her current life was too painful.

Ms. Wang, 47 years old, has been married for 20 years: "Before retirement age, I have to rely on my children to support me." When talking about this topic, Ms. Wang started crying with snot and tears. .

She and her husband have been married for many years. When they were young, they never thought about saving money. They always felt that they should enjoy themselves as soon as possible. Their children could just study since they were young, and there was no need for parents to think about their children at all, so the couple became even more carefree. I don’t want to save money anymore, I always say that my children and grandchildren will have their own blessings, and let him struggle on his own.

When the couple was young, they earned much more than their peers, but they never thought about saving money. They used the money to travel and go shopping. They just spent it randomly without considering the future at all. In life, just live a happy day.

Unexpectedly, a few years ago, her husband fell ill and was no longer able to work. Ms. Wang had to resign and stay at home to take care of her husband.

The two of them rely on their son, who has just started working, to support them. Now that his son is almost thirty, he still dares not find a partner.

At this time, the couple began to blame each other. Ms. Wang began to blame her husband for being sick and dragging down her son, and her husband blamed Ms. Wang for spending money recklessly at a young age. The two began to quarrel endlessly, spending every day adding new accounts and settling old ones.

Indeed, without money, couples are really struggling in middle age. They want to work again but have been eliminated by society. They can’t find a suitable job and can’t make money. They want to live a good life but because they don’t have enough money. And can't satisfy myself.

So, no matter the firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and vinegar in life, none of them can be separated from the word "money". When couples reach middle age, the source of many conflicts is actually the word "lack of money."

Mr. Li, 50 years old, married for 27 years: "We quarrel every day about money. It's really tiring." Mr. Li's wife always said that Mr. Li was worthless and didn't give in. She had a good day.

When she was young, she could sacrifice more to take care of the family because Mr. Li was busy. Now that she is middle-aged, she not only has to take care of the family but also supplement Mr. Li who cannot make money.

Mr. Li would also quarrel with his wife because he did not have enough pocket money. The two of them argued constantly about money every day, and sometimes even fought.

There is a saying: "Money is not everything, but nothing is impossible without money." It can be seen that money is a necessity to maintain life.

When couples reach middle age, they often face the situation of having an elder and a younger one. They also have great needs for money. Once they are short of money, they will definitely have a lot of negative emotions, and conflicts will naturally arise. If it gets more intense, the relationship will become more and more unsatisfactory.

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"Lack of money" is inseparable from the occurrence of conflicts. Without money, many things will definitely not be completed, and conflicts will naturally arise; when conflicts intensify, Most people cannot escape the word "money".

Middle-aged couples no longer have unlimited future possibilities like young couples. In many aspects, their energy and physical strength are not as good as those of young people. They will definitely not be able to create more value. "Lack of The conflicts caused by "money" will never end.

So, time hopes, whether you are a young couple or a couple who has just entered middle age, you should take precautions, think more about the future, and never let the pain of "lack of money" happen to you. .

You must know that life is already difficult enough for middle-aged people. If lack of money becomes the main conflict in a couple's life, life will be even more miserable.