There is a kind of hypocritical love from my grandparents, Ma Bao: I never want to spend a penny on my baby.

Recently, girlfriends and couples always quarrel, in fact, because children's grandmothers are too stingy. When the child was born, he didn't even get a red envelope. Now that the child is three years old, grandma hasn't bought anything for him. The point is that every time she comes to see the children, she says she will take them to buy clothes and toys next time, but she hasn't spent a penny on them yet.

Speaking of which, some people may think that his girlfriend is an ignorant wife, and it is normal for grandparents not to buy things for their grandchildren. Let children form a good habit of saving from childhood, saying that not buying things means not loving children, which is too exaggerated.

But when you think about it, many people agree that "if grandparents are never willing to spend money on their children, their love is hypocritical". The main reasons are as follows:

Use thrift as a shield not to spend money on children.

At present, this generation of grandparents were born in the fifties and sixties. The living conditions at that time were far worse than now. Every family has several children. Therefore, most grandparents live frugally, and it is incomprehensible for young people to spend hundreds of dollars on a pair of shoes. However, saving money as an excuse not to spend money on children is a bit excessive.

Now there will be no shortage of materials, and every household can fill their stomachs. Even if the family conditions are relatively average, they can afford it through reasonable consumption. If the living conditions are not so good, grandparents can buy less if they really love their children, but it is a bit unreasonable not to buy them once.

Spend all your money on yourself.

There are also some grandparents whose retirement wages are high enough for the old couple's daily expenses. They are generous to themselves, buying food and traveling every year. But I never want to spend a penny on my grandchildren.

To tell the truth, this actually shows that grandparents are selfish. In addition, there is a more common situation, that is, grandparents are eccentric, they may be generous to their favorite mistress, but they are stingy to other children.

Being willing to spend money for children means loving children.

If grandparents really love grandchildren, they won't just talk about it. If you really love children, you will take the initiative to buy things for them. If you always say you want to buy something for your child, but you don't spend a penny, you don't really love your child.

Every old man's income level is different, so there is no need for him to buy good things for his children, as long as he has the heart. Grandmothers who really love their children have these obvious characteristics.

1, has been quietly paying, not taking the initiative to take credit.

I once heard a female friend say that grandma is different from grandma. My son has always been a grandmother, but he never takes the initiative to take credit in front of his children. The most common words are: mom is very hard, the baby should be good, don't let mom worry about you at work, and sleep well.

However, during the time when grandma took care of you, what she said most was: Do you like grandma or not? You can't be heartless. It is difficult for grandma to take care of you. You should be kind to grandma when you grow up. ...

In fact, parents who really love their children must pay silently, not for credit or hard work.

2, delicious, fun always want to leave it to children.

Living conditions are getting better and better now, but the old people are still short of materials. Therefore, the old people who really love their children are willing to keep some delicious and interesting things for their children and do their best to give them what they think is best, even if the children can come back to visit once in a long time.

Step 3 teach children knowledge

As the saying goes, "there are old people in the family, such as treasures", and the old people who have experienced vicissitudes always have their own unique opinions.

Don't say "old people are a stumbling block on the way to educate children". Wang Hengyi, a prodigy at the China Poetry Conference, was "brought up by grandma".

In the life of a prodigy, grandma is far more important than mom and dad. When she opened the door, Xiao Ni asked, Xiao Yi, what is your dream?

Wang Hengyi seriously replied: Buy a massage chair for grandma, grandma is too hard.

What about you? Are grandparents willing to spend money for their children?