Manage family relations

Nowadays, many people say that family ties are weak, except parents. Why is the relationship between relatives getting colder and colder? I thought about this question for several days and finally found the answer. Family ties should also be maintained.

When I was a child, I didn't talk about family. Neighborhood relations are better than family members. At that time, on holidays, whoever cooked delicious food generously served a bowl to the neighborhood. When a husband and wife quarrel or beat their children, neighbors will definitely come and stop them, so that the two sides will never quarrel again, so the divorce rate was particularly low at that time.

Moreover, relatives at home will also visit from other places or stay for a few days. I remember that my uncle from the countryside often came to my house, and he was familiar with my family, coming three or four times a month. Neighbors always entertain their uncles with fruit bowls. At that time, my relatives didn't know how good the relationship was, which made me envy myself now. And these harmonious scenes will never come back, it can only exist in dreams. Every time I dream that my family is happy, I laugh out loud, and then my husband wakes me up and joked, "You won 5 million, and you can still laugh out loud."

"Well, you don't understand." I'm a little annoyed that he interrupts my dreams every time.

And this kind of relative contact should stop the shock after 2000. With the arrival of the tide of working, uncles have also embarked on the road of working. And every time I go home, I won't come to my parents' house again. Occasionally, just a phone call, the friendship between brother and sister is getting weaker and weaker. Mother is also old and eager for affection. I talked with my mother on the phone for a long time that day, and also talked about interesting things about my brothers and sisters. She always asks me, "Why do they talk about everything, but they are isolated and have been helping their sister?" I know my mother's heart is stinging and I can't extricate myself.

I thought about it and said to my mother, "Because they live in the countryside, because their life circles are similar and their topics are the same, they are connected." And if you want to blend in with them, you have to kiss. "

It is true that the relationship between rural areas is very close. Today, my family caught some fish and took some. I'll make a cake tomorrow and return it to you. Family ties are also maintained by walking. My mother never liked this reciprocity. But she didn't want to be greedy and cheap, so that her relatives would forget and never see each other again.

My mother told me one thing. Once my mother was ill, my aunt came to visit her and gave her 100 yuan. Mother felt guilty and didn't know how to return the gift. It just happens to be an opportunity. A month later, my aunt was hospitalized. Mother came to the hospital with fruit and a box of milk and generously gave her 200 yuan. Aunt pushed it away, and it was too hard. She said, "I only accept 100."

How could my mother want to, or force my aunt 200? It is conceivable that my aunt was embarrassed at that time. Then every time I return a gift, my mother will add more money. Slowly, menstruation and his mother are not diligent.

I said to my mother, "This is the biggest mistake you have made. The movement between relatives has nothing to do with money, even if money comes and goes, it is also a kind of friendship. " You don't need to add money in return, so in the long run, they will feel that they have taken advantage and are afraid to go with you again. "

"Oh, I see. No wonder your aunt didn't tell me when she was in hospital. " Mother wakes up like a dream.

"You can rest assured! If you get rid of this habit, your relationship will get better and better. " I reminded my mother.

Since then, the relationship between mother and brother and sister has been as good as before? Similarly, mothers are as happy as children.

The maintenance of family ties is also a science. While running a marriage, we also need to spend time running a family relationship.