Nine fundamental reasons why a person can't accomplish anything, for young people who can't accomplish anything.

The nine fundamental reasons for a person to accomplish nothing are given to young people who accomplish nothing.

A few days ago, the People's Daily official Wei published Harvard University's analysis of nine root causes of a person's lack of ambition.

Many people who watched the research video left a message below saying that it was their own copy. The answer is really from the heart.

First of all, hesitate

Worse than recklessness is indecision.

People who swing like a swing, no matter how powerful they are in other ways, are always easily pushed away by determined people in the race of life. It is inevitable to make mistakes if we are resolute and vigorous, but it is better than nothing.

Whitehead said: "Fear of mistakes is to ruin progress."

Second, delay.

The plan is full and the implementation is very skinny.

Many times procrastination is to avoid problems and laziness.

Enlarge the immediate difficulties, shrink back, and find various excuses to escape with the mentality that one day can drag on another:

Boring job, demanding boss, I'm too busy to do it every other day.

In this way, we will fall into the quagmire of "more and more boring work" and "more and more boring life".

Lazier and more negative, you will fall into the trap of regretting the past and fantasizing about the future.

Time accumulation will produce a stronger sense of guilt and self-denial, making people more and more anxious.

Romain rolland, a famous thinker, said: "laziness is a strange thing, which makes you think it is ease, rest and happiness;" But what it actually gives you is boredom, burnout and depression. "

Three or three minutes of heat

80% of the failures in the world come from giving up halfway.

People with "three-minute fever" have never experienced the joy of doing one thing successfully, because the process of persistence is always boring and full of setbacks, and human nature is to rest and hate work.

"At the beginning of each year, the first few pages of the notebook are full of grand plans, and the back is almost blank ..."

"I bought a good book, but I haven't started reading it yet ..."

"Determined to keep fit and lose weight, I gave up almost five days later ..."

Almost everyone has had the experience of "making ambitious plans and giving up in despair".

Fourth, fear of rejection.

Thick and fragile self-esteem.

Many times, the "pain" we feel in interpersonal relationships is related to "feeling rejected".

Sometimes this rejection is obvious, such as the sudden departure of a lover; Or betrayed and alienated by friends.

Sometimes this kind of rejection can be subtle, for example, you give the other person a smiling look, but the other person looks away; Or you summon up the courage to send a message to the other party, but it takes a long time for the other party to reply briefly.

A person who can put down his self-esteem and do things is a person who pays attention to goal-oriented results; People who put self-esteem first will always pay attention to others' attitudes towards themselves when doing things in interpersonal communication.

Therefore, the more useless people are, the more they cling to those irrelevant bottom lines and small self-esteem.

Verb (abbreviation for verb) is self-limiting

This will kill your potential ability.

They often say: I want to do A, but I'm afraid I can't because of B, C, D and E.

Before doing it, they deny themselves and give themselves a bunch of reasons not to work hard.

All mediocrity and low achievement are the result of self-limitation.

By default, I have a height in my mind. This "psychological height" often implies to myself: I'm sure I can't do it well, so I almost did.

This kind of psychological suggestion can help you stop the frustration caused by task failure and temporarily maintain your sense of self-worth, but it deprives you of the opportunity to "go up a storey still higher".

Laroche Foucault said: Mediocre people are always complaining about what they don't understand.

Sixth, escape from reality.

Daydreaming patients and escapists have five characteristics.

1. Often daydream-escapists prefer to create a small world of their own.

I like the free life-to put it bluntly, I yearn for the idle life.

3. Indulge in games or fantasy novels-they can lead you into that magical world and let you escape from daily real life.

4. Feeling that the real world is cruel-this is the common feature of escapists, who often suffer from real life when they pursue daydreaming.

5. Can't face the uncertain environment-because in the daydream you create, you can find a sense of certainty and security.

The tragedy of man lies in the fact that his eyes are high and his hands are low. Most people fantasize about the world when they are excited, but they can't muster up the courage to have a good talk with the neighbor who drills the wall with an electric drill every weekend morning.

Seven, always make excuses.

"It's not my fault." Once a person makes a mistake, his first reaction is often self-defense.

Looking back on the people I have known for more than 30 years who like to make excuses, I find that they all have one thing in common: no strong dedication, no persistent pursuit and no firm belief in life.

Therefore, when they encounter pressure and difficulties, they will not bear it or want to bear it; When you encounter risks and challenges, you will shrink back.

If you don't take it, you will force them to make excuses if you want to return it. Because making excuses is the easiest thing to do, a way to cover up your ignorance, and then seek comfort from it.

Eight, fear

They always feel this way in their work: they are afraid of being criticized by their leaders, of others feeling incompetent, of their shortcomings being known, of others' comments, of making mistakes, and of not being rewarded for their efforts.

Think of a sentence: I dare not think hard about myself, for fear that I will finally know that I am not a pearl jade; However, there is a glimmer of hope in my heart, and I refuse to be willing to associate with the rubble.

In fact, it is weak-willed and unwilling to face setbacks.

Nine, refused to learn

You are not lonely, you just don't want to study.

Learning requires brains, and self-growth requires constant struggle with yourself. How painful!

It is better to lie comfortably at home and play with your mobile phone to watch movies, and then see that your peers' wages are higher than yours and your life is better than yours, and you will sigh your bad luck in the circle of friends.

Few people who drag themselves home from morning are empty and lonely.

After reading the above nine useless sources, I feel that I have won a few. You can talk about them in the comments section.