When you are old and don't have much money, you'd better walk less with your relatives.

As the old saying goes, "Poor people never leave their relatives, thin people never leave their soldiers."

Probably, in any era, interpersonal communication is about strength, not human feelings.

When people are old, they gradually withdraw from the bustling world and live a leisurely life. Even the elderly who can't retire all their lives will find ways to make their lives easier because of physical exhaustion.

There is plenty of time, but you have to see yourself clearly. If you don't have much money in your pocket, you'd better visit fewer relatives.

02

When people are poor, it will be annoying to give gifts to relatives.

Twenty years ago, my mother had the cheek to go to the city to inquire about the situation because of my further education.

My mother went to my cousin's house. She works in the education industry and took me to meet her.

We inquired all the way and stopped at the door of a unit building. Mother was at a loss because the unit building was locked by the iron gate and no one answered the door.

After a long time, someone came out of the unit building, and we were like rescued stars.

My mother pulled me and told me to call me "auntie".

"This is our own radish, and the fish caught in the river ..." When my mother took out the gift, my sister's face immediately became gloomy.

Although my mother took great pains to prepare these gifts, they are insignificant to the rich.

Aunt said that someone sent a basket of fresh fish larvae last month, and they all went into the trash can because they didn't have time to deal with it. The implication is to remind my mother to be interesting and not to toss about things she can't get rid of.

Relatives are walking around each other, how dare they return empty-handed? However, you are poor. What can you give your relatives?

Things that are too low-end will also be rejected when they are taken out. Perhaps, as soon as you left, others left your gift behind.

At dinner, the rich push a cup for a change, while the poor can only eat and drink silently, without even giving them a chance to look up.

Affection cannot be measured by money, but it is mixed with money.

03

If a person is poor, going to a relative's house will be considered as "asking for something from others".

There is an old saying: "Nothing goes to the Three Treasures Hall."

When you were young, you seldom went to relatives' homes to make a living. When I am old, I often visit my relatives, but I will be wary. Everyone thinks that you will let them do things in the future.

Especially for those elderly people whose children work in other places, when he visits the younger generation's home, the younger generation will think like this-have they accepted the benefits of the elderly now, and do they need everyone to take care of them if they can't walk any further?

It is not without the phenomenon that the elderly shirk the task of providing for the aged to "nephews and nephews".

If the old man has more money and a big house, it is also a kind of filial piety for the younger generation to serve tea and water for the benefit. If the old man has nothing and still bothers the younger generation, it is "barking up the wrong tree", which is wrong from the beginning.

It is better to rely on yourself than to seek help from others. Relatives have their own families. When you are old, only your children have the obligation to provide for your old age. Other relatives, it is mutual duty to take care of you. It is their responsibility not to take care of you. Awkward.

04

If you are poor, you must be stingy and not spend money to reciprocate.

Under the traditional mode of thinking, relatives gave a gift of 100 yuan, and the next time relatives hold a wedding, you have to send it back. If you only give fifty dollars, you will be regarded as a joke.

Many relatives, when doing weddings, funerals and weddings, will take a special notebook to register the gifts given by the guests one by one. This is done in order to pay off in the future.

When people are old and don't have much money, you will be poorer if you join in the fun. You think it's a "loss" to get gifts from others. Besides, you owe a debt of gratitude.

Learn to be stingy, keep money in your pocket, and buy rice and vegetables, which is the most practical. Cooking porridge at home is also more fragrant than the big fish of relatives.

05

If you are poor, you must have backbone and put your time and energy into making money.

Some old people think that they are elders and should be respected everywhere. In fact, the poor are dwarfs everywhere they go.

Grandma Liu in a dream of red mansions, when she first entered Jia's house, everyone looked at her with a "teasing" mentality and made a fool of herself. Look down on this poor relative from the bottom of my heart.

For the sake of her family, Grandma Liu had to climb this relative again, hoping to win something for her family through her own grievances.

In the fortieth episode, Wang Xifeng deliberately put a plate of chrysanthemums on Granny Liu's head, and everyone laughed at her dressing up as an old demon. Such a scene is really sad.

You know, rich people don't mean noble people.

When people are old, if they can still walk, they can find ways to change the status quo. For example, people in their sixties can be nannies for others, serve dishes and wash dishes in some small restaurants and sweep the floor in the community.

Spend the time and energy of visiting relatives on making money, and you will live more confidently.

06

Concluding remarks.

The rich have distant relatives in the mountains, and the poor are neglected in the downtown area.

Even if your rich relatives come to see you, you should learn to pay attention to what you say. Don't treat their "poor" eyes as love and respect.

Of course, those who pity you mean no harm. Those who treat you as a joke are really hateful.

Men, live with dignity. It is your own skill to have more money and less money. How can you feel inferior if you don't steal or rob yourself?

In my hometown, there is a saying: "within three years, the official arrived, and within three days, the dog was on the stove." In other words, an occasional visit to a relative's house will be regarded as a big official and a good omen for the distinguished guests to meet the door; If you want to meet at both ends every three days, it is a sign of "chicken flying dog jumping"

How to reduce the chances of walking around each other? Grasp this principle: if you don't want to be disturbed by your relatives, then you should take the initiative to "ground the gas" and don't disturb your relatives.

Here, I also advise that relatives should learn to take care of each other instead of comparing with each other. Only with the concerted efforts of Qi, Xin and Qi Xin can the extended family become more and more prosperous.

Author: coarse grains in cloth.

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