Feifei’s reading notes 08: "Take your time, everything will come in time"

1. At first, we are always afraid, afraid that we will not get the material life we ??desire, afraid that we will not meet the person who loves us well, afraid that we will not be able to gain career progress even if we lose our youth, afraid that I will make a decision that I regret, and I am also afraid of losing the essence and simplicity of my heart, and I will often regret some of the things I have done. But along the way, we walked like this, stepping on our own fears and regrets. Gradually, we learned, grew, and enriched little by little in the fear, and became stronger and stronger. We were relieved of the decision we made at the beginning, and finally welcomed another kind of fearlessness. future self.

2. If you really haven’t discovered anything about yourself, then please don’t miss any opportunity to try. You can accept various challenges and try to do various things. Don’t take yourself too seriously. , throw away that false self-esteem, don’t be afraid of making a fool of yourself, don’t be afraid of failure, you should even allow yourself to fail often, give you the experience of facing failure, and give yourself the courage to start over again, all you have to do is try actively until you find yourself Find the true love in your heart and find the dream that you are willing to work hard for.

3. Some people say, "You only have one life, so you need to live with a true temperament." True temperament means that you should not suppress your own needs, but you should listen to your inner voice and live the life you want. Does your life require others to say "yes" to you before you feel good about it? Does your sense of security come from conforming to the standards set by social conventions? Is your happiness based on others looking at your life with envy and jealousy? A truly strong person is one who can transform into a master who is only responsible for his own voice in the journey of life.

4. True security does not come from external material gifts, but from inner peace and abundance, from self-confidence and determination in life. However, to obtain these requires the slow accumulation of life experience, you need to endure the hardships of life, experience many things, meet many people, and have your own cultivation and understanding, so that you can be calm and dilute, without worry or fear.

5. Because of experience, I understand. What should be done and what path to take should be explored and tested step by step according to the inner voice. If you fall down, get up; if you hit your head and get bleeding, go back; if you get sidetracked, go back; if you go too fast, go slower; if you get lost, stop and think about it before continuing. All you have to do is not to set limits on your life, listen to your inner voice, follow your inner wishes, take your time, and everything will come in time.

6. In reality, some people just talk about the things they like and their dreams, without taking any action. At this time, I often doubt whether they really like what they say they like, or if they are just following what others say. A truly actionable person does not need others to tell him what to do, because he is already doing it. Even if he encounters a problem, he will solve it by himself, or take the initiative to find someone who can help him, instead of waiting for others. Solve the problem for yourself.

7. Many people say that reality constrains them. In fact, in this world, we always have many choices, and the decision-making power of life is always in our own hands. It is just that we lack action. .

8. Planning is important, but the most important thing is action. It is easy to make plans, but it is difficult to implement plans, so only a few activists who implement plans can succeed. They surpass most people and stand out from mediocrity.

9. The advantages of splitting the target: 1. It makes the big target that originally seemed scary become easier to approach and more realistic. When you believe in your heart that this goal can be achieved, you will not give up your action because of fear of failure. There are many reasons why a person procrastinates doing something. One of them is to set the goal too high and fear that he will not be able to achieve it. In fact, it is the fear of failure. Refinement of goals can reduce or avoid procrastination due to fear of failure. 2. Refinement of goals can also enhance confidence. When you feel that your goals are achievable and easy to succeed, you will be more confident. It goes without saying that confidence plays a big role in getting things done.

10. Find multiple purposes for one thing.

When you complete several things at the same time, or when doing one thing has many benefits, you will have a sense of satisfaction of "earning money" and a sense of comfort of "being an efficient expert". This does not conflict with concentrating on doing one thing. This is a positive way of thinking that helps people overcome difficulties.

11. Being alone allows me to truly understand what a person’s life is like; it also allows me to see my own needs and understand my own contradictions. It also provides an opportunity to look directly at oneself, talk to oneself, collide, shake hands and have fun. I feel that now is the best time for me. Although I cannot be completely "Tingting, neither worried nor afraid", I can achieve inner peace and rarely be afraid. Dugu wants to take advantage of the good times. Take advantage of the good times, enjoy the moonrise and sunset independently, and face the ups and downs of life alone. Loneliness is an important companion in life. People who learn to be alone and enjoy being alone may live the most freely. I feel more and more that a person's life is ultimately a process of getting along with oneself and struggling with oneself. One has to get along with one's myriad emotions, struggle with one's own desires, and constantly struggle with one's own weakness, laziness, and inferiority. Love, hate, greed, anger, ignorance, and pride are all yours alone.

12. Being entangled in emotions and indecision is the biggest waste of time. When we do something, we can act as long as the necessary conditions are met. We don't have to wait until the necessary and sufficient conditions are met. First, it is difficult to meet all the conditions. Second, even if we wait until the conditions are met, we often miss the best opportunity.

13. A person’s understanding of failure determines his courage to act. Whether in work or love, if a person can only see failure from failure and cannot gain any experience or lessons, Without any positive revelation, I think he will continue to fail. No, maybe he will only fail once and will not even have the courage to try a second time.

14. Incomplete guide to counterattack: 1. Do it seriously. 2. Don’t be afraid of failure and try more. 3. Read more books and think more. 4. Create your own talent profile and dream list. 5. Get support from those you love.

15. Starting a plan will make people feel happy and feel that their life has changed since then. Everything is full of strength and hope, renewed and exciting, but executing and implementing the plan is painful. As a result, many people cannot persist and give up their previous plans, but choose another start and continue to enjoy the happiness of the first few days. Some people even enter a vicious cycle of endless starts.

16. What if you reject the temptation of thousands of starts and stick to one completion? 1. Cooling treatment. 2. From childhood to adulthood. 3. Reward small progress in a timely manner. 4. Tell others your plans. 5. Every day imagine the good things that will happen when you complete them. 6. Record goal progress.

17. Inspiration from the movie "Love": 1. Accept what you can't change and change what you can change. 2. Don’t underestimate today’s value. 3. If you want to reach tomorrow, you must start today.

18. There is no life without pain. Life is full of hardships. Life is a process of constantly facing and overcoming pain. You must be sincerely convinced of this fact and do not try to deny or escape, because this It does nothing to resolve the pain. In the face of pain, you can cry, but don't run away; you can complain, but take action; you can be vulnerable, but please persevere passionately.

19. Don’t be short-sighted about your own pain. Every pain you experience is a mysterious gift given to you by God. I hope you can learn, accumulate and gain from every pain you suffer. growing up. If the pain you experience is just pain and you cannot convert the pain into the nutrients of life and instill the flower of strength in your heart, then you may be painful and fragile all your life, unable to be strong, and unable to find your own sense of existence.

20. Enduring pain and suffering is an unavoidable part of our lives. The older we grow, the more we see the humbleness and difficulty of human beings, and the more we see the various sufferings and abyss in life. How to make life less burdensome? Be an optimistic person yourself and find an optimistic person to accompany you.

21. Life has no meaning, meaning is just created by ourselves to fight against nothingness; life is not absurd, what is absurd is our attitude towards it. Life is there and death is there. They all exist forever, and only every day of our lives truly belongs to us, so we should live in the present, cherish ourselves, and respect life.

22. We need to stop complaining. Complaining will distract you, consume your energy, undermine your confidence, and destroy your actions. Complaining can also limit our thinking and prevent us from working effectively. Because when we complain, we focus on what we don’t want, and all we talk about are negative and wrong things, and whatever we focus on, that thing will expand. The words we complain about will affect our thinking, thereby affecting our thoughts and attitudes, thus bringing a negative impact on our lives. Complaining can also affect our relationships. Just think about it, who wants to work with someone who complains all day long?

23. Everyone’s ending is the same, they are all going to die, but fortunately we still have a process, and we can still enjoy many beautiful things in the process. Love is the glimmer of light in this journey of life. Although it is not much, it is not little. This little bit of light, a little bit of heat, a little bit of tenderness and warmth support us to continue walking on this lonely and tiring road of life and persist until the end.

24. Change is the constant thing in life. Everything in the world is undergoing subtle or drastic changes every moment. In the past, a lot of pain and suffering in life came from my own unwillingness to accept the situation and my stubbornness. If you use a lot of energy to resist this change, you won't have energy to do other more important things. Perseverance in the face of something that has been lost will only consume one's own energy, and the gain will not be worth the loss.

25. "Do dedicated things at the right time" This is an attitude of investing in life, which will allow you to experience the energy and enthusiasm of life. Only when a person devotes himself to life can he embrace the happiness and joy in life; only when a person devotes himself to life can your life retain its passion and tension.

26. Ways to solve procrastination: 1. Cultivate a strong heart to face pain. 2. Take action immediately. 3. Delay gratification. 4. Provide timely self-reward and motivation. 5. Take the initiative to cut off temptations. 6. Pretend you don’t have procrastination and imagine success. 7. Learn self-discipline and learn to devote yourself fully.

27. Tips on sleeping aids for obsessive-compulsive disorder: 1. Don’t label yourself hastily. 2. Correct misconceptions about sleep. 3. Take the initiative and face it positively. 4. Create a comfortable sleeping environment for yourself. 5. Manage your time during the day. 6. Exercise appropriately every day. 7. Stay away from the Internet and cherish your sleep. 8. Live a fulfilling life. 9. Learn self-discipline and strengthen your own sleep management. 10. Reduce desires and live a simple life.

28. What is the use of this? This is a question that many people have grown up with. The older they get, the more often they are asked: What's the use? This causes them to grow up to be like this when they grow up. "What's the use of this?" is a utilitarian attitude, and the criterion for judging whether it is useful is whether it can bring real benefits and benefits. This judgment standard forms a fixed thinking pattern and is embedded in each of their brains, so they become very utilitarian in all aspects of life.

29. If something doesn’t work, don’t try it? 1. No matter what method you use, if you don’t try it, how will you know if it works? Practice is the only criterion for testing truth. 2. This kind of utilitarian attitude towards life causes you to lose a lot of fun in life. You are unable to get happiness from simple things, and you are unable to expand the breadth of your life. 3. This eagerness for quick success also makes you become more and more lazy and unwilling to spend a long time doing something. 4. Because you don’t like practice and rely too much on others to tell you whether this is useful or that is useful, you will lack the ability to think independently and judge.

30. You have a choice at every moment in your life. You are the helmsman of the ship of your life. You can set off at any time, turn around at any time, return to port at any time, and be extreme at any time. Everything is up to your own choice. . It’s not that we don’t have a choice, but we can choose every moment, but we are unwilling to choose and use the lack of choice as an excuse for not choosing. Everyone is afraid of making choices, because choosing means another kind of giving up. They like to use the victim role of "having no choice" to package themselves, because once they make a choice, they must be responsible for the choice. In order to avoid responsibility, one would rather get used to suffering and being trapped safely than make risky choices.

31. What is the meaning of sharing? 1. Sharing can gain friendship, happiness, and respect. 2. Sharing is to improve and perfect yourself. 3. Only a full and secure heart can be more capable of giving and sharing.

32. "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you" can be applied to all interpersonal relationships, from lovers to relationships with strangers, this rule should be followed.

33. Woman, you either reduce your material desires, or you work hard to make more money, make yourself independent, satisfy your material desires, and use the money you earn to treat yourself to high-end restaurants. Eat, take yourself to travel overseas, and give yourself the life you want, so that you won't be fascinated by a LV bag given by a man and forget what the love you want looks like.

34. Excessive sacrifice is a major killer in marriage and love relationships. Many women mistakenly believe that by giving more of themselves, they can get more love from each other. In fact, the more women love themselves, the more they will have a partner who loves them more and a happier marriage.

35. In modern society, there are still some women who place all their hopes in life on their children and partners, thinking that their success means their own success. In fact, this is a naive illusion. Everyone is an independent individual. Your partner and children cannot create value on your own behalf. A person's search and establishment of self-worth and exploration of life must be completed by himself.

36. Happiness is a kind of ability. Real happiness does not come from external gifts, but from the nourishment deep within oneself.

37. To love yourself, you must do the following: 1. Take care of your body. 2. Learn to accept yourself and praise yourself. 3. Stop blaming yourself. 4. Independence. 5. Respect yourself and learn to listen to your inner voice.

38. This society is so snobbish and unfair. Unfairness exists everywhere. The world is inherently unfair, but you can still change some things and make yourself better with your own efforts. Be perfect, and in the process of striving for self-improvement you will get more than you want.