The self-report of three men and one woman in my life

1950, I was born in the countryside, the second of six daughters in my family.

Father is in poor health, and everything in the family depends on his mother, so he is very poor.

My sister is three years older than me and got married at the age of sixteen. When I was thirteen, my mother sent me to a nearby family named He.

Before that, I went to primary school for four years, but I always wanted to study. When I was fifteen, I found a local gentleman who taught private schools, that is, a gentleman who only taught "former Sun Zhaoli, Zhou Wuwang".

I implored him to accept my study. And tell him that my family is poor and can't afford the tuition. Mr. Wang said:

"I'll give you two words and teach you twice. If you can read and remember them, I will accept you. "

As a result, I did it, and my husband said happily:

"You can come to class tomorrow."

When I got home, I excitedly told my mother-in-law, who strongly disagreed.

My mother-in-law ran to my husband and refused to let him accept my study. Mr. Wang said:

"I think she is very smart and willing to teach her for free. Why not agree? "

Mother-in-law said:

"Let her learn culture, and then she will leave my house and not marry my son." And warned:

"If you dare to accept her, I will smash your school."

I don't know about this. I went to class the next day. My husband said I didn't go to class because of something and told me to go home. I will go for two days in the future. I asked him why, but he had to tell me the truth.

When I got home, I asked my mother-in-law why she wouldn't let me study. Her mother-in-law replied:

"no! When you learn culture, you will leave my son and not marry him. "

I shook my little head and asked my mother-in-law doubtfully:

"What is marriage?"

"Marriage is sleeping in a bed with your son and having children. You are already my daughter-in-law. You must share a bed with my son tonight. "

I was too young to know anything, so I thought, don't you just sleep together? It's nothing.

That night, the man came to my room and touched me while sleeping. I think he is so bored that he sleeps. Why did you touch me? So I resisted and finally ran to another empty room.

The man is seven years older than me and has long been "sensible". He coaxed me again, but I still didn't do it and stayed up all night.

I ran away the next day and went to my playmate's house or relatives' house. I'll sleep here today and there tomorrow.

My mother-in-law went to those who took me to sleep and warned them that whoever dared to take me in the future would tear down their home.

No one dared to take me in, so I had to go to my sister's house for a few days.

Elder sister is also very embarrassed, she advised me to say:

"You still go home, in my here, didn't you see my mother-in-law nose is not a nose, face is not a face? Sleeping, sleeping, sleeping with men and having children are normal for us women. "

My sister's house can't stay any longer, so I have to go back to my husband's house.

02

Since then, there has been another man in my bed.

A few months later, my mother-in-law saw that I didn't show any signs of pregnancy, thinking that I had physical problems, and asked me to see a doctor. This is a male doctor who actually asked me some boring questions. Is my period normal? And many ugly questions, I blushed with shame. I thought it was boring for the doctor to show him, so I ran out and said to my mother-in-law at home:

"I won't go to see a doctor. This doctor is so boring. "

Mother-in-law smiled and said:

"You are such a silly girl. You are looking at gynecological diseases. Why didn't the doctor ask you these questions? "

A few days later, my mother-in-law found me a female doctor. After reading it, my stomach still hasn't changed after taking the medicine for several months.

My mother-in-law found me another doctor. After taking medicine for two months, I ran to him and said to him:

"After taking your medicine, your health is even worse."

The doctor asked:

"What's the matter?"

"I used to eat, but now I don't want to eat at all. I can't eat anything. "

"Ha ha! Yes, it means that my medicine has worked! "

I'm confused. I can't eat any more. Why do doctors clap instead?

The doctor then felt my pulse and said to me:

"When you go back, be careful when you walk. Don't fall, especially don't jump from high to low. "

Then he gave me some medicine and said:

"This is the medicine of abortion. Go back and take medicine on time. "

"Ann tire? What is abortion? "

"What a silly girl, you are pregnant!"

03

At home, my mother-in-law and men are very kind to me. They don't want me to do anything, but they want me to have a baby for his family. I don't know what it's like to have a baby. As a result, on the day of giving birth, I cried out in pain:

"I don't want to have children! It hurts me! "

Only heard her mother-in-law aside and said:

"Just stick to it for a while!"

Finally, I heard the child crying, and I stopped shouting with relief.

From then on, I, a little girl who was still a child, had a child of my own.

It is a boy. My mother-in-law asked the man to go to my parents' house to report the good news. My mother and sister came to see me with smiles on their faces. They all praised me as the "hero" of the man's family, but no one asked how painful it was to have a baby. It is not surprising that they all think that this kind of pain is something we women must experience. They also say it's a woman's responsibility.

? In the next few years, I gave birth to two more girls, and every time I felt that I had a narrow escape.

04

In the 1980s, my husband got sick. After a period of treatment, although the disease was cured, he completely lost his sexual function.

After a while, he actually advised me to find a suitable one outside and not to divorce. I think it's ridiculous, replied:

"This how line? You are so kind to me, how can you do such a thing? Besides, letting others know is also a very ugly thing. "

He insisted:

"It doesn't matter, I agreed, and others won't say anything."

I said, "No! The children are all older, so embarrassed in front of them. "

More than a year later, I began to promote Xiang embroidery and met Lao Xia, who was several years older than me. His wife died of illness a few years ago.

After he visited my house several times, he learned about my husband and asked me:

"The two of us are in the same boat. Can we live together? "

I told CSI about it, and he replied:

"Yes, I have ..."

My husband is really good to me. I said:

"You are so kind to me, how could I do such a thing?"

My husband gave me a weak smile and said:

"I'll tell him when you take him home."

After more than a week, Lao Xia came to my house, and CSI said to Lao Xia:

"As long as she doesn't divorce me, you can be together ..."

Csi happily said to him:

"Don't worry, I will be good to her."

Afterwards, I felt that Lao Xia was very kind to my husband and me, so we often stayed together.

Three years later, Lao Xia proposed to divorce CSI. He said:

"I don't want to live this furtive life. I want to be with you in a proper way. "

Lao Xia has always been very kind to me. I used to live with him, so I told CSI what Lao Xia said. CSI disagrees. Lao Xia said that it can be judged by the court. As a result, I divorced CSI and had a wedding operation with Lao Xia.

Although divorced, she has always taken care of CSI and her children. We lived in peace for several years, opened a mahjong room, made some money and bought a house in a certain district of the city.

But it didn't last long. A few years later, CSI Lao Xia was over sixty years old. Lao Xia has some physical problems and is not in good spirits. One day, I asked him to play cards. As a result, he was sent to the hospital with a cerebral infarction on the way and left in less than half a year.

Lao He has been playing in the mahjong room. Six months after the death of Lao Xia, I said to him:

"We have never left before and are old now. Let's forget the past and be together. "

As soon as he refused, I asked someone to do his job. Although he lived with me later, he always lost his temper. I remember that he used to be very kind to me, and he still cooks and washes clothes every day.

After a year or so, he moved out because he was always unhappy.

A friend advised me to say:

"You'd better find another wife and take care of each other."

? 05

One day four years ago, my friend told me:

"There is a person three years younger than you. Do you want to meet him? "

I said, "Let's meet."

My friend said, I'll just introduce you. How can I put it? You can talk to the matchmaking agency. The future has nothing to do with me.

I understand that my friends are afraid that something will happen in the future and don't want to take this responsibility.

A few days later, we both went to the matchmaking agency.

When the staff talked to me, they asked me about my family, and I told her:

"I have money, a house, food and clothing, and the old houses in the countryside have also been requisitioned."

Then introduced the family situation truthfully.

The man my friend introduced me to was Jia, who was nearby at that time. When he left, he asked me for my phone number.

He is from Harbin. His children worked in our city after graduating from college, and his wife died, so he came with his daughter.

I think he is about 1.7 meters tall, looks straight and looks in good health. I think he is the man I am looking for. So I gave him my phone number.

Three days later, he called me:

"If you agree, I'd like to meet you."

I replied:

"Well, you come tomorrow and I'll wait for you at home."

The next morning, I prepared a table of dishes, and he didn't arrive until three o'clock in the afternoon. I said:

"I have prepared all the dishes. Why don't you come to lunch? "

He replied:

"It's too far away, and I changed the train halfway. I'm afraid I can't catch up, so I went out after eating. "

I asked:

"Where do you live?"

"I live in Chengnan Cigarette Factory."

"Oh, you may not know, now there is a bus that can go directly from your door to the door of our community, which is very convenient."

He opened his carry-on bag and took out two certificates from it and handed them to me.

"This is my ID card and work permit. Let me show you. "

I took a look at it and thought, I have contacted several people before. They all just talk verbally, and no one has ever shown me the document. It seems that this person is sincere and worthy of communication.

When I returned it to him, I said to him:

"I'm a few years older than you. Do you mind?"

He smiled and said:

"I think you are a capable and kind person by feeling. I saw your house clean and tidy today, which proves that I am not mistaken. I am afraid that you think I am young! "

He went on to tell me:

"I have a retirement salary, but I have no house. I only smoke, don't drink, don't play cards, and don't gamble. "

Judging from the fact that he showed me his identity document on his own initiative, I think he is an honest man. After believing his words, I was secretly glad that I had found a gentleman.

A week later, he moved here.

05

Lao Jia is a retired employee of a company. At that time, his salary was less than 3000 yuan. He gave me his salary and said that as long as he was given 300 yuan a month to buy cigarettes, he didn't care about anything else. I didn't do what he said, just gave him half of my salary every month.

Soon, he began to play cards at the table. Although I thought to myself, didn't you say you never play cards? How ...

But I also think that a retired person usually has nothing to do, and there is nothing wrong with playing cards to kill time. So I didn't say anything about him.

My daughter-in-law is now in charge of the mahjong room, where my first husband plays cards every day. Since Lao Jia came, he didn't come, saying that he was stuck in panic when he saw Lao Jia.

One day a year later, Lao Jia said to me:

"If I want to sleep with xx, the proprietress of mahjong hall, I can get it in minutes, believe it or not?"

I listened to the in the mind uncomfortable:

"Why are you so boring?"

I live on the second floor, and my wife's mahjong room is on the first floor. A crazy woman comes here to play mahjong every day. One day, she came to my house and asked Lao Jia in front of me:

How many times did you sleep with your wife last night?

Lao Jia incredibly smile happily replied:

"once."

The next day, the woman came again and repeated yesterday's words, and Lao Jia answered her.

I was very angry. After the woman left, I loudly questioned Lao Jia:

"Why are you so boring? I used to think you were a gentleman, but now your true colors are revealed. You are just a mean person with low taste. "

But he disapprovingly said:

"Just kidding, why are you so serious?"

? In the future, as long as that woman comes to play cards, Lao Jia will definitely not go anywhere, just stay in the mahjong room, participate in playing cards, or chat nearby. I have told him several times, but he won't change.

Last year, the proprietress who opened the mahjong room mentioned earlier, for some reason, closed the mahjong room, and she came to my house to play mahjong every day. This woman came, and Lao Jia didn't take me seriously and said to the woman in front of me:

"Honey, you're here?"

It's been like this for several days. When I'm angry, I scold him:

"You have lived with me for so long, and you have never called me' dear'. How can you be so affectionate and casual with her? You must have something fishy with her! "

? "Ok, just kidding, I won't say it."

He answered me disapprovingly. I think he is a little cheeky.

One day, this woman said to me:

"There are guests coming to my house tomorrow and want to play cards in your house for a day. Will you leave me this mahjong table in the living room upstairs? "

I didn't agree at first, and Lao Jia said:

"Just give it to her!"

I can't object any more. The next day, four or five people came to their house. As soon as they sat down, Lao Jia told her a joke. He quickly reached for the woman.

I was so angry that I scolded him at night, drove him to another room and said to him:

"You will be like this in front of me. I don't know what I will do behind my back. I can't take it anymore. We can't be together anymore. Hurry up and pack your clothes tomorrow morning Go, I won't wait on you! "

The next morning, I got up early and gave him two big bags:

"Here are two bags for you. Put on your clothes and get out of here!"

He said that the bag I gave him didn't look good, so he bought two new bags downstairs.

I said to him:

"When your daughter got married, I sent ten thousand dollars, you must give it back to me. Why should I send her money? Besides, you have to give me 30 thousand yuan. When you didn't come, my house was rented out every month 1000. After you come, you can't rent it. You've been here for three and a half years, and I'm only counting three years with you. You must give me 40 thousand yuan. "

He said:

"1 10,000 yuan can be returned to you, and 30,000 yuan will not be given."

Then I left and went back to my daughter's house.

I wanted my money back, so I went to the police, the street, the property and help. They all said:

"You can ask for it yourself, but we can't help you because you are not protected by law."

One afternoon more than a week later, I was watching TV in the living room when someone kicked the door. When I opened the door, he came back. In fact, he didn't intend to leave at all. Her daughter didn't come to pick him up that day, and all her clothes were still there.

I didn't good the spirit say he:

"What are you still doing here? Don't call first if you want to come. Can't you knock on the door with your hand? Is it quality to kick the door with your feet? "

Up to now, he has not been driven away. He plays cards during the day and we each sleep in a room at night.

I only give 500 yuan a month now, and the rest of his salary is rent and my money.

I don't know what to do now. I wrote a letter to my daughter asking for her advice. It's been in my pocket for over a week, but I'm still embarrassed to show it to my daughter.

Looking for a companion when I am old, I originally wanted to take care of each other and spend my old age happily, but now I am not happy at all and I don't know what to do. Who can help me relieve my troubles?

Changsha, July 24, 2020