What gifts should I prepare when I go to my mother-in-law’s house for the first time?

According to our customs here in Chongqing, when a boy goes to his mother-in-law’s house for the first time, he must prepare three gifts, two boxes of candy, two bottles of wine, and two cigarettes.

The meaning of two boxes of candies is that they are sweet and sweet in pairs. The meaning of two cigarettes is prosperous, because when you smoke, don’t you have to light the cigarette? When it's lit, it's booming. Two bottles of wine means hope, long and lasting.

Take me for example, I remember the first time I went to my mother-in-law’s house. According to the custom here in Chongqing, I bought two boxes of gift-packed candies, each box cost more than 200 yuan. , a total of two boxes of candy cost 400 yuan. Two fireworks cost the most, and I spent 1,000 on both. Of course, there are cheap cigarettes, but I feel that I can’t get rid of the cheap cigarettes because it will damage my face. Secondly, it shows that I don’t respect the woman enough, so these gifts are better. Yes, more expensive. Two bottles of wine cost more than 2,000 yuan. Because of the customs here in Chongqing, boys must send candy, cigarettes, and wine to their mother-in-law's house. This is a custom.

?Of course, in addition to sending sugar, cigarettes, and wine, usually the man also has to see if there is any other purpose for going to the mother-in-law’s house. If he is proposing marriage, he also needs to send money as a bride price, etc. This is another thing. If you are not going to propose marriage, but just walking around for the first time, then you don’t need to give any gift money, just bring sugar, cigarettes, and wine. You can also buy some fruits, dragon fruit, apples, etc., which means Beautiful, safe and prosperous, you can decide by yourself and choose gifts according to your own financial strength.

Moreover, there are some customs here in Chongqing, that is, when a son-in-law goes to his mother-in-law’s house, he cannot refill the meal himself. In other words, after eating the first bowl of rice, he cannot take the bowl by himself. Scooping the rice is a must. People from your mother-in-law's family or your wife can help you scoop the rice.

What gifts and taboos should a son-in-law prepare when he goes to his mother-in-law’s house for the first time?

1. Must-have gifts

Two boxes of gift-packed candies mean sweetness. In pairs.

Two lines of smoke mean prosperity, two nights and two flights.

Two bottles of wine mean longevity, and two by two make a pair.

2. Dress

The clothes must be bright, do not wear white, and do not wear fancy clothes.

3. Guidelines for action in a good mother-in-law's home

After arriving at the mother-in-law's house, you should take the initiative to help her wash vegetables and cook. You must be diligent and don't talk too much. If you talk too much, you will make mistakes. Talking too much will make your mother-in-law think you are slippery and unreliable.

Four. Taboos that need attention

1. Speaking

Be cautious when speaking in front of your mother-in-law. Do not talk about death, separation, separation, or other inappropriate things. If it is auspicious, be sure to compliment the mother-in-law more on her youth and beauty. If the father-in-law has no hair on her head, do not make sarcastic remarks such as "Mediterranean" or "hairless". If the mother-in-law has freckles, you cannot say implicitly sarcastic words such as pockmarked or sesame in front of her. Observation of words and expressions is very important.

2. Gifts

You cannot give umbrellas, shoes, watches, or other items with bad connotations as gifts.

The umbrella represents dispersion.

Shoes mean sending the other person away.

Sending a clock is homophonic to sending the end.

3. Behavior

At the mother-in-law’s house, there must be a sitting posture and a standing posture. You must not lie down, cross your legs, or put your feet on the table. Wait for uncivilized behavior.

The gifts you should prepare when you go to your mother-in-law's house for the first time include two boxes of candy, two cigarettes, and two bottles of wine. If you are going to propose marriage, you also need to prepare red envelopes for bride price.