Why is it a good thing to be confused in graduation season?

Suddenly, we found ourselves in an unprecedented state of uncertainty, and we began to realize that there is a huge difference, even a gap, between ourselves in imagination and ourselves in reality.

Graduation is unemployment and loss of confidence

A junior chatted with me on WeChat for half a night the day before yesterday, and the tattoo on my head almost came out.

The reason is that she sent a selfie in a circle of friends with the text: "I am in the middle of my senior year and will graduate soon. I'm so confused ~ "

In "What color is lipstick?" In a pile of messages, "What a beautiful girl" and "My skin is getting better and better", because my message is unique and profound. She put on a mask in the middle of the night and said after reading it, she wanted to cut me with a knife in minutes-

"Lost? Congratulations! "

After more than three hours of in-depth communication, we finally reached a perfect consensus that graduation season is a season of confusion, and for graduates, confusion is definitely a good thing!

Why is confusion a good thing?

Growing up, parents and teachers kept telling us to study hard, not to be greedy and get into a good university. When we went to college, our parents and teachers kept telling us to study hard, not to fail, and to get a diploma. The road is clear, the goal is clear and the method is feasible.

However, graduation has completely broken this certainty in the past, and all the rules of the game in the past seem to be inapplicable. Your grades don't necessarily determine your grades, and your major doesn't necessarily determine your work. Suddenly, we entered an unprecedented state of uncertainty, and we began to realize that there is a huge difference, even a gap, between ourselves in imagination and ourselves in reality. Nervousness, confusion and hesitation began to strike, and we were uneasy and afraid, afraid of wasting time and taking detours. In the future, people will be left behind by their peers. People will achieve nothing in middle age and become losers if they are not careful!

To some extent, graduation season is the first major mental crisis in our lives, which makes you have to start thinking about yourself, ideals and reality, work, love and life like an adult. The psychological role of adults begins with graduation.

In the past two days, I interviewed 20 colleagues who have graduated for 3-5 years and wrote down some thoughts and experiences after they successfully passed the confused period of graduation season.

If you are a student who is about to graduate or is in a confused period, look at the following experiences and suggestions, which may help you to get through the confused period of graduation season smoothly and let you take fewer detours in the future. After all, these experiences are all their experiences gained through countless falls and bloody roads.

Combine advantages and disadvantages, and define passion.

"How do you know if your choice is correct?"

One of the most impressive answers is, "Even if you fail, you won't regret it. This is the right choice. "

Then, at this critical point in life, how can we make the right choice and ensure that we will not regret it in the next three to five years or even our whole life? The answer is to identify your inner love and judge according to your own advantages and disadvantages.

M was one of the students who found jobs fastest in our class that year. Strange to say, we are studying the economy that has nothing to do with education, and all the students around us are rushing to investment banks and financial institutions. M is a clean stream in our department, reading The Economist and listening to The Big Bang Theory every day. Just when we thought she was going to take the academic geek route, she went to a key high school and became an English teacher. M said that he knew that he was not a financial material, and what statements and valuations sounded like big heads, so he never considered professional-related work after graduation-"I have been wrong for four years, and I don't want to make any more mistakes."

When I graduate, at least five out of every ten people can hear "I don't like this major" and "I'm confused!" So, we didn't take her words seriously at that time. But most people just talk, after all, because they only know what they don't want, but they don't know what they want. M is not most people. On the way to find a job, she has a simple and efficient logic-turning love into work. If she has no love, she will settle for the second best and turn what she is good at into a job.

To tell the truth, m was forced at first, and didn't know what he was suitable for. Anyway, she doesn't like finance, so try something else. She worked as an intern in human resources, planning, business and administration, but in the present words, she never felt particularly' hot'. Since I haven't found anything I like, let's start with what I'm good at. M thinks so.

So I got two little red flowers from the kindergarten handicraft class, and I got the LOL record of 2 1 1 Super God 0 death within one month. After thinking hard for several days, M finally thought of an advantage that can be combined with work, and that is English. I once worked as an English tutor in a university for one year. At that time, not only the parents' feedback was good, but M's sense of accomplishment was also bursting, because the student of M improved his English by forty or fifty points in three months. Only then did M realize that he had a gift for giving lectures besides exams. With the constant thanks and praise from parents, M's self-confidence and sense of accomplishment have grown up.

Some people are good at it because they love it, while others love it because they are good at it. For work, the two complement each other and are indispensable. Two years later, M and his friends went out to start a business and set up a small English training company, which was very successful and enviable.

gather information

In addition to not finding the direction, there is also a kind of confusion of "losing my mind" and "myasthenia gravis", that is, although I have a clear direction, I always feel that I have nowhere to work and I have no way to start, just like a thirsty myasthenia gravis patient who obviously wants to take away the mineral water on the table, but has no strength at all.

Two years ago, the product manager was particularly angry. A schoolmate who was determined to join the internet wave came to tell me that he had submitted a lot of resumes, but they were brushed off in the written test stage.

"You said, I am as good as others, but this is not the loss of my training. I don't know how to answer those competing analysis questions. "

I lost control and my eyes rolled on the spot. Many people always attribute their failures, especially those in job hunting, to gender discrimination, improper majors and poor schools? This phenomenon may exist in some traditional industries, but in the internet industry, it is definitely not the main factor for you to be brushed off! People who have worked for one or two years have this feeling. Society is a place where resources and abilities are the main focus, not academic qualifications and majors.

We have met too many great people in the workplace. They may come from the grass-roots level or even have no college degree at all. We have also seen too many people who used to be all-powerful in school, but after leaving society, they became ordinary people and never made a sound again. Many people think that relying on teachers to draw key points and stay up late to review before school exams shows that they have the ability to learn; Knowing some people from different clubs and majors at school shows that you have good communication skills; However, once in a while, after falling out of love, quarreling and being rejected in an interview, you can still remain optimistic, which shows that you have a good ability to withstand pressure.

It can be said that at least 80% students don't understand the meaning of the word "ability" in society and workplace. To understand the meaning of ability, we must first establish a sense of "resources". However, 99% students have no awareness of "resources".

What are resources? Some people say that beauty is a resource, some people say that wealth is a resource, and some people say that contacts are resources, but abstractly, you will find that the so-called resources are actually information. Information that can help you make judgments, make choices and even provide solutions to problems is all the resources we have.

What is ability? The ability to flexibly use the resources at hand to achieve the set goals is the ability.

Whether taking postgraduate entrance examination, going abroad or looking for a job, as a fresh graduate on campus, facing this brand-new field, it is inevitable to fall into an information black hole. The lack of information and experience makes it impossible for you to know the real situation of school recruitment and make judgments and decisions. As a result, the feeling of powerlessness and confusion will follow, just like walking on a strange road on a foggy day with visibility of 50 meters, you can't know whether there are several traffic lights ahead, whether a car is coming, whether to stop or turn.

Many people, like my junior who applied for a product manager, can't really understand their own problems because of the lack of information resources, so they can only unilaterally and subjectively attribute the problems to external problems such as "professional mismatch", "poor school" and "great competitive pressure". I just want to say, "Stop making excuses! You haven't even collected the most basic information, let alone the written interview! "

If my junior has a deep understanding of the product manager in advance and collected a lot of relevant information, he will certainly know that there is no professional counterpart for the position of product manager. In fact, in the entire Internet industry, professional mismatch is a common phenomenon. The analysis of competing products in the written test of product manager is not a very profound problem. As long as you prepare for practice in advance and look at the experience of relevant forums and predecessors, most people have no big problems. I've met Otawa's computer-related majors, such as psychology, sociology, Chinese and accounting? They all do well in the position of product manager. It can be seen that major is not the decisive factor.

The reality of life is that it will never just set a level for you. You have a direction, and you have to have a GPS to get to your destination accurately. Information is the global positioning system of our times. A student who has no ability to collect information is definitely an unqualified graduate.

Learn to borrow money

There is also an ability as important as collecting screening information, called borrowing.

There is a story about a little boy moving stones in the yard, but the stones are too heavy. No matter how hard the child tried, he couldn't move them in the end. The little boy told his father that he had tried his best, but his father disagreed. Because in this process, his father has been standing by, and the boy has not asked his father for help. A person's time, energy and ability are always limited. To maximize the utilization of information, we need to learn to leverage and rely entirely on our own efforts to achieve success, which is often much more difficult. And learn to integrate the information resources around you and learn to leverage, which will achieve unexpected results.

Many times, borrowing can help us save time and effort.

There is a boy in the university who studies science and engineering. He has long hair, is handsome and full of literary germs. He is either talking about Schopenhauer or Plato. In his junior year, he suddenly announced that he would devote himself to art and prepare for the postgraduate entrance examination of the director department of Beijing Film. Although we had a black question mark and a little helpless smile with the teacher, he began to prepare for the exam of Beiying seriously. Different from other people who just watch the news silently and look up information on the Internet, he went directly to the second interview site of Beiying in his junior year and met many graduate students and prospective graduate students in the director department of Beiying. From them, I got the first-hand information of written test and interview, as well as the experience and methods of many experienced people. Finally, he was successfully admitted to Beiying and became a legend in the school.

Sometimes, borrowing can help us get to a place we can't.

When you go for an interview, the interviewer will ask you a lot of questions, but similarly, you can learn a lot of information from him that you can't find yourself, such as the specific job content of the position you are applying for, the relationship between your department and other departments, what kind of person is your direct leader, and what is your salary and welfare level?

People who can borrow money are more promising, because they are not only good at seizing opportunities, but also know how to create them.

My former leader once met such a student who graduated from Beiqing, had a clear plan for the future and wanted to work in a top investment institution in China. Although she is excellent, such institutions are highly competitive. In addition to the students from Beiqing, a large number of graduates from top foreign universities crowded in. As far as her own conditions are concerned, she has no background and connections, and the hope is actually not great. In her sophomore year, she was introduced to my former leader by her classmates, a marketing director with a certain network foundation in the Internet industry. At that time, the leader only met her once, and the company didn't need an intern, but she volunteered to "help" for free. After practicing for about two months, she came into contact with many investment institutions through the company's platform and activities, so she took the initiative to find a leader to introduce her and met the person in charge of an investment institution. Because of her strong personal ability, the leaders are willing to recommend her. Later, after graduation, she successfully entered the investment institution.

Many seemingly coincidental opportunities in life are often the result of borrowing power. Borrowing is not only a kind of ability, but also a kind of courage and wisdom.

The so-called gentleman's nature is the same, and the goodness lies in personal leave. You will only do your best, and you may get twice the result with half the effort, but learning leverage can make you get twice the result with half the effort!

We all think that graduation is the end and farewell. As everyone knows, graduation is just the beginning of another learning journey, which is more cruel and realistic than the college entrance examination. This journey is called work and life.

When the bachelor hat is thrown into the sky, everyone will meet this unknown 22-year-old. When we graduate, we leave the ivory tower, we work, and we become professionals. We have gone from ambition to stubbornness, from ambition to chicken feathers. But you have to believe that once you get through these years, once you adapt to the new learning rules, once you refine your learning methods, everything will be fine.

You must believe that we have all been confused and helpless, and we will be invincible in the end!