No one loves girls who are too independent? Stop being stupid

I read an outrageous article yesterday called "You are so independent, no wonder no one loves you." It was posted by a large account, with over 100,000 clicks and 3,40 likes. After seeing this, I just wanted to wave my hands and shout, girls, wait a minute, this bowl of chicken soup is poisonous!

There is a sentence in the article, "Most girls have been single for a long time and don't know how to love." It also gave specific examples:

If you are hungry, you don't know how to buy things. Go home and cook it yourself;

If you get lost, you won’t act cute, so you’ll just take out your phone and look at the map;

If you like it, you won’t take the initiative, so you’ll just wait and make up for it;

If you like it, you won’t tell others, so you will just work hard to earn money to buy it for yourself;

To exaggerate, if you buy a bag of rice, you will feel like you can carry it home.

I really don’t think this is called “particularly independent”. This is a very common behavior for an adult who can take care of himself. This should be the case for both men and women:

Hungry If you don't buy anything, go home and cook it yourself, how can you call the snail girl?

If you don’t take out your phone to check the map when you get lost, should you call 110 and ask them to take you home? Is the policeman busy enough to come over?

If you don’t work hard to earn money to buy something you like, how can you tell Santa Claus? Or wait for a rich, handsome guy to come down from the sky and shout to you: Swipe my card! !

What the other party seems to be unable to understand the most is that a girl buys a bag of rice and carries it home. Indeed, it sounds "so powerful".

If you have the strength to carry it home, you should be praised for your physical fitness. You can carry it but pretend that you can’t carry it, waiting for Song Joong-ki Oppa to carry it home?

This article makes me feel full of discrimination, as if independent and self-reliant girls are the third kind of creature. The most terrible thing is that this is not particularly independent. This is the case for most ordinary women. , is it good for daily life whether married or unmarried? (Carrying rice depends on the weight of the rice and the girl’s physical ability)

In my eyes, this article is a serious three-dimensional injustice. It advocates that women should dwarf themselves and make women consider themselves weak and wait for others to favor them. Waiting for someone to love you, this is the kind of argument that boys talk about and call him a straight man's cancer. The most depressing thing is that many women now think so.

Have you ever met a good girl who is independent and gentle, with both weaknesses and armor? Have you ever fallen in love with them? Is the value of a man only reflected in twisting bottle caps and bringing breakfast to girls? She twisted it and tied it herself, so you can't be the flower protector?

If a woman can twist the bottle cap and change the light bulb by herself, then this man will not be able to find his place at all and will not know how to love? Handsome guy, is it too narrow-minded that a man's value is only reflected in these aspects in a relationship?

Is love really about letting the other person do what you can do? For example, when we feed each other and there is a rice particle on our mouth, we are obviously very uncomfortable but we pretend not to know, and we have to ask the man to help wipe or kiss it clean? Otherwise, is it unlovable, unlovable or even too independent?

How can this be called "not independent"? This is obviously tying one's own hands and feet and pretending to be disabled. If a boy can only love in this way, then this boy is either too weak or he doesn't know how to love at all.

Let me ask you, how many girls in this world really can’t unscrew bottle caps or open car doors? Boys do this just to show their gentlemanly demeanor. Girls are used to doing these things by themselves, but she doesn’t give you the chance to be a gentleman? Obviously you have a narrow understanding of the connotation of a gentleman, right?

The article mentioned that a boy found an excuse for cheating on another girl: I'm sorry, you are too independent, so independent that I feel that you don't need me at all. You can live better without me, but She can't do it, she can't live without me, who will take care of her when she gets into trouble, who will comfort her when she cries, who will accompany her when she is sick...

Oh, you are too independent, I can't She cannot be your big tree by sheltering you from the wind and rain, and she is too weak, so I will be her hero. These words sound so familiar! It sounds reasonable.

If you don’t love, you don’t love. If you cheat, you cheat. Here, “you are too independent” and “you don’t eat garlic” and “you like cats” are completely interchangeable. Love comes in all forms. If you don't love her, it's all wrong. You can use any bullshit excuse to excuse yourself!

With this gentleman’s high opinion, he must find a woman who can’t live without him, and he found him, how lucky he is.

Let me ask, if this man betrays this woman who cannot live without him in the future, will this woman have to commit suicide? At that time, I'm afraid I will say again: You are too dependent on me, I'm sorry, I am almost suffocated by your binding.

Girl, you must remember that you can live without anyone, this is a must.

A while ago, everyone was fascinated by "Descendants of the Sun". The first and second female characters in it are Jiang Muyan and Lieutenant Yin. Aren't they independent? Isn't it cute? Independent women can still be coquettish and cute, show weakness when they should, and be strong when they should.

Especially Jiang Muyan, not only has an independent personality, but also has a strong heart. Although I felt aggrieved when I was not rated as a professor, after crying, I should work hard and live a good life; when I met the kind of Bichi who relied on connections to get rated, I did not hesitate to give him a strong rebuke; the most impressive scene, Nothing was better than when the Arab head of state's men pointed a gun at her nose and warned her whether the operation could be performed. She firmly said that it must be done, otherwise the person would die.

Then she resolutely chose to have surgery. Isn’t such a woman cute and unloved? Why did Captain Liu fall in love with her? Did you help her unscrew the bottle cap? Did you go to her house to kill cockroaches? She is strong, and he is stronger. He dared to help her block landmines. When her car drove to the edge of the cliff, he jumped into the water with her to escape.

Some people say that the best love must be equal and evenly matched. This is the most appropriate way to describe the relationship between Dr. Jiang and Captain Liu.

Saying that independent women are not cute only means that this boy is not worthy of such a girl. So, don’t be so vicious and say that “girls are too independent and not cute”, or admit that you can’t control it at all and are not worthy of it. Come on.

What they are looking for is a girl who is mentally lame. What he is looking for is not a lover, but a crutch to make up for his mental disability and satisfy his vanity and desire for protection. I dare say that he will meet her in real life. When it comes to stepping on landmines, this man will definitely lie down and hide behind him, so as not to protect the woman behind him. Because he is also very weak, so he wants to show his "protection".

I watched a youth drama called "Our Youth Has Nowhere to Place" many years ago. In it, Zhou Mengrou is weak and weak, which is like the rebirth of Miss Lin. She calls her boyfriend "little daddy" and she loves "little daddy". "Daddy", "little daddy" loved her, but in the end, "little daddy" still married an independent and strong girl who could travel all over the world with him.

Zhou Meng experienced a series of misfortunes such as the death of her doting and loving father, and being kicked out of the house by her brother and sister-in-law. Finally, she went to teach in a mountainous primary school alone, and finally became a strong woman. . In fact, I know many sisters Lin who “know nothing” before marriage, but after marriage they are forced to become all-around tomboys by the man who kept saying he wanted to “protect” her! !

Never believe that a woman is independent and unloved. If a woman says you are too independent, it means he is not worthy of you at all. He is not emotionally equal to you. If you leave such a man, just leave him. Not worthy of you.

Girl, please continue to be a woman with a strong heart and live a handsome life. I hope you have both armor and weaknesses. If you like to live alone, live alone. If you want to live with two people, be brave enough to love. , if someone says you are too independent, say bye bye loudly to him!!