She said talking to me was like talking to herself in the air. How to balance listening and communication?

Literally, you can infer that you are a student now, but not a college student. High school students are very likely. Girls of this age are curious, impulsive, willful and simple. To tell the truth, it's very easy. The key is whether you meet the requirements.

First of all, you have to find out what your feelings are like, and then talk about other things. If you really want to protect this relationship, I will teach you how to change yourself, but you have to make sure whether your change is worth it.

I can see that you are a very quiet person. You usually don't think things are complicated, or you may have ideas, but you won't say them. You are a silent, quiet and rational person. This kind of person is not bad. Your personality is actually liked by girls much younger than you. You know, they will find you mature and attractive. Of course, it is really mature, and you can't tell from your personality.

But, obviously, you don't meet her requirements. She asked for a playmate friend (boyfriend). You don't like to talk, and you can basically pass you. Speech is an art. You can't be a talkative person in a short time, but you can't be an echo. If you become an echo, you are basically finished.

Now I'll give you two suggestions:

First, learn to speak, be humorous and have substance in words. Hit the floor. If you can reach this level, you will start your career. You are a successful person in both work and popularity (ladies popularity), but you are late now. So you have to use the second suggestion.

Second (in view of your special situation, it is very important), talk nonsense! It's not nonsense in the general sense, just playing Tai Chi and beating around the bush. If you can't answer, you can go back and let the questioner say, for example, if she says "How about XX", you can say "I don't know her well, what do you think of her?" When she's finished, you can say, "So she's like this, and she doesn't pay attention at ordinary times, or you can see through it, but how can she be like this?" ...

Anyway, I just want to turn your roles around so that she won't say you're bored. However, this is only the lowest level of perfunctory topic role transformation. You can use it in a short time, and it may be miserable if you use it too much, so this is just to buy time for the first one.

To learn to speak, I suggest you start with reading, then watch TV, then observe the people around you, think about their language and learn how to speak slowly.

What I am teaching you now is the method of communication, but this really needs talent. I hope you can succeed.

Another suggestion for you.

Women are sometimes unreasonable animals. They are always hysterical on and off.

Women are jealous, don't give them a reason to lose their temper.

Women need not only care, but also coaxing, especially young women.

Life is long and there are many people of all kinds, so think twice before you act.